A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Life
is so full, so touching, wondrous, sad, curious, and bittersweet, that
it’s almost unbearable at times. As human beings we need to ask, Do we
have to turn away from this fullness? Can we enjoy the limitless realm
of possibility? Can we live life as an open question?
Malicious speech is
unhealthy. Refraining from malicious speech is healthy. (MN 9)
Abandoning malicious speech, one refrains from malicious speech. One
does not repeat there what one has heard here to the detriment of these,
or repeat here what he has heard there to the detriment of those. One
unites those who are divided, is a promoter of friendships, and speaks
words that promote concord. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others may speak
maliciously, but I shall abstain from malicious speech." (MN 8)
When others address you, their speech may be with a mind of
lovingkindness or with inner hate … One is to train thus: “My mind will
be unaffected, and I shall utter no bad words; I shall abide
compassionate for their welfare, with a mind of lovingkindness, without
inner hate.” (MN 21)
Reflection
Words are one
thing, and the emotion or intention behind them is another. What matters
more than the content of what is said is how it is said, the quality of
mind behind the words. You can say, “I hope you have a nice day” with
benevolent good will, or you can say the exact same thing with a voice
that is dripping with sarcasm and venom. We all know the difference when
on the receiving end of such speech.
Daily Practice
It is an
advanced practice to receive malicious speech—words uttered with some
degree of hatred—and not return the same emotion. It is an even more
challenging practice to respond with kindness, yet it can be done.
Practice this today, all day. Even if someone addresses you maliciously,
make a point of not letting it evoke malice from you. See if everything
you say today can be said with the underlying emotion of kindness.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Verbal Action One week from today: Refraining from Harsh Speech
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RIGHT VIEW Understanding the Noble Truth of the Origin of Suffering
What is the origin of
suffering? It is craving, which brings renewal of being, is accompanied
by delight and lust, and delights in this and that; that is, craving for
sensual pleasures, craving for being, and craving for non-being. (MN 9)
When one does not know and see bodily sensations as they actually are,
then one is attached to bodily sensations. When one is attached, one
becomes infatuated, and one’s craving increases. One’s bodily and mental
troubles increase, and one experiences bodily and mental suffering. (MN
149)
Reflection
The fifth of
the six sense modalities is the range of bodily sensations that are
discernable through the body as a sense organ. Like all the other sense
organs, the body is an instrument for both the arising of suffering and
the cessation of suffering. When craving is present, either for a
pleasant sensation or for the cessation of a painful sensation, a
micro-moment of suffering is produced. You can experience this happening
in your body again and again.
Daily Practice
Whether sitting
or walking or engaging in any of your other normal activities, pay
close attention to the sensations of the body as they naturally arise
and pass away. Notice how some are favored (the ones that feel good) and
some are resented and resisted (the ones that feel bad). Notice how
that subtle attachment or aversion, called infatuation in this text, is
the starting point for all kinds of discontent and suffering.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Compassion One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Cessation of Suffering
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If
something is not working out, do not hold on to it for too long just
because you have already invested a lot of time and effort. Knowing the
right time to give up is a form of wisdom. Giving up does not mean the
end but the beginning of a new path.