Grace helps an individual see their own suffering and then use it to their advantage. It is not something that can be a rationalization for allowing another human being to suffer. And you have to listen to the level at which another person is suffering. When somebody is hungry, you give them food. As my guru said, "God comes to the hungry person in the form of food." You give them food and then when they’ve had their belly filled then they may be interested in questions about God.
Even though you know from, say, Buddhist training, or whatever spiritual
training you have had, that the root cause of suffering is ignorance,
to give somebody a Dharma lecture when they are hungry is just an
inappropriate methodology in terms of ending suffering...
- Ram Dass -