Monday, October 30, 2023

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On-Retaliation as a Spiritual Practice


We do not have to get back at those who hate us or hurt our
feelings. We have alternative spiritual practices that free us from
that primitive reaction.



Revenge, at first though sweet,
Bitter ere long back on itself recoils.
-John Milton: Paradise Lost, Book 9

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Quotations from various traditions about letting go of
the urge to retaliate:

One act of retaliation burns to the ground a whole forest of
merit.
–Buddhist Teachings: Dhammapada

Requite evil with what is best. Then truly he between whom
and you there was enmity, will become your dearest friend.
-Koran: 41:34

Do not say: “I’ll do to them as they have done to me;
I’ll pay them back for what they did.”
-Hebrew Bible: Proverbs 24:29

Let him offer his cheek to one who would strike him.
- Hebrew Bible: Lamentations 3:30

He was insulted and did not retaliate with insult; he was
tortured and made no threat.
–Christian New Testament: First Letter of St. Peter 2:23

A view of God as punitive and retributive nullifies any in-
depth spiritual journey: Why would you love or trust or desire to
be with such a God?
-Richard Rohr, Franciscan teacher

I saw the fires of hell and people were not burning there. All
that was burning was what they had refused to let go of on earth.
And the flames were not punishing; they were liberating… The
only thing that burns in hell is the part of you that won’t let go of
your life: your memories, your attachments. The [flames] burn

them all away, but they’re not punishing you, they’re freeing your
soul.
-Meister Eckhart, 14 th Century mystic

We avoid retaliating….
Alcoholics Anonymous: page 67

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Retaliation in relationships:

It is a quarrel most unnatural
To be revenged on him that loveth you.
-Shakespeare: Richard II
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Retaliation helps us avoid the grief that is behind it:

Hope of revenge shall hide our inward woe.
—Shakespeare: Troilus and Cressida

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Spiritual Practices to free ourselves from the choice to
retaliate:

Treat others the way you want them to treat you.
-Golden Rule

Loving one’s oppressors—we Cambodians loving the
Khmer Rouge—may be the most difficult attitude to achieve. But
it is the law of the universe that retaliation, hatred, and revenge
only continue the cycle and never stop it. Reconciliation does not
mean that we surrender rights. It means that we see ourselves in
the opponent. For what is the opponent but a being in ignorance,
as we are so often. Therefore, only loving-kindness and right
mindfulness can free us.
–Venerable Ghosananda, Buddhist Patriarch of Cambodia

Love means more than moving toward individuals. It means
loving the world so we take a stand against the normalcy of
violence and the values of the world so it can be a better place
[finding] a method which rejects revenge, aggression and
retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., in his acceptance speech for the
1964 Nobel Peace Prize

Do good to him who has injured you.
–Tao Te Ching 63

Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless
those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
-Luke: 6:27-28

"Love your enemy" doesn't mean love the person you hate.
You can't do that. Love those who hate you.
-B. Alan Wallace

When you begin to see the suffering in the other person,
compassion is born, and you no longer consider that person as
your enemy. The moment you realize that your so-called enemy
suffers and you want him to stop suffering, he ceases to be your
enemy.
–Thich Nhat Hanh

When they go low, we go high.
-Michelle Obama

Sunday, October 29, 2023

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Reposting from On being Notorious


One thing I do when I lay down and hold tight for the radiation treatment is saying the Buddhist Metta prayer. I use a simplified version of it to keep calm.


I begin with:

May all who laid here before me

Be Happy

May all who laid here before me

Be safe

May all who laid here before me

Be healthy

May all who laid here before me

Be free and at ease in all the worlds!

Then:
May I be happy
May I be safe
May I be healthy
May I be free and at ease in all the worlds!

Then: 

May all who come here after me

Be Happy

May all who come here after me

Be safe

May all who come here after me

Be healthy

May all who come here after me

Be free and at ease in all the worlds!

Today I am taking sides

 Today I am taking sides.

I am taking the side of Peace.

Peace, which I will not abandon

even when its voice is drowned out

by hurt and hatred,

bitterness of loss,

cries of right and wrong.


I am taking the side of Peace

whose name has barely been spoken

in this winnerless war.


I will hold Peace in my arms,

and share my body’s breath,

lest Peace be added

to the body count.

I will call for de-escalation

even when I want nothing more 

than to get even.

I will do it

in the service of Peace.


I will make a clearing

in the overgrown 

thicket of cause and effect

so Peace can breathe 

for a minute

and reach for the sky.


I will do what I must

to save the life of Peace.

I will breathe through tears.

I will swallow pride.

I will bite my tongue.

I will offer love

without testing for deservingness.


So don’t ask me to wave a flag today

unless it is the flag of Peace.

Don’t ask me to sing an anthem

unless it is a song of Peace.

Don’t ask me to take sides

unless it is the side of Peace.


Irwin Keller, Oct. 17, 2023


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Today's Gay Wisdom
1618 -

The Passionate Shepherd to His Love

Come live with me and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove
That valleys, groves, hills, and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.

And we will sit upon rocks,
Seeing the shepherds feed their flocks,
By shallow rivers to whose falls
Melodious birds sing madrigals.

