A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay leftist leaning liberal progressive fit married college-educated former Baha'i NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma from California to Minas Gerais, Brasil.
you realize the fundamental fact that reality is really in the moment,
you’re thinking about long-term goals—'when I do this' and 'when I
become that'—so you think, I don’t want to die, because then I won’t be able to do all these things. But if you’re living in the present, death becomes a part of living.
It is well beyond time that the lgbt community recognize and call out
this ridiculous Kim Davis drama for what it is - merely a sideshow to
cover up the fact that the overall case against marriage equality was
nothing more than a pitiful delusion. It was a sad pursuit run by people
who had more money and influence than common sense; more gall than
love; and more ways to get their message out, but absolutely no way to
make it more palpable or more flavorable than the bland, watery
indigestible stew of discrimination that it was.
In the early days
of the fight, marriage equality opponents were on an incredible streak
via their ability to get state after state to pass anti-marriage
equality laws. They, led mostly by the National Organization for
Marriage, were riding high in their glory. It didn't matter that their
talking points about "marriage uniting the two halves of humanity" was
basic balderdash repeated by one spokesperson (NOM president Brian
Brown) who spoke out of the side of his mouth in a monotone worthy of a
character from an Ed Wood movie. It didn't matter that their other
spokesperson (Maggie Gallagher) practically oozed false sincerity and
brazenly lied about her anti-gay animus even when confronted with
evidence of it.
And it certainly didn't matter that while they whined about falsely being labeled as bigots, they simultaneously ran ads and commercials implying that gays were attempting to corrupt children, even while entities such as Politifact and one of their own supporters called them out on it.
they were so blinded by their wins, they got just a little too
overconfident and weren't prepared when the argument shifted away from
public votes and into the courtrooms.
I consistently remain amazed
about how they were mortified when the courts stepped in. After all, it
was the next step. Isn't that how it's done in this country? Laws are
passed and if some feel that the laws are unjust, they challenge them
in our courts.
It was when gays challenged marriage equality laws
via the courts that the masks of false superiority came off and we began
to see the true faces of marriage equality foes. They made so many
crucial errors and missteps Allow me to address these errors and
missteps (and in doing so, I want to speak directly to Brown,
Gallagher, other leaders of the anti-marriage equality camp, and
possibly anyone else still upset at our victory):