A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
On this date a sociologist at an Iranian university presented a study showing high levels of homosexual experiences among the country's population.
Iran has strict laws against sex outside marriage and other sexual acts
such as masturbation. Adultery and same-sex acts are punishable by
death. Startling new research from sociologist Parvaneh Abdul Maleki
found that 24% of Iranian women and 16% of Iranian men have had at least
one homosexual experience. 73% of men and 26% of women surveyed said
they had masturbated.
Ms. Maleki presented her findings at the Third Conference on
Well-being in the Family and the story was reported in the Iranian
press, albeit as a report on sexual deviance in need of treatment. The
report also revealed that more than 75% of those who grew up in a
conservative religious environment have watched pornography, 86% have
had a heterosexual relationship outside of marriage and just over 4%
have had Gay or Lesbian relationships. Since Iran's Islamic revolution
in 1979, human rights groups claim that between 3,000 and 4,000 people
have been executed under Sharia law for the crime of homosexuality. The
President of Iran admitted in an interview that there may be "a few" gay
people in his country, but attacked homosexuality as destructive to
society.
In an interview with U.S. current affairs TV program Democracy Now,
Mahmoud Ahmadinejad also rejected criticism of the execution of
children in Iran. During a visit to the U.S. in 2007 he said in reply to
a question posed about homosexuality during his speech at New York's
Columbia University: "In Iran we don't have homosexuals like in your
country… In Iran we do not have this phenomenon, I don't know who has
told you that we have it." In his TV interview he condemned American
acceptance of gay people. "It should be of no pride to American society
to say they defend something like this," President Ahmadinejad said.
"Just because some people want to get votes, they are willing to
overlook every morality."
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I think in relationships, you create an environment with your own work
on yourself, which you offer to another human being to use to grow in
the way they need to grow.
Whether
you are working through deep fear and shame or a less acute emotional
reaction, your inner freedom will arise from bringing attention to how
the experience is expressed in your body.
Whatever a person frequently
thinks about and ponders, that will become the inclination of their
mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders healthy states, one has
abandoned unhealthy states to cultivate the healthy states, and then
one’s mind inclines to healthy states. (MN 19)
Here a person rouses the will, makes an effort, stirs up energy, exerts
the mind, and strives to maintain arisen healthy mental states. One
maintains the arisen investigation of states awakening factor. (MN 141)
Reflection
Practice is not
just about abandoning the mental and emotional states that get in the
way of a peaceful mind; it has equally to do with encouraging and
supporting all the beneficial states. When kindness, generosity,
compassion, or wisdom arises, this is a good thing, partly because it
encourages further healthy states and partly because it blocks out
unhealthy states. Only one state at a time can occupy the mind.
Daily Practice
When you are
able to arouse the interest and curiosity that characterize the
awakening factor of the investigation of states, see what you can do to
maintain or sustain such interest. Mindfulness is a supporting
condition, as is energy or relaxed effort. It is a matter of taking
interest in the phenomenology of the inner life and inquiring deeply
into the texture, not the content, of experience. What does it feel like
to be aware of what is actually going on?
Tomorrow: Establishing Mindfulness of Mental Objects and the Fourth Jhāna One week from today: Restraining Unarisen Unhealthy States
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RIGHT LIVING Undertaking the Commitment to Abstain from Intoxication
Intoxication is unhealthy.
Refraining from intoxication is healthy. (MN 9) What are the
imperfections that defile the mind? Negligence is an imperfection that
defiles the mind. Knowing that negligence is an imperfection that
defiles the mind, a person abandons it. (MN 7) One practices thus:
"Others may become negligent by intoxication, but I will abstain from
the negligence of intoxication." (MN 8)
One of the dangers attached to addiction to intoxicants is increased quarreling. (DN 31)
Reflection
Diligence is
one of the mental states most highly valued in Buddhist teachings, and
negligence, its opposite, is one of the greatest dangers. The argument
against intoxication is not the substance itself (alcohol, drugs, and
the like) but the state of negligence it invites. The mind is "defiled"
or poisoned by these dispositions, and they lead to a host of secondary
problems, such as diminishing health and increased quarreling.
Daily Practice
Practice
diligence of mind at every opportunity and in any creative way you can.
This is not a practice of what you put into your body in the way of food
or drink but of how alert, clear, and balanced you can be in your life
every day. So many modern activities involve a sort of mental
intoxication that makes us negligent in various ways. As a practice,
notice what effect different activities have on your mental clarity.
Tomorrow: Maintaining Arisen Healthy States One week from today: Abstaining from Harming Living Beings
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RICHARD C. FRIEDMAN
was born on this date and was an academic psychiatrist, the Clinical
Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and a faculty
member at Columbia University. He was also a courageous ally of the gay
community. He conducted research in the endocrinology and the
psychodynamics of homosexuality, especially within the context of
psychoanalysis. Friedman was born in The Bronx, New York.
