A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on loving kindness, for when you develop meditation on lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62)
Lovingkindness is the way to purity for one who has much ill will. (Vm 9.108)
Reflection
Since every hurtful emotion has a corresponding helpful one that acts as a potential antidote, take advantage of this fact when next you are feeling consumed by aversion. In any moment when you feel ill will, you have the option of feeling kindness in its place, and you will be better off replacing the one with the other. You don’t necessarily have to forgive anyone their actions; you need only to feel different inside yourself.
Daily Practice
Feeling grumpy? Annoyed as all get-out with someone? Furious over somebody’s hurtful words or actions and ready to kill them (figuratively speaking, of course)? Take a closer look: Who is getting hurt here? As much as you might wish for the harm of the other person, it is really only you who is being harmed by your ill will. Take a moment to change the script and see if you can develop some lovingkindness instead. It helps.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech One week from today: Cultivating Compassion
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