A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
“You start out trapped in boundaries; then you extricate yourself from the entrapment. Coming back in, you can take on the boundries as the way you costume yourself for the dance. You learn how to define limits, and realize who you are and what your unique role is. Realize that you can set boundaries without getting trapped by them because they are unique units.”
The starting point of koan practice is also its final point, the clear awareness of not knowing. It begins by placing the practitioner right at the destination and invites them to walk the pathless path.
Our habitual mind, however, does not like this. It quietly hopes for special experiences instead, pleasant states that feel spiritual and otherworldly. Unfortunately, those pleasant experiences never last, and they subtly create attachment.
Take a few minutes to be honest with yourself: through your practice, what do you really wish for: a blissful, awesome and yet conditional experience, or unconditional freedom without a cause?
If it is the latter, realize that what you truly long for is already present in the very space of not knowing. Each time you rest in this open, questionless awareness, you are not merely moving toward freedom—you are it.
With an excerpt from Haemin Sunim’s Love For Imperfect Things that illuminates the inevitability and upshot of setbacks, consider how not-knowing can help you in everyday life.
In the book Path of Heroes: Birth of Enlightenment, Tibetan lama Tarthang Tulku shares a teaching on the fleeting nature of life and the path toward clarity.
False speech is unhealthy. Refraining from false speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning false speech, one dwells refraining from false speech, a truth-speaker, one to be relied on, trustworthy, dependable, not a deceiver of the world. One does not in full awareness speak falsehood for one’s own ends or for another’s ends or for some trifling worldly end. (DN 1) One practices thus: "Others may speak falsely, but I shall abstain from false speech." (MN 8)
Such speech as you know to be true and correct but unbeneficial and which is also unwelcome and disagreeable to others—do not utter such speech. (MN 58)
Reflection
Even if something is true, that does not mean that it should always be said. The important point is whether or not it will be beneficial to speak. If a person is set in their views and what you say is unlikely to make a difference, then it is better to remain silent—all the more so if what you say would cause distress for the other person. But if by speaking up there is a good chance of helping them see more clearly, then go ahead and speak.
Daily Practice
Every Wednesday we give careful attention to the quality of our speech. Take on the practice of training yourself to become ever more aware of the truthfulness of what you say and ever more careful not to say something misleading or false. It can seem harmless to stretch the truth in small ways, but all speech is on a continuum from wrong speech to right speech, and discerning this becomes subtler as you become more skillful.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Bodily Action One week from today: Refraining from Malicious Speech
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