And I will make thee beds of roses
And a thousand fragrant poises,
A cap of flowers, and a kirtle
Embroidered all with leaves of myrtle;

A gown made of the finest wool
Which from our pretty lambs we pull;
Fair lined slippers for the cold,
With buckles of the purest gold;

A belt of straw and ivy buds,
With coral clasps and amber studs;
And if these pleasures may thee move,
Come live with me, and be my love.

The shepherds's swains shall dance and sing
For thy delight each May morning:
If these delights thy mind may move,
Then live with me and be my love.

Christopher Marlowe 1599

Raleigh’s Reply

 

If all the world and love were young,

And truth in every shepherd's tongue,

These pretty pleasures might me move

To live with thee and be thy love.

 

Time drives the flocks from field to fold,

When rivers rage and rocks grow cold;

And Philomel becometh dumb;

The rest complains of cares to come.

 

The flowers do fade, and wanton fields

To wayward winter reckoning yields:

A honey tongue, a heart of gall,

Is fancy's spring, but sorrow's fall.

 

The gowns, thy shoes, thy beds of roses,

Thy cap, thy kirtle, and thy posies

Soon break, soon wither, soon forgotten,—

In folly ripe, in reason rotten.

 

Thy belt of straw and ivy buds,

Thy coral clasps and amber studs,

All these in me no means can move

To come to thee and be thy love.

 

But could youth last and love still breed,

Had joys no date nor age no need,

Then these delights my mind might move

To live with thee and be thy love.

Sir Walter Raleigh, 1599


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When you were a child, you were not taught about your Divine Self. Very few parents said, "When I look at you, I see God." What is transmitted from parent to child is all the love that can exist within the illusion, which itself is seeking the light.

At every level of the illusion there must be a total honoring of your karma, at every plane. To parents, to religion, to country, to world, to mankind, to the Divine Mother - at every level there must be honor. You can't get away with bypassing any of it, you can't leave any loose ends or they'll turn into karmic anchors.

- Ram Dass

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Releasing Unhelpful Mind States

Only through acknowledging and releasing blind emotions can I experience the inner unencumbered and harmonious being that is always present despite the suffering.

Zenju Earthlyn Manuel, “The Terror Within”


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Establishing Mindfulness of Mental Objects
A person goes to the forest or to the root of a tree or to an empty place and sits down. Having crossed the legs, one sets the body erect. One establishes the presence of mindfulness. (MN 10) One is aware: “Ardent, fully aware, mindful, I am content.” (SN 47.10)
 
When the awakening factor of equanimity is internally present, one is aware: “Equanimity is present for me.” When equanimity is not present, one is aware: “Equanimity is not present for me.” When the arising of unarisen equanimity occurs, one is aware of that. And when the development and fulfillment of the arisen awakening factor of equanimity occurs, one is aware of that . . . . One is just aware, just mindful: “There is a mental object.” And one abides not clinging to anything in the world. (MN 10)
Reflection
You will know equanimity is internally present when you feel your mind is in balance, tipping neither toward what is pleasant nor away from what is unpleasant. Normally the mind is lurching up and down, like a seesaw pushed and pulled by our desires. But it is possible to experience pleasure without being pulled into it and to experience pain without pushing it away. When the mind is attentive but not tilted, this is equanimity. 
Daily Practice
Become familiar with what equanimity feels like internally. Start with something simple, like a slight pain in your knee when you are sitting in meditation, and simply be aware of it as a sensation rather than as something to resist, resent, or wish away. Do the same with any slightly pleasant sensation, such as in parts of your body that feel comfortable when you sit. Learn to simply observe these sensations as phenomena, with equanimity.
RIGHT CONCENTRATION
Approaching and Abiding in the Fourth Phase of Absorption (4th Jhāna)
With the abandoning of pleasure and pain, and with the previous disappearance of joy and grief, one enters upon and abides in the fourth phase of absorption, which has neither-pain-nor-pleasure and purity of mindfulness as a result of equanimity. The concentrated mind is thus purified, bright, unblemished, rid of imperfection, malleable, wieldy, steady, and attained to imperturbability. (MN 4)
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Maintaining Arisen Healthy States
Whatever a person frequently thinks about and ponders, that will  become the inclination of their mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders healthy states, one has abandoned unhealthy states to cultivate healthy states, and then one’s mind inclines to healthy states. (MN 19)

Here a person rouses the will, makes an effort, stirs up energy, exerts the mind, and strives to maintain arisen healthy mental states. One maintains the arisen awakening factor of equanimity. (MN 141)
Reflection
The mind is constantly changing, and every moment is different from every other. Still, there are some mental and emotional states that are good for us and we want to sustain, and others we are better off abandoning. We cannot always rely on the healthy states to naturally persist once they occur, and it is a skillful use of effort to work to maintain them. Doing so will incline the mind steadily in the direction of greater health. 
Daily Practice
When you find yourself feeling generous, look for ways to maintain that attitude of generosity by additional thoughts and acts of generosity. When you notice kindness or compassion arising in your experience, recognize it as healthy and see how you can nurture the emotion so it lingers in your mind a bit longer. At every opportunity, find ways to encourage your best qualities to continue once they have arisen.
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