Wednesday, December 14, 2022

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This Day in Gay History

December 14

Born
1902 -

FRANCES BAVIER (December 14, 1902 – December 6, 1989) was an American stage and television actress born on this date (d: 1989); Originally from New York theatre, Bavier worked in film and television from the 1950s until the 1970s. She is best known for her role of Aunt Bee on The Andy Griffith Show and Mayberry R.F.D. from 1960 to 1970. Aunt Bee logged more Mayberry years (ten) than any other character. She won an Emmy Award for Outstanding Supporting Comedy Actress for the role in 1967. Bavier was additionally known for playing Amy Morgan on It's a Great Life (1954-1956).

Bavier had roles in more than a dozen films, as well as playing a range of supporting roles on television. Career highlights include her turn as Mrs. Barley in the classic 1951 film The Day the Earth Stood Still. In 1955, she played the rough and tough "Aunt Maggie" Sawtelle, a frontier Ma Barker-type character, in the Lone Ranger episode "Sawtelle's Saga End". In 1957, she played Nora Martin, mother of Eve Arden's character on The Eve Arden Show, despite the fact that Arden was less than six years younger than Bavier. That same year, Bavier guest-starred in the eighth episode of Perry Mason as Louise Marlow in "The Case of the Crimson Kiss".

She was in the episode of Make Room for Daddy, which launched the characters of "Andy Taylor," with Andy Griffith and Ron Howard as "Opie Taylor." She played a character named Henrietta Perkins. The episode introduced The Andy Griffith Show, and Bavier was cast in the role of Aunt Bee. Bavier had a love-hate relationship with her famous role during the run of the show. As a New York City actress, she felt her dramatic talents were being overlooked, yet after playing Bee for eight seasons, she was the only original cast member to remain with the series in the spin-off, Mayberry R.F.D., for two additional seasons.

Bavier was easily offended on the set of The Andy Griffith Show and the production staff took a cautious approach when communicating with her. Series star Andy Griffith once admitted the two sometimes clashed during the series run. On a 2003 appearance on Larry King Live, Griffith said Bavier phoned him four months before she died and apologized for being "difficult" during the series run. Bavier confessed in an interview with Bill Ballard for Carolina Camera that "it is very difficult for an actress ... to create a role and to be so identified that you as a person no longer exist and all the recognition you get is for a part that is created on the screen."

While the character of "Aunt Bee" was thought of as “everyone’s aunt” by fans, off the set, Bavier was a far different personality than the woman that she portrayed on television. Her being a lesbian was an open secret to the Andy Griffith Show cast and crew, and in Hollywood gay circles. She dated some women but passed them off as “good friends”. In that era, an actor could never really be candid about their sexuality.

"Aunt Bee" might have been a gentle soul, a woman who was primarily focused on the kitchen, but in real life, the actor who played her was a fierce, driven career woman.

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Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Harsh Speech

 

RIGHT SPEECH
Refraining from Harsh Speech
Harsh speech is unhealthy. Refraining from harsh speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning harsh speech, one refrains from harsh speech. One speaks words that are gentle, pleasing to the ear, and affectionate, words that go to the heart, are courteous, and are agreeable to many. (DN 1) One practices thus: "Others may speak harshly, but I shall abstain from harsh speech." (MN 8)

A person may be extremely kind, extremely gentle, extremely peaceful, so long as disagreeable courses of speech do not touch them. But it is when disagreeable courses of speech touch them that it can be understood whether that person is really kind, gentle, and peaceful. (MN 21)
Reflection
Learning to speak words that are "gentle, pleasing to the ear, and affectionate" is about taking care that the emotion with which they are uttered is not laced with hatred or ill will. It does not mean that we should refrain from stating what is true, only that we take care with what attitude we deliver it. Even very hard truths can be uttered with kindness rather than with an intention to cause harm. Speaking harshly is unhealthy for the speaker as well as for the hearer.

Daily Practice
Pay careful attention to your own patterns of speech and especially be on the lookout for nastiness or an intention to harm. Consider your words before you speak. And when you catch yourself speaking harshly, reflect on whether the same thing might have been said in a more skillful manner. Harsh speech brings out the worst in others. But it can be very challenging to refrain from hurtful speech, even when the other person has provoked it. 

Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Mental Action
One week from today: Refraining from Frivolous Speech

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Tuesday, December 13, 2022

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Via Daily Dharma: Asking Why

 We must first directly comprehend the spiritual reason of things and then let us with this insight look upon things that are about us. 

Soyen Shaku, “The Middle Way”


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Monday, December 12, 2022

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right View: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Cessation of Suffering

 

RIGHT VIEW
Understanding the Noble Truth of the Cessation of Suffering
What is the cessation of suffering? It is the remainderless fading away and ceasing, the giving up, relinquishing, letting go, and rejecting of craving. (MN 9)

When one knows and sees visual forms as they actually are, then one is not attached to visual forms. When one abides unattached, one is not infatuated, and one’s craving is abandoned. One’s bodily and mental troubles are abandoned, and one experiences bodily and mental well-being. (MN 149)
Reflection
The third noble truth declares that once suffering has been identified (the first noble truth) and its origin has been discovered (the second noble truth), it is possible to bring that suffering to an end. This is the great promise of the Buddhist path: that any time we are experiencing suffering, we can reverse or neutralize it with insight and practices that loosen the specific craving that causes the particular instance of suffering.

