The romantic quality of love, which is between separate entities, is a
doorway into deeper love. A lot of people experience a quality they call
love but they’re doing it with their mind, they’re not really opening
their hearts fully, they are loving, meaning I am attracted to… or I am
attached to.
When we talk about love versus fear for example, we are talking about ‘being’ versus ‘fear’, or ‘unity’ versus ‘separateness’.
So I would say that when the fear dissipates you are feeling at home in
the universe. Meaning your identity with your separateness isn’t
overriding your feeling of connection with everything to the point that
you’re feeling cut off and vulnerable - which is where the root of the
fear is.
So as you cultivate that unitive quality the fear dissipates, so the
relation is one between love and fear, but it’s not the love in the
sense of ‘I love you’, it's the sense that we are together in the space
of love.
- Ram Dass -