Wednesday, April 10, 2024

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Frivolous Speech

 



RIGHT SPEECH
Refraining from Frivolous Speech
Frivolous speech is unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous speech.” (MN 8)

When a person commits an offense of some kind, one should not hurry to reprove them but rather should consider whether or not to speak. If you will be troubled, the other person will be hurt, and you cannot help them emerge from what is unhealthy and establish themselves in what is healthy—one should not underrate equanimity toward such a person. (MN 103)
Reflection
Many times in the world of human interaction we encounter minor offenses of some kind that usually provoke an immediate and unexamined reaction. When we feel hurt or annoyed or angry, we often lash back automatically. This is what we are focusing on here. By becoming aware of our speech and only speaking when it is useful and appropriate, we bypass a lot of unconscious conditioning that can cause harm.

Daily Practice
Sometimes you run into a difficult person. There are situations in which it is not going to be effective to speak up. See if you can identify these situations when you run across them and remain silent instead of venting your emotions. Many times it is better to maintain equanimity than to get drawn into an argument or even a fight. Practice not allowing yourself to be provoked into unnecessary speech.

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One week from today: Refraining from False Speech

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Via Ram Dass - Love Serve Remember Foundation \\ Words of Wisdom - April 10, 2024 💌

 

 

There is an appreciation that incarnation, or what would be called karma, is a blueprint for your own awakening. You can call it: my life, my karma, my incarnation, my curriculum. It is a set of life experiences which you're creating. Because how you see reality and how I see reality are different realities, and the fact that yours is different from mine isn't by chance, it's by karma. And that karma turns into your dharma. That means the stuff that's given to you becomes your path. You use your unique entrapment as the vehicle for getting free of entrapment.

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Via White Crane Institute \\ ELI ANDREW RAMER

 

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Eli Andrew Ramer - Two Hearts Dancing
2022 -
ELI ANDREW RAMER, author and former White Crane columnist ("Praxis") is a magid, a traditional Jewish religious itinerant preacher, skilled as a narrator of Torah and religious stories. He is the author of the classic Two FlutesPlaying. Now he has authored a companion to that seminal work, TwoHeartsDancing. Eli and I had a brief conversation about it:
 
Bo: So ...what prompted you to write a "companion" to Two Flutes Playing?
 
Eli: I never planned to write a companion volume to "Two Flutes Playing." Then again, I did, but life derailed/erased it - for almost 20 years. "Two Flutes Playing" is a channeled book that I compiled in the 1980s. First published by Joseph Kramer from the Body Electric School in 1991, it's gone on to be reissued several times by different presses, including White Crane, and has had its own interesting life wandering around the world of gay men's spirituality.
 
Around the time it was first published I wrote a story that led to another story that was beginning to become a book illustrated by my dear friend and Gay Spirit Visions Conference co-founder Raven Wolfdancer. When he was murdered I put together the drawings and stories we'd created into a small desktop published book, and when I sold the last copy I more or less forgot about it.
 
Flash forward. Covid arrives. A strange echo of our lives with AIDS. Locked away from the world I went through and organized all my unpublished work, came upon the stories I did with Raven, and sent them to the publisher who had reissued "Two Flutes Playing" - Wipf and Stock. They said it was too short. I started going through unpublished poems, added them to the old stories - and "Two Hearts Dancing" was born.
 
Bo: So while Two Flutes Playing was channeled, this is more of a collection of your thoughts in isolation?
 
Eli: What's channeling? What's inspiration? Who are our muses? Certainly Johnny Moses was a muse, some hours before we met, awakening one of the stories in the first part of the book. And Raven Wolfdancer was clearly a muse, embodied, in addition to creating the art that graces the first part. And the poems in the second part were inspired by lovers and strangers and other writing, so while not channeled in quite the same way as Two Flutes Playing, this new book is also a received text.
 
Bo: And do you think Two Hearts Dancing is a revival of that companion to Two Flutes? Or is something altogether new?
 
Eli: I call it a companion volume and not a sequel, but now that it's been birthed, I do see the two books as siblings, the two of them dancing in and around each other, in and out of time.
 
Bo: Can you talk a bit about the role of story-telling in the LGBTQ community? And how you see it relating to the prophetic tradition?
 
Eli: A story is a line of thread linking two worlds together. A story is a line of saliva linking two kissers together. A story in our community is connector, a delight, and a tool for survival in an often-hostile world. We often find ourselves in words and stories in ways that we might not otherwise, in hearing a word for the first time and thinking - "Oh, that's me!" A word, a new pronoun - worlds rippling out from words in wet delicious ways.
 
Stories began when we learned how to talk. This is a story. The first human language was manual and not verbal. It was signed and not spoken. We invited speech so that we could keep telling stories when it was dark. And then we invented fire. I believe - this is a story - that the very first storytellers were people like us, wandering in between female and male, the living and the dead, between words and silence. I believe that the first elders and prophets were people like us, living between female and male, the living and the dead, between words and silence, and able to link them all together, as with thread, as with the wet space between two people kissing, when they pull apart.
 
