A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
However the seed is planted, in that way the fruit is gathered. Good things come from doing good deeds, bad things come from doing bad deeds. (SN 11.10) What is the purpose of a mirror? For the purpose of reflection. So too social action is to be done with repeated reflection. (MN 61)
One reflects thus: "Others may act in unhealthy ways; I shall refrain from acting in unhealthy ways." (MN 8) One lives with companions in concord, with mutual appreciation, without disputing, blending like milk and water, viewing each other with kindly eyes. One practices thus: "I maintain bodily acts of lovingkindness toward my companions both openly and privately." (MN 31)
Reflection
So much of what we think, say, and do affects the people around us. It is important to bring awareness and care to our social interactions. When we “view each other with kindly eyes,” it is natural and easy to be thoughtful. It is often the little things we do that have a big effect on maintaining harmony among friends, family, and co-workers.
Daily Practice
One simple way to practice living with others in harmony is to do kindly acts for them from time to time. Today, actively look for ways to do little things with the intention of pleasing someone. And don’t necessarily feel the need for such deeds to be acknowledged. Much value comes from performing acts of kindness in private. Take it up as a challenge—finding creative ways to do something nice for someone, even in secret.
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Actions conditioned by greed, hatred, and delusion bring a heavy burden of suffering. On the other hand, actions conditioned by generosity, lovingkindness, and wisdom lead to a light and happy sense of well-being. Simple as that.
Buddhist Film Festival Presented by Tricycle March 15-24, 2024
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Frivolous speech is
unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9)
Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One
speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about
what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that
are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus:
"Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous
speech." (MN 8)
When a person commits an offense of some kind, one should not hurry to
reprove them but rather should consider whether or not to speak. If you
will be troubled, the other person will be hurt, and you can help them
emerge from what is unhealthy and establish them in what is healthy,
then it is proper to speak. It is a trifle that you will be troubled and
they will be hurt compared with the value of helping establish them in
what is healthy. (MN 103)
Reflection
The teachings
on right speech are encouraging us to take the matter of communication
more seriously than we often do. Often a lot of chattering is not
conveying anything important, and it has a tendency to be distracting,
making us less attentive. Speaking carefully about what is true and good
brings greater value to our speech and renders it more worthy of being
overheard.
Daily Practice
The example
offered in this passage suggests that we should not jump to reprimand
someone when they have committed some small offense. Pausing to consider
whether to speak up breaks the momentum of a quick, reflexive reaction.
It may turn out to be appropriate to speak, but the key issue is
whether it would be helpful to do so. Note that whether speaking up
would be troublesome or might hurt the other person is a trifle in
comparison to the benefit of “helping establish them in what is
healthy.”
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Social Action One week from today: Refraining from False Speech
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Community
is where we find our power. And it can also assuage our sense of
loneliness and powerlessness. There’s a wonderful anecdote where Ananda
asks the Buddha, “Good friendship is half the spiritual life, isn’t it?”
And the Buddha replies, “It’s the whole thing.”
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Buddhist Film Festival Presented by Tricycle March 15-24, 2024
We
invite you to join us for our first-ever Buddhist Film Festival from
March 15-24, offering five feature-length films, five short films, and a
live screening and Q&A with filmmaker Lana Wilson!