A message from Joe Solmonese

Look back on high school. Who do you remember? The kids who stuffed someone in a locker or the dozens or hundreds who were horrified when they learned about it in the cafeteria? Look back on college. Did those few people who were more than generous with their self-important opinions set the tone? Or was it the ones who patiently waited for a turn to speak that never came? The people who express themselves, however unacceptably, make an impression that lasts. When it comes to our views on lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender equality, we often hear more from those who dislike us than from those who could be our friends, if we only knew.

That is why many LGBT people experience a world that is much less welcoming than you'd expect by reading poll numbers. Young people overwhelmingly recognize that we are equal, yet we also know that LGBT youth experience harassment in schools and experience depression at a high rate. Where are the affirming voices to counterbalance the hostile ones?

Americans strongly favor workplace protections, but many LGBT people who are out to friends are not out at work. We hear the shouts of condemnation. We hear about the parade of horribles that will befall society if we treat LGBT people as the human beings that we are. But most people don't agree with that. Where are you? And many LGBT people, regardless of how privileged we are, don't tell our straight friends about what our community faces. Where are you? In the age of Twitter, when you can instantly learn which celebrity is eating a bagel, the silence is incomprehensible.

This is the great irony of our time in LGBT rights history. If you watch enough TV, you'll think that you can't even become a beauty queen, much less an elected official, if you oppose our rights. But if you hear a United States senator call the Hate Crimes bill the "Pedophile Protection Act," if you hear your classmate say "that's so gay," it feels different. It takes over a decade to persuade your government—which already has a law protecting police dogs—to pass a law permitting the Department of Justice to step in when LGBT people are attacked and killed for who they are. It feels like you can't get an education without being reminded daily that to some of the people around you, you're a living insult.

As we prepare to celebrate National Coming Out Day on October 11, I'm reminded that this time for LGBT people and our allies to be open and honest is a process that never ends, and never ceases to benefit ourselves, our neighbors, and our families. At this point in our history, National Coming Out Day has a new significance. We are closer than we've ever been to protecting our rights, but it won't happen if we are the quiet ones, waiting. Every one of us needs to set the tone. Every one of us needs to speak up.

To my LGBT friends, the odds are that your neighbor, your sister, and your grocery checkout person think highly of you. The odds are also that they have no idea what you are facing. They don't know that even though some of us can marry, we still don't get as much out of Social Security. They don't know how many of us have missed out on a job, lost a relationship with a family member, or feared for our lives because we are LGBT. We need to tell them. And we need to tell them that our lives are still good—that we're nobody's victim. Then we need to answer their questions—even if they use the word "lifestyle." Even if the question starts with "so how do you…."

To the majority of non-LGBT people out there who would welcome us into your lives if you only knew how, and knew that we want you to: we want you to. And it doesn't matter if you know how. It doesn't matter if you've never said "lesbian" out loud. Practice in front of the mirror, if you'd like. Or not. Your LGBT co-worker or neighbor will understand that for you, this is the beginning of coming out. Too many people don't get to the beginning. If you think you're not outgoing enough, if you think you're not knowledgeable enough, if you think, heaven forbid, that you're not fabulous enough, speak up anyway.

To get the conversation going, HRC released videos of LGBT people and their families, friends, teachers, and other allies talking to one another about the experience of coming out and communicating as LGBT people and allies. They aren't actors and they aren't professional civil rights leaders. They are people who are ready to talk. I hope that you enjoy watching them, and feel inspired to join them.

Sincerely,

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Joe Solmonese
President, Human Rights Campaign

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Quote of the Day

I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones.

John Cage
US composer of avant-garde music (1912 - 1992)

Today's Double Post

ABOUT VELVET REVOLUTION

Velvet Revolution is a term coined to describe the peaceful road to change in countries where governments ignored the inalienable rights of the people. A few inspiring Velvet Revolutions occurred in the former Soviet Union, East Germany, Czechoslovakia, South Africa, and of course, most recently in Ukraine. The citizens of those countries, tired of corruption and arrogant power, joined together by the millions in a sustained campaign of opposition – they demonstrated, boycotted, petitioned, and engaged in strikes until the pillars of power were replaced by the halls of the people.

