A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on lovingkindness, for when you develop meditation on lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62)
Reflection
The mind is always a work in progress, insofar as it is always changing. This change is not random but is directed by the mind, which both shapes and is shaped by itself. You cannot just decide something once and behave altogether differently ever after, but you can gradually train your mind, like a growing plant, in one direction or another. Training yourself to become kinder, using the power of intention, is a healthy thing to do.
Daily Practice
You can develop lovingkindness on a regular basis, practicing every day to strengthen your ability to feel kindly, and this will slowly incline your mind toward feeling kindly more often and for longer periods of time. Or you can intentionally practice lovingkindness whenever you feel ill will toward someone, in which case lovingkindness can act as an antidote to the poison of hatred. Or, of course, do both.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech One week from today: Cultivating Compassion
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The problem with interpersonal love is that you are dependent on the other person to reflect love back to you. That’s part of the illusion of separateness. The reality is that love is a state of being that comes from within.