A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Our
feelings, emotions, and experiences—good, bad, or neutral—are genuine
and a part of who we are. We won’t grow, transform, and awaken by
running away from them; it is by embracing who we are that we awaken.
Mark Herrick, “Reflecting on Faith and Understanding in the Wealthy Man and His Poor Son”
Whatever you intend,
whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward will become
the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop
meditation on appreciative joy, for when you develop meditation on
appreciative joy, any discontent will be abandoned. (MN 62)
The characteristic of appreciative joy is gladdening produced by the success of others. (Vm 9.93)
Reflection
Appreciative joy is the neglected brahma-vihara,
or sublime state of mind, less well known than its siblings
lovingkindness, compassion, and equanimity. As we see from this
definition, it serves as an antidote to discontent. When feeling good
about someone else, you cannot at the same time feel bad about yourself.
While feeling joy in appreciation of the good fortune of others might
feel forced at first, it can gradually become a habit of mind.
Daily Practice
Look for
opportunities to notice when good things are happening to other people
and extend good wishes to those people rather than jealousy or
resentment. Celebrate the good fortune of even strangers and be happy
for them. Joy and gladness are both rare and precious, and celebrating
others' good fortune is an easy way to access those feelings on a
regular basis. Even if things are not going well for you, you can share
in the happiness of others. Try it and see for yourself.
Tomorrow: Refraining from Harsh Speech One week from today: Cultivating Equanimity
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RIGHT VIEW Understanding the Noble Truth of the Cessation of Suffering
What is the cessation of
suffering? It is the remainderless fading away and ceasing, the giving
up, relinquishing, letting go, and rejecting of craving. (MN 9)
When one knows and sees sounds as they actually are, then one is not
attached to sounds. When one abides unattached, one is not infatuated,
and one’s craving is abandoned. One’s bodily and mental troubles are
abandoned, and one experiences bodily and mental well-being. (MN 149)
Reflection
Craving is the
cause of suffering, and if we crave a hundred things we will experience a
hundred episodes of suffering. We are used to this constant thirst to
possess things we like and to avoid what we don’t like. But we do not
have to follow the dictates of our desires. It is possible to notice the
yearning for something and then simply let go of it. This capacity
points the way to freedom from compulsion.
Daily Practice
Using sound as
the focus of practice, see if you can begin to notice the minor ways you
favor or oppose the sounds you meet in your experience. Step back from
being annoyed by a particular sound; step back from the allure another
may induce; step back from constantly welcoming what sounds good and
resisting what sounds bad. This stepping back is replacing desire with
equanimity and can be practiced in small ways.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Appreciative Joy One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Way to the Cessation of Suffering
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