Prop. 8 Supporters Subpoena Activist Who Revealed Contributors

By Matthew Pordum Daily Journal Staff Writer

SACRAMENTO In its continuing efforts to protect the identity of those who bankrolled the campaign to pass Proposition 8, lawyers for The National Organization for Marriage have issued a subpoena for one of the leaders behind the opposition, Californians Against Hate founder Fred Karger, who led boycotts and created websites outing top contributors.

The subpoena compels Karger to produce the group's financial records and all communications and documentation regarding affiliated websites and the dissemination of donor information. It also directs him to appear for a deposition on October 13th.

"This is harassment and they are trying to silence me," said Karger, who points out that he's not a party to the case. "I'm a citizen activist, and my organization is just me, funded entirely by myself versus the power of a group who has millions and millions of dollars behind it."

The subpoena, served over the Labor Day weekend, stems from a lawsuit filed in federal court in Sacramento in January by The National Organization for Marriage against California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Attorney General Jerry Brown and FPPC Chairman Ross Johnson. ProtectMarriage.com v. Debra Bowen, 09-0058.

The group referred a reporter to its lawyer, Illinois-based James Bopp Jr. of Bopp, Coleson & Bostrom. Bopp did not return several calls seeking comment.

According to court records, the group is challenging the constitutionality of campaign finance disclosure requirements, claiming donors to Proposition 8 have been ravaged by e-mails, phone calls, postcards and even death threats.

In the suit, Bopp claims that the requirements of California's Political Reform Act of 1974 are unconstitutional by virtue of the First and Fourteenth Amendments.

Karger's website, www.californiansagainsthate.com, currently lists the names, addresses and donation amounts for the top 12 contributors to the Yes on Proposition 8 campaign, under the heading "Dishonor Roll."

The Yes on 8 campaign raised nearly $30 million and won the ballot battle over gay marriage last November by a vote of 52 percent.

Karger contends the subpoena is simply an act of revenge for the complaints he filed with the Fair Political Practices Commission against the Mormon Church for its alleged failure to report non-monetary contributions to the Yes on 8 campaign.

"This is all part of the PR [public relations] offensive being carried out by the Mormon Church," Karger said.

The Utah-based church did not directly donate to the campaign, but its members provided millions of dollars to it.

The Mormon Church is not a party to the January lawsuit.

California Attorney General Jerry Brown is defending the political reform act, arguing in court that disclosure requirements assist the state in detecting efforts to hide the identities of large donors and illegal spending of political funds for personal use.

"Political democracy demands open debate, including prompt disclosure of the identities of campaign donors," Brown said in a prepared statement.

The most recent action in the case came on Jan. 28, when U.S. Eastern District Judge Morrison C. England Jr. turned down the Yes on 8 group's request for a preliminary injunction exempting the group from campaign disclosure laws, saying that he was not persuaded that the threats were serious enough.

The group's subsequent report, made public Feb. 2, included its first disclosure of "major donors" who had given more than $10,000 to the campaign since June 30, 2008.
The Sacramento case is not the only effort by anti-gay rights groups to roll back campaign finance disclosure laws.

Bopp filed suit against the Washington Secretary of State July 28 to prevent the state from releasing the names and addresses of more than 138,500 Washington citizens who signed a petition in favor of Referendum 71.

The ballot referendum asks voters in Washington this November whether they want to expand domestic partnership rights and obligations in the state's originally limited domestic partnership legislation.

Washington Governor Christine Gregoire signed off on an expansion of rights for domestic partners in May, but opponents of that move rounded up 137,689 signatures to have the issue brought to voters this year.

In an enormous win for the group, a federal district judge ruled on Thursday that Washington officials were not allowed to reveal the names of those who signed the petition.

matthew_pordum@dailyjournal.com

Posted by Californians Against Hate at 1:39 AM

Same-Sex Marriage Activists Seek Repeal of California’s Proposition 8

http://www.truthout.org/092709T?n

Daniel B. Wood, The Christian Science Monitor: "The battle is on to repeal California’s Prop. 8 — which activists hope starts a national domino effect in the nearly 30 states that have banned same-sex marriage. A coalition of 40 groups has taken the first legal step for voters to be able to overturn the measure in November 2010. Thursday, the groups submitted ballot language that will place the measure on the ballot in the state’s next general election. Within weeks they intend to be canvassing the state to gather 700,000 valid signatures needed by April to qualify the measure for the ballot."

