A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Where can you find your unborn and unconditional freedom? Notice that the moment you search for it, you are no longer free. Seeking assumes that freedom is elsewhere, that you do not already possess it. But what if your very nature is already unconditional and free? What if the nirvana you have been looking for has been in your pocket all along? When the seeking mind finally comes to a complete stop, what happens?
A koan is a device designed to bring the mind to this stopping point. When every attempt to find an answer is exhausted and there is nowhere left for the mind to go, something quietly reveals itself.
Dharma teacher Elizabeth Mattis-Namgyel describes the state of not-knowing as a riveting place to be and asks what would happen if instead of retreating to our habit of turning away from the unknown, we habituated ourselves to staying open.
Soto Zen Buddhist priest Myozan Ian Kilroy reflects on his own experience and a story in the Blue Cliff Record about awakening in total darkness to illustrate the openness but also the security in not-knowing.
Frivolous speech is unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus: "Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous speech." (MN 8)
When a person commits an offense of some kind, one should not hurry to reprove them but rather should consider whether or not to speak. If you will be troubled, the other person will not be hurt, and you can help them emerge from what is unhealthy and establish them in what is healthy, then it is proper to speak. It is a trifle that you will be troubled compared with the value of helping establish them in what is healthy. (MN 103)
Reflection
The guideline to refrain from frivolous speech is a recommendation that we take seriously what we say and say what is meaningful with a sense of purpose and care. It does not mean everything we say has to be profound, just carefully considered. Here we also have guidance for when to speak up and when not to. If we can help someone and make a difference by speaking out, then the fact that it is troublesome is a trifle.
Daily Practice
As you practice considering carefully the way you speak, the suggestion to "not hurry to reprove" someone who does or says something offensive but rather to "consider whether or not to speak" is an important suggestion. This moment of pause and reflection is itself a powerful practice in daily life and should be followed at every opportunity. Try speaking up only when you really can help a person or situation and not simply from habit or reflex.
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