In the 1960s when
marriage and adopting children seemed an impossible dream for gay men,
Dr. Friedman was our champion. His 1988 book, MaleHomosexuality:AContemporaryPsychoanalyticPerspective showed
that sexual orientation was largely biological and presented a case
that helped undermine the belief held by most Freudian analysts at the
time that homosexuality was a pathology that could be cured.
His wife, a
clinical social worker at the Weill Medical College of Cornell
commented, "Straight people had the same personality issues, and they
got away with murder; but gay people were stigmatized, and he didn't
think that was right."
His work was a
direct challenge to popular Freudian theories and thrust him into the
center of debates among the more established heavyweights of
psychoanalysis. It led to a model in which analyst and patient simply
assumed that homosexuality was intrinsic, said Jack Drescher, a
professor of psychiatry at Columbia University who knew Dr. Friedman and
would later offer his own critiques of Dr. Friedman’s theory as new
approaches to working with gay and lesbian patients emerged.
“Given that
he was a younger colleague, it was brave of him to take older experts
on,” a colleague said. But it was in keeping with who he was. “He had an
edge and wasn’t afraid of anybody,” he said. Dr. Friedman died in his
home in March 2020.
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Gay Wisdom for Daily Living from White Crane Institute
"With the
increasing commodification of gay news, views, and culture by powerful
corporate interests, having a strong independent voice in our community
is all the more important. White Crane is one of the last brave
standouts in this bland new world... a triumph over the looming
mediocrity of the mainstream Gay world." - Mark Thompson
Amazon is sunsetting its AmazonSmile program, which allows shoppers to donate a percentage of purchases to their charity of choice, by Feb. 20.
The news comes as the company tightens spending and lays off 18k+ employees — some of whom received notification by email this week, per Business Insider.
Why?
Amazon says it’s donated $449m+ to 1m+ charities since AmazonSmile launched in 2013, but says the program was “spread too thin” and failed to have the desired impact.
In 2022, charities received an average of less than $230, per NPR.
Yet small organizations say it helped:
The SquirrelWood Equine Sanctuary tweeted that the $9.3k+ it’d received made a “huge difference.”
The Cat’s Meow tweeted that the ~$4k it’d received covered expenses when donations fell short.
Meanwhile…
… others argue Amazon could have done more.
In 2017, journalist Marc Gunther pointed out AmazonSmile only gave 0.5% — so a dime for a $20 purchase — and only when shoppers remembered to use the right URL.
Case in point: In 2015, the AmazonSmile Foundation donated ~$12.8m — 0.00012% of Amazon’s ~$99.1B in retail sales that year.
What now?
Customers can still donate to their favorite charities until the program ends, buy items from their wish lists, or, obviously, donate without Amazon.
Meanwhile, Amazon says it will continue to invest in areas “where it can make meaningful change,” including local nonprofits and — perhaps conveniently for Amazon — its own charitable efforts, like Amazon Future Engineer, which funds computer science education.
BTW: We know you’re dying to see the farm animals at SquirrelWood Equine Sanctuary, so here ya go.
However the seed is
planted, in that way the fruit is gathered. Good things come from doing
good deeds; bad things come from doing bad deeds. (SN 11.10) What is the
purpose of a mirror? For the purpose of reflection. So too social
action is to be done with repeated reflection. (MN 61)
One reflects thus: "A person who speaks in hurtful ways is displeasing
and disagreeable to me. If I were to speak in hurtful ways, I would be
displeasing and disagreeable to others. Therefore, I will undertake a
commitment to not speak in hurtful ways." (MN 15)
Reflection
Social action
is not one of the formal categories of action outlined by the Buddha,
but today it represents a large part of our activity. The image of
reflecting on social interactions as carefully as you would those of
body, speech, and mind is a useful one, allowing you to check on the
effects of your actions on the world around you. Is what you are doing
socially leading to beneficial or to harmful consequences?
Daily Practice
When people
speak to us in hurtful ways, our first reflex is often to respond in
kind or to recoil, feeling angry, hurt, or resentful. This teaching is
pointing us in an entirely different direction. Instead of trying to get
back at or reform the other person, we learn from them what not to do.
If you know what it feels like to be hurt, why would you want to hurt
anyone else? Try this way of looking at things and see what happens.
Tomorrow: Abstaining from Intoxication One week from today: Reflecting upon Bodily Action
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Christina
Feldman explains how samadhi creates a space to investigate and
understand the origin of Mara, the personification of the habit patterns
that lead to distress.
Generosity
keeps faith with our appreciation of each other. It stems from a
natural empathy with everything that, like us, has the courage to take a
shape in the world.