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However the seed is
planted, in that way the fruit is gathered. Good things come from doing
good deeds, bad things come from doing bad deeds. (SN 11.10) What is the
purpose of a mirror? For the purpose of reflection. So too mental
action is to be done with repeated reflection. (MN 61)
When you have done an action with the mind, reflect upon that same
mental action thus: “Has this action I have done with the mind led to
both my own affliction and the affliction of another?” If, upon
reflection, you know that it has, then tell someone you trust about it
and undertake a commitment not to do it again. If you know it has not,
then be content and feel happy about it. (MN 61)
Reflection
Mental action
is at least as important and influential as physical and verbal action.
Every thought, memory, or image that goes through your mind constitutes a
mental act, and it is based on these mental events that other actions
are put into play. It is okay to reflect from time to time on what has
gone through your mind and inquire whether on the whole it has been
healthy or unhealthy. This is a form of mental housekeeping.
Daily Practice
Now and then,
step out of merely thinking thoughts and reflect on them. A mirror
creates an image of whatever passes before it and reveals what it looks
like from another perspective. Learn to do that with your own mind by
stepping back and gazing on your thoughts rather than “inhabiting” them,
as you normally do. This is one way of understanding the practice of
mindfulness—becoming aware of what is happening.
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Harsh speech is unhealthy.
Refraining from harsh speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning harsh speech,
one refrains from harsh speech. One speaks words that are gentle,
pleasing to the ear, and affectionate, words that go to the heart, are
courteous, and are agreeable to many. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others
may speak harshly, but I shall abstain from harsh speech.” (MN 8)
How does there come to be non-insistence on local language and
non-overriding of normal usage? In different localities they call the
same thing by different words. So whatever they call it in such and such
a locality, without adhering to that word one speaks accordingly,
thinking: “These people, it seems, are speaking with reference to this.”
(MN 139)
Reflection
One way of
speaking harshly is to dominate how words are used and understood. Too
often we listen to others barely enough to project our own meaning onto
their words and wait impatiently for the opportunity to jump back in and
speak again. Right speech is a two-way street and involves learning
from others at least as much as conveying our own perspectives to them.
Refraining from speaking without listening is healthy.
Daily Practice
Practice
listening when you are talking with people. Actively attend to what they
say and try to understand in their own terms what they mean. Assume you
don’t automatically understand them and practice inquiring into their
words and phrases and attending to their non-verbal clues with an open
mind. It may be that people are saying things from which you can learn
something new. Right speech includes right listening.
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Sometimes
we get the idea that there’s a best practice, a right practice, a most
powerful practice. But different practices and different qualities or
nuances of practice might be most appropriate for us at different times
as our practice, understanding, and recognition of what’s helpful,
needed, or skillful evolves.
Martin Aylward, “Give Your Practice Permission to Change”
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Whatever you intend,
whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will
become the basis upon which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop
meditation on appreciative joy, for when you develop meditation on
appreciative joy, any discontent will be abandoned. (MN 62)
The near enemy of appreciative joy is ordinary joy. (Vm 9.100)
Reflection
The “sublime
state” of appreciative joy does not simply mean joy as a pleasant mental
feeling or the emotion of uplifted joy. It is not just feeling good but
feeling good in a particular set of circumstances—when you observe or
contemplate good things happening to others. Ordinary joy is
self-referential, while appreciative joy is more universal and focused
on the good fortune of others.
Daily Practice
Learn to
discern the different ways joy can manifest in your experience. In
particular, see if you can get a good felt sense of what the special
quality of appreciative joy feels like. This is the emotion of feeling
good about good things happening to other people. Practice calling to
mind the goodness of others, and then settle into the emotion of wishing
them well and appreciating their success in a way that is not about
you.
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