Tuesday, October 31, 2023

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Intention: Cultivating Lovingkindness

 

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RIGHT INTENTION
Cultivating Lovingkindness
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on lovingkindness, for when you develop meditation on lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62) 
Reflection
The mind is always a work in progress, insofar as it is always changing. This change is not random but is directed by the mind, which both shapes and is shaped by itself. You cannot just decide something once and behave altogether differently ever after, but you can gradually train your mind, like a growing plant, in one direction or another. Training yourself to become kinder, using the power of intention, is a healthy thing to do.
Daily Practice
You can develop lovingkindness on a regular basis, practicing every day to strengthen your ability to feel kindly, and this will slowly incline your mind toward feeling kindly more often and for longer periods of time. Or you can intentionally practice lovingkindness whenever you feel ill will toward someone, in which case lovingkindness can act as an antidote to the poison of hatred. Or, of course, do both.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech
One week from today: Cultivating Compassion

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Via Daily Dharma: The Illusion of Separateness

The Illusion of Separateness

The problem with interpersonal love is that you are dependent on the other person to reflect love back to you. That’s part of the illusion of separateness. The reality is that love is a state of being that comes from within.

Ram Dass, “Tuning The Mind”


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Monday, October 30, 2023

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right View: Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering

 

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RIGHT VIEW
Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering
When people have met with suffering and become victims of suffering, they come to me and ask me about the noble truth of suffering. Being asked, I explain to them the noble truth of suffering. (MN 77) What is suffering? (MN 9)
Reflection
We often hear it said that the Buddha pronounced that “life is suffering,” but he never actually used such words. As he describes here, people encounter suffering themselves and come to him for help in understanding and alleviating it. What he tells them is that any experience driven by craving or aversion will result in the arising of suffering, and every time you are able to abandon that craving your suffering will subside.
Daily Practice
The noble truth of suffering recognizes that some things just hurt, both physically and mentally. Other things are psychologically painful, particularly when we don’t get what we want or have to deal with what we don’t want. There is also a subtle existential suffering that comes from the conditioned and fragile nature of all things. See if you can discern all three of these levels of suffering in your own lived experience.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Lovingkindness
One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Origin of Suffering

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Via Daily Dharma: Inner Practice As An Act Of Compassion

Inner Practice As An Act Of Compassion

You can’t leave the system of inter-eating by abusing it. In fact, the more you abuse it, the more it sucks you in. To free yourself, you have to treat it well, and part of treating it well means learning how to develop your own inner sources of food: concentration and discernment. 

Thanissaro Bhikkhu, “We Are Not One”


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On-Retaliation as a Spiritual Practice


We do not have to get back at those who hate us or hurt our
feelings. We have alternative spiritual practices that free us from
that primitive reaction.



Revenge, at first though sweet,
Bitter ere long back on itself recoils.
-John Milton: Paradise Lost, Book 9

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Quotations from various traditions about letting go of
the urge to retaliate:

One act of retaliation burns to the ground a whole forest of
merit.
–Buddhist Teachings: Dhammapada

Requite evil with what is best. Then truly he between whom
and you there was enmity, will become your dearest friend.
-Koran: 41:34

Do not say: “I’ll do to them as they have done to me;
I’ll pay them back for what they did.”
-Hebrew Bible: Proverbs 24:29

Let him offer his cheek to one who would strike him.
- Hebrew Bible: Lamentations 3:30

He was insulted and did not retaliate with insult; he was
tortured and made no threat.
–Christian New Testament: First Letter of St. Peter 2:23

A view of God as punitive and retributive nullifies any in-
depth spiritual journey: Why would you love or trust or desire to
be with such a God?
-Richard Rohr, Franciscan teacher

I saw the fires of hell and people were not burning there. All
that was burning was what they had refused to let go of on earth.
And the flames were not punishing; they were liberating… The
only thing that burns in hell is the part of you that won’t let go of
your life: your memories, your attachments. The [flames] burn

them all away, but they’re not punishing you, they’re freeing your
soul.
-Meister Eckhart, 14 th Century mystic

We avoid retaliating….
Alcoholics Anonymous: page 67

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Retaliation in relationships:

It is a quarrel most unnatural
To be revenged on him that loveth you.
-Shakespeare: Richard II
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Retaliation helps us avoid the grief that is behind it:

Hope of revenge shall hide our inward woe.
—Shakespeare: Troilus and Cressida

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Spiritual Practices to free ourselves from the choice to
retaliate:

Treat others the way you want them to treat you.
-Golden Rule

Loving one’s oppressors—we Cambodians loving the
Khmer Rouge—may be the most difficult attitude to achieve. But
it is the law of the universe that retaliation, hatred, and revenge
only continue the cycle and never stop it. Reconciliation does not
mean that we surrender rights. It means that we see ourselves in
the opponent. For what is the opponent but a being in ignorance,
as we are so often. Therefore, only loving-kindness and right
mindfulness can free us.
–Venerable Ghosananda, Buddhist Patriarch of Cambodia

Love means more than moving toward individuals. It means
loving the world so we take a stand against the normalcy of
violence and the values of the world so it can be a better place
[finding] a method which rejects revenge, aggression and
retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., in his acceptance speech for the
1964 Nobel Peace Prize

Do good to him who has injured you.
–Tao Te Ching 63

Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless
those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
-Luke: 6:27-28

"Love your enemy" doesn't mean love the person you hate.
You can't do that. Love those who hate you.
-B. Alan Wallace

When you begin to see the suffering in the other person,
compassion is born, and you no longer consider that person as
your enemy. The moment you realize that your so-called enemy
suffers and you want him to stop suffering, he ceases to be your
enemy.
–Thich Nhat Hanh

When they go low, we go high.
-Michelle Obama