A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Kurt Spellmeyer is
a Zen priest and directs the Cold Mountain Sangha in New Jersey. He
teaches English at Rutgers University and is the author of Buddha at the Apocalypse: Awakening from a Culture of Destruction.Read the original and more here.
“Hope
has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger
at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as
they are.”
Kuan Yin, bodhisattva of compassion. Photo by Liza Matthews.
Jack Kornfield on beginning this time-honored, heart-opening practice.
In our culture, people find it difficult to direct loving-kindness to
themselves. We may feel that we are unworthy, or that it’s egotistical,
or that we shouldn’t be happy when other people are suffering. So
rather than start loving-kindness practice with ourselves, which is
traditional, I find it more helpful to start with those we most
naturally love and care about. One of the beautiful principles of
compassion and loving-kindness practices is that we start where it
works, where it’s easiest. We open our heart in the most natural way,
then direct our loving-kindness little by little to the areas where it’s
more difficult.
First, sit comfortably and at ease, with your eyes closed. Sense
yourself seated here in this mystery of human life. Take your seat
halfway between heaven and Earth, as the Buddha did, then bring a kind
attention to yourself. Feel your body seated and your breath breathing
naturally.
Think of someone you care about and love a lot. Then let natural
phrases of good wishes for them come into your mind and heart. Some of
the traditional ones are, “May you be safe and protected,” “May you be
healthy and strong,” and “May you be truly happy.”
Then picture a second person you care about and express the same good wishes and intentions toward them.
Next, imagine that these two people whom you love are offering you
their loving-kindness. Picture how they look at you with concern and
love as they say, “May you too be safe and protected. May you be healthy
and strong. May you be truly happy.”
Take in their good wishes. Now turn them toward yourself. Sometimes
people place their hand on their heart or their body as they repeat the
phrases: “May I be safe and protected. May I be healthy and strong. May I
be truly happy.”
With the same care let your eyes open, look around the room, and
offer your loving-kindness to everyone around you. Feel how great it is
to spread the field of loving-kindness.
Now think of yourself as a beacon, spreading the light of
loving-kindness like a lighthouse around your city, around the country,
around the world, even to distant planets. Think, “May all beings far
and near, all beings young and old, beings in every direction, be held
in great loving-kindness. May they be safe and protected. May they be
healthy and strong. May they be truly happy.”
The Buddha said that the awakened heart of loving-kindness and
freedom is our birthright as human beings. “If these things were not
possible,” he said, “I would not teach them. But because they are
possible for you, I offer these teachings of the dharma of awakening.”
Jack
Kornfield is a founding teacher of the Insight Meditation Society and
Spirit Rock Center and one of the key teachers to introduce Buddhist
mindfulness practice to the West. He is a former Buddhist monk, a
clinical psychologist, and a husband and father.
Dignity
without wisdom can be easily corrupted by pride. Generosity without
wisdom can be corrupted by self-flattery. Without wisdom, you cannot be a
perfect person—meaning that you cannot be free from complicated mind.
Without this freedom, your good qualities always risk being corrupted.
I
would say you and I are using words; we are using speaking and
listening as a vehicle for us to meet, and through which we are meeting.
Where we are capable of meeting is in the intuitive heart/mind - a way
of knowing one another that isn’t through our immediate, analytic,
intellectual process. But yet, these are word concepts that are spinning
out, and you’re picking them up, and you’re taking the concepts, and
fitting them with your concepts, and deciding they work.
You’re judging and you’re using your intellect to decide whether I’m
off the wall, or I’m here, or am I like us or am I them, or what am I?
Whatever happened to Ram Dass? And when I say I share truth with the
Beloved, it’s a place where we know how limited the words are, so we
dance with the words with our minds, while also sinking into a place of
just shared presence.
This
is the moment to return to whichever practice reinforces our moral
clarity, so that we do not wake up one day to find it eroded beyond
recognition.
One
can cross the mountains on foot, as did Siddhartha, or you can hop a
ride on the great dharma vehicle that he subsequently launched. Trusting
in ourselves, we are headed for the mountains and probable failure.
Trusting in Buddha, we just might find ourselves gliding effortlessly
into the field of merit that he has so graciously spread out to receive
us.
There’s
nothing about birth or social status that makes a person good or bad.
People are good or bad solely in terms of their actions, and so that’s
how they should be judged—not by the color of their skin.
Truth
is one of the vehicles for deepening spiritual awareness through
another human being, and if there is a license for that in the
relationship, in any relationship – with guru, with friend, with lover,
with whatever it is – it is an absolutely optimum way of coming into a
liquid spiritual relationship with another person.
But it’s very, very delicate because people feel very vulnerable. They
have parts of their mind that are cut off, that the idea that’s been
socialized is, “If I show this part of me, I would not be acceptable.”
And the ability to risk that, finally you learn how to have your truth
available.
To
the degree and extent a person practices dharma, to that degree and
extent that person gets protection from the dharma. We can never get
protection from anything else, no matter how much security, or
insurance, or how many secure locks we have—never.