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The new battle in California

Society protects and defends the rights of prisoners, who have been stripped of most of their civil rights, to enter into a civil marriage. Those who argue that homosexuality is a “lifestyle choice” are willfully ignoring the American Psychological Association and of the science of psychology, that homosexuality is an orientation. It is not a choice anymore than being heterosexual is a choice. On which calendar date did you sit down and chose your sexual orientation? Most of us discovered our orientation when we went through puberty. Some of us experienced discrimination, hatred, verbal, emotional and physical abuse in addition to the general angst, which marked that stage of development. Prop 8 legalized discrimination against a minority group into the California State Constitution and in so doing, promotes bigotry and social stigmatization of persons who have a same sex orientation.

Being a Christian is a choice, yet no one would dream (so far) of placing the rights of people to freely choose their religion up for a public vote. Regardless of one’s religious views, we all live in a pluralistic civil society. The only way that such a society can function peacefully is for all citizens to respect each other’s civil rights. Stripping any minority of its civil rights, which is precisely what Prop 8 accomplished, threatens the civil rights of every minority group in our society.

Several religions, many theologians, the APA and almost all international Psychological Associations agree that homosexuality is not a choice, but like heterosexuality, an orientation. Laws, such as Prop 8, which target a minority group and strip away their civil rights, are born of ignorance, prejudice and they promote discrimination and bigotry. I am honored to be one of the proponents of a ballot initiative, which will restore the right to a civil marriage to all Californians regardless of their sexual orientation. This new proposition will also write into our State Constitution the right of religious groups to deny religious marriage to same sex couples. This new proposition restores and protects civil marriage for all Californians while simultaneously protecting the rights of religious groups to deny religious marriage to same sex couples.

courtesy of Father Geoff Farrow

Quote of the day

Found on JMG, in the discussion re: Ann Coulter's ridiculous comments

Elvis Costello lyrics come to mind immediately:

"So when they finally
put you in the ground
I'll stand on your grave
and Tramp the Dirt Down."

Bill Clinton Explains Why He Now Supports Same-Sex Marriage

Quote of the day

"we need government to do things the private sector can't or won't." - Ken Burns

Origin of Stupidity

HomoQuotable - Larry Kramer via JMG

"We get what we fight for. And we are not fighting. Every single one of us is not fighting. They fight better than we do. There is a concerted and never ending vein of hate in this country and in this world dedicated to keeping us in our place. It is evil to force people to be what we are not -- free. We are not free.

"I love being gay. I love gay people. How can I say this without offending everyone else, I think we're better than other people. I think we are smarter. I think we are more talented. I think we are more aware. I think we make better friends. I think we make better lovers. I think we're more tuned in to what's happening, tuned into the moment, tuned into our emotions, and other people's emotions.

"Yes, I think that gay people are better than other people. I think the only thing we are not so good at is fighting back. I hear talk of the new generation of gays and the old generation of gays, and how different we are. That is not true. We are all one generation. We are all related. We are all each other's brothers and sisters. We are all one family, the gay family. And I passionately and desperately want all my brothers and sisters to stay alive and well and on this earth, with total equality with every straight person. Being gay is the most important thing in my life. I love being gay. I hope you do, too." - Legendary gay/AIDS activist and author Larry Kramer, telling the audience at Dallas Pride to fight harder.

(Via - Rex Wockner)

another great find lifted from JMG

Viva Barney!

Deb Price | Uncle Sam Should Respect All Marriages

http://www.truthout.org/092309U?n

Deb Price: "Listen to the voices crying out for Congress to end the federal government's mistreatment of legally married gay couples. Listen to McKinley BarbouRoske of Iowa. She displayed a confidence well beyond her 11 years when she spoke up for her moms at a recent news conference in front of the US Capitol. McKinley's parents were finally able to wed in their home state two months ago - after nearly two decades as a couple. Now they quite rightly want Uncle Sam to recognize their marriage."

HomoQuotable - Ellen DeGeneres

"Apparently, there's a lot of debate going on right now, whether I'm qualified or not to be the new judge on American Idol... I'll tell you right now, how I know I'm going to be a great judge -- because I've spent my whole life being judged. So, I know what it's like. So, I will be kind. I will be compassionate. I will be empathetic, and I will be truthful. I will be an honest judge without being mean." - Ellen DeGeneres, defending her selection as Paula Abdul's replacement.

lifted once again from JMG

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