Bo: What are you reading these days?
 
Eli: Covid and the death of 40 people in my life since July 2017 altered my brain. I can hardly read or watch movies or take in much of anything, but I do thrive on going for four-hour walks. I used to read a book a week, usually three or four at the same time, one by my bed, one on the kitchen table, one next to the toilet, and one in my backpack for when I go out. Now it takes me more than a month to finish a book. What I'm reading, slowly - A Time to Mourn, a Time to Comfort: A Guide to Jewish Bereavement by Ron Wolfson, and The Lying Life of Adults by Elena Ferrante.
 
Bo: Could you describe Two Hearts Dancing for readers?
 
Eli. The book isn’t a coming out guide so much as it is a guidebook on coming in—coming in to who we are as mystics, lovers and healers. The first section has fourteen tales that are grounded in gay archetypes and ends with a responsive reading to be used in gay men’s rituals. The second part, Poems of Our Tribe is comprised of twenty-four poems that are mythic, mystical explorations of embodied spirituality, sexuality, and love.

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Via White Crane Institute \\ MARJORIE MAIN



1975 -

MARJORIE MAIN died on this date (b: 1890; Born  Mary Tomlinson, she was an American character actress and singer of the Classical Hollywood period, best known as a Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer contract player in the 1940s and 1950s, and for her role as Ma Kettle in 10 Ma and Pa Kettle movies. Main started her career in vaudeville and theatre, and appeared in film classics, such as Dead EndThe WomenDark CommandThe Shepherd of the HillsMeet Me in St. Louis, and Friendly Persuasion. 

She was born near Acton, in rural Marion County, Indiana. She was the second daughter of Reverend Samuel J. Tomlinson, a Disciples of Christ minister, and Jennie L. (McGaughey) Tomlinson. Mary's maternal grandfather, Doctor Samuel McGaughey, was the Acton physician who delivered her.

After Tomlinson left her family, who had moved to Kentucky, she spent the next several years studying dramatic arts in Chicago and New York City, despite her father's disapproval of her career choice. Tomlinson adopted the stage name of Marjorie Main during her early acting career to avoid embarrassing her family.

Main married widower Stanley LeFevre Krebs, a psychologist and lecturer, in November 1921. They met while she was performing on the Chautauqua circuit. Main accompanied Krebs on the lecture circuit, handling the details of their life on the road. They had no children together, and made their home in New York City. Main performed with touring companies and in New York theaters on a part-time basis throughout her marriage. She also began her Hollywood film career in 1931. Main considered this period "the happiest years of her life." She returned to a full-time acting career after Krebs died of cancer in 1935.

The Krebses' marriage was a nontraditional one. By her accounts, the marriage was happy, but not particularly close. Main claimed to be "brokenhearted" following her husband's death, but also explained that his death was "like losing a good friend. Like part of the family." Main's biographer, Michelle Vogel, quotes a later interview in which the actress related: "Dr. Krebs wasn't a very practical man. I didn't figure on having to run the show, I kinda tired of it after a few years. We pretty much went our own ways, but we was [sic] still in the eyes of the law, man and wife." Vogel also revealed that Main had a long-term relationship with actress Spring Byington.

Main, who is best known for playing "raucous, rough, and cantankerous women" on-screen, was characterized as "soft-spoken, shy," and "dignified" when she was off-screen. Main became a popular character actress of the 1940s and 1950s. She appeared in diverse roles on the stage and in more than 80 films. The "cornball humor" of the Kettle films endured in television shows, such as The Beverly Hillbillies and Green Acres, of the 1960s.

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Tuesday, April 9, 2024

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Intention: Cultivating Equanimity

 


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RIGHT INTENTION
Cultivating Equanimity
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on equanimity, for when you develop meditation on equanimity, all aversion is abandoned. (MN 62) 

Equanimity succeeds when it makes attraction and aversion subside. (Vm 9.96) Having touched a sensation with the body, one is neither glad-minded nor sad-minded, but abides with equanimity, mindful and fully aware. (AN 6.1)
Reflection
Desire can be plotted on a spectrum from strong attraction at one extreme through weaker forms of favoring to first mild and then very strong forms of aversion. At the center point of this range is equanimity, which involves looking upon things with awareness but without positive or negative desire (attraction or aversion). This is not indifference! It is the ability to see clearly, without the interference of desire. 

Daily Practice
Practice cultivating equanimity in the attitude you take toward the physical sensations felt in the body. We are used to favoring the good ones and opposing the bad ones. Instead, practice regarding both in the same way: aware that the sensation is present, but not categorizing it into liked or disliked. Notice what it feels like to just experience the sensation in a pure way, without the distortions imposed on the mind by desire.

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