Daily Practice
Let's begin with focusing on the sphere of visual experience. So many of the things we see give rise to impulses of attachment, infatuation, and craving. When we want what we see, that visual object becomes the trigger for a brief episode of suffering. Notice, however, that this impulse to crave what we see need not have irresistible power over us. Practice noting the craving, then letting go of it. Notice the ensuing sense of well-being. 

Tomorrow: Cultivating Appreciative Joy
One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Way to the Cessation of Suffering

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Via Daily Dharma: Cultivating Connection

 Genuine connection can be like a rainbow—to go charging at it, or even to grasp at it, can make it dissolve. Cheerful patience is essential.

Mindy Newman and Kaia Fischer, “Making Our Way Together”


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Sunday, December 11, 2022

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All of us at Buddhist Global Relief wish to express our deepest gratitude to each of you who participated in our 2022 Buddhist Action to Feed the Hungry season. Hundreds of BGR supporters contributed their time, fundraised, donated, and shared in our online Dharma gathering, held on October 29. The event was a poignant tribute to the impact of our community’s compassion and generosity.

“Compassion means taking action,” Insight Meditation Society co-founder Joseph Goldstein said in his Dharma talk at the gathering. “This is what Buddhist Global Relief is doing so effectively, and so successfully in the world, that it’s just a tremendous inspiration for me and for many others.”

Joseph was joined by a program of eminent Buddhist teachers including Konjun Gaelyn Godwin, abbot of the Houston Zen Center; Bhante Buddharakkhita, founder and abbot of the Uganda Buddhist Center; Ven. Lekshe Tsomo, founder of the Jamyang Foundation; Rev. Kiyonobu Kuwahara, of Berkeley Buddhist Temple; Raimund Hopf, founder of Mitgefühl in Aktion; Bhante Saranapala, founder of Canada: A Mindful and Kind Nation; Ayyā Dhammadīpā, founder of the Dassanāya Buddhist Community; and BGR founder Ven. Bhikkhu Bodhi.

Through these talks, and through presentations from BGR partners Amrita Basu of Building Bridges India, Genevieve Waltcher of Lotus Outreach International, and David Palmer of the Joan Rose Foundation, we were invited to reflect on the qualities of our hearts that allow us to be open to seeing and being present with suffering, and to celebrate the joy that arises from taking action to respond to that suffering. 

We at BGR are grateful to everyone who joined us in this beautiful gathering and to all of our supporters around the globe who make our work possible. Together, we are creating a more compassionate world.

It is not too late to contribute to BGR’s “Creating a More Compassionate World” fundraising season. To view the recording of our October 29 event, visit our website.

Thank you for your generous support of BGR and those whom we serve.

 
 

Come together in the work of conscientious compassion at: buddhistglobalrelief.org

 

Via Tricycle // Metta and Karuna

 


 
Metta and Karuna: Two Heart Practices to Cultivate in Meditation and Daily Life
With Devin Berry
Devin Berry, a meditation teacher and cofounder of Deep Time Liberation, considers how Buddhist practices of the heart can support both everyday life and social transformation.
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Via Tricycle // Perspectives on Buddhism and Human Flourishing

 

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December 10, 2022

Perspectives on Buddhism and Human Flourishing
 
For thousands of years, philosophers and sages have debated the ultimate aim of human life and proposed pathways to living a life of freedom, peace, and fulfillment. For the Buddha, the goal was nirvana, or awakening—complete liberation from the suffering of samsara. For Greek philosophers like Aristotle, the purpose of our lives was eudaimonia, human flourishing or living well. 

In today’s world, what does it mean to live a good life? How can we live well—and navigate the path to awakening—in times of existential and ecological crisis? Tricycle’s October virtual event series, Living Well in Difficult Times, brings together leading Buddhist teachers and writers to explore the building blocks of a life well lived, from emotional well-being to right livelihood to spiritual friendship. 

If you missed the live series in October, don’t worry—the full set of video conversations is now available on Tricycle Online Courses! 

For just $40, enjoy events including: 
  • Cultivating unconditional joy with James Baraz and Sylvia Boorstein 
  • Stephen Batchelor: An ethics of uncertainty: ancient perspectives on living well in times of crisis 
  • Right livelihood in times of economic instability with David Nichtern 
  • Healing collective trauma and caring for one another with Kaira Jewel Lingo 
  • Tibetan Medicine perspectives on emotional well-being with Dr. Nida Chenagtsang and Dr. Caroline van Damme
Enjoy the full series now »
 
Also this week:
  • Aging confronts us directly with the reality of impermanence. Join us Dec. 15 for a conversation with Lewis Richmond and Douglas Penick on aging as a spiritual practice. 
  • This month’s Film Club pick, Descending the Mountain, explores the question: What happens when you give psychedelics to experienced Zen meditators? 
  • Discover the power of metta and karuna, two heart practices to cultivate in meditation and daily life, in our December Dharma Talk series with meditation teacher Devin Berry. 
  • Kimberly Brown, meditation teacher and author of Navigating Grief and Loss, offers concrete tools for becoming a better friend to yourself through the grieving process.