Sunday, November 5, 2023

Via Daily Dharma: Choose Compassion

 

Choose Compassion

The choices we make daily make us who we are. As today opens in front of you, choose compassion.

Hersch Wilson, “Choosing Compassion”


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Via White Crane Institute // Equinox/Return

 

Today's Gay Wisdom
The First (modern) Faerie Gathering
2017 -

Equinox/Return

An excerpt from Mark Thompson’s Gay Spirit: Myth & Meaning

What Edward Carpenter, Gerald Heard and Harry Hay recognized was the “new city of Friends” described by Walt Whitman over a hundred years ago—a sustaining place where “robust love” might thrive, a deep source of empowerment. It has been a dream asserted by a few and glimpsed by others at crucial points in our development. The early 1950s and 1970s were times when our movement howled at the moon, briefly acknowledging that this dream could be a reality. That this rude awakening represented something instinctual, wildly alive, posed problems for our leaders. Here was nature, woolly and cloven-hoofed, taking on unexpected form. Here were luminous faces peering out on the edges of accepted reality. How strangely familiar, too, for others to suppress what they do not comprehend, to fear what they’ve been taught to distrust.

Power, status, the hierarchy of who’s on top is the real currency of American culture, and so many of our leaders have been seduced by it all. These are the tactics of assimilation and they smell of panic. Thinking we have gained so much, we have been led to settle for less than we can be.

There is a tyranny implicit in any label, and certainly the label of Gay has now been revealed as much for its limitations as for its liberations. Why not consider difference, whatever its reason, in terms of function? The concept of a faerie shaman is just one idea that indicates a purposeful role, beyond that of just political or sexual identity. In times past and in many cultures, we often assumed the tasks of the shamans—wise and creative ones—and were duly honored as such. If we can but take gay beyond society’s definition—which we have internalized—and see ourselves as part of this function, our secret will be out.

I failed in my father’s eyes, and he in mind, as, I suppose, it had been fated. More to the point, few gay men ever seem to find complete acceptance from their fathers. (And even tolerance, however honorable, cannot account for true knowing.) Gay men have even less hope of being accepted by the greater father, the world of our daily existence, which, despite tolerant inroads, remains disapproving to its core. But neither can an opposite reality—that is, the matriarchy—hold any more honest place for us. Perhaps at one time, and according to the current feminist myth, the dominant Great Mother societies of agrarian, pre-Judeo-Christian times accepted gay men as welcomed sons. But I suspect, more likely, as subservient sons, in contrast to the outlawed sons of our contemporary age.

So gay men remain suspended in a horrible dilemma. Both the matriarchy and the patriarchy have, in effect, played themselves out; and the future, symbolized through an historic union of the two—has yet to fully emerge. Gay male consciousness remains stymied, unable to come of age. This is why so much of recent gay-identified culture appears to lack deeper meaning; however fresh and guileless its messages, empowered as it is by ritual dance and sex and defiance against corrupt authority.

At what point do gay boys stop finding favor in their father’s eyes? What stories are withheld, what rites of manhood lost in that uncomprehending gaze? Now, as gay men, we must begin by finding forgiveness in each other’s eyes, seek favor in stories of our own telling — our own fairy tales, the instructional fables we need to assume a mature and ever evolving gay adulthood. And for this we need to reinvest in wonder.

By learning more fully to evoke and to balance the powers of (what were once known as) the Earth Mother and Father Sky, we can set into motion our own whiling evolution as gay men beyond definition. We will no longer suffer from the constraints of living on a fraction of a life. We will evidence harmony as men who see clearly within and thus act cleanly without. We can learn to revel in our perspective, as much as our preference, and we don’t need a name. Our freedom is our responsibility. We simply need to do our work.

But first we must take the dark fantasies of our suppressed spirits out of their closets into the powerful light of reality. We can have a vision, and, thus, a culture to affirm, until one day perhaps our fathers will knowingly proclaim: “I have one of those.”

Gay Spirit: Myth & Meaning is now available at www.gaywisdom.org www.whitecranebooks.org


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Saturday, November 4, 2023

[GBF] New Talk: Returning Home to Our Refuge - David Lewis

 [GBF] New Talk: Returning Home to Our Refuge - David Lewis

"Returning Home to Our Refuge" with David Lewis

In this stressful world, there are many things we can do to alleviate our suffering and the world's, but there's only so much we can change. That's when it becomes important to realize the ways in which we are powerless, and to take refuge from the resulting stress.

In this talk, David Lewis shares that true refuge is not a place or a person, it is within us. We can find peace and serenity regardless of what is happening outside of us.

David likens mindfulness practice to the 'Home' button on an iPad tablet. When we get confused or anxious, we can use it to return again to a familiar starting point. Just as in The Wizard of Oz when Dorothy discovered that her red shoes were the key to returning home, when we pause for a moment, we will realize that we are always at home if we can only appreciate it.
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November 4, 2023

 Living Everyday Like a Wandering Retreat
 
Beloved Tibetan Buddhist Meditation teacher Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche spent four-and-a-half years as a wandering yogi—no shelter, no food, relying solely on the generosity of those he met on his travels to keep him going.

Wandering . . . But Not Lost, our Film Club pick for November, is an intimate account of this journey from 2011 to 2015, interspersed with Mingyur Rinpoche’s wise guidance for daily life. Highlighting the highs and lows of the trip, including a near death experience, Mingyur Rinpoche recounts the insight he gained as a result of it all. “The entire path is a shift in perception,” he says. 

Director Paul MacGowen hopes that the film can help us view “our normal daily lives [as] a kind of ‘wandering retreat.’ We can bring that attitude of adventure to even the most mundane aspects of our lives and thereby experience the world in an open and fresh way. Through this mindset, we can grow and develop ourselves. Who wouldn’t want to embrace the full experience of life—whatever the outward circumstances?” 

Immerse yourself in the wandering journey of Mingyur Rinpoche and bring this mindset into your own life. Subscribers can watch the film now through December 1—watch it here!

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Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Effort: Restraining Unarisen Unhealthy States

 

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Restraining Unarisen Unhealthy States
Whatever a person frequently thinks about and ponders, that will become the inclination of their mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders unhealthy states, one has abandoned healthy states to cultivate unhealthy states, and then one’s mind inclines to unhealthy states. (MN 19)
Reflection
The mind has the capacity to guide how it functions to some extent, and unhealthy states such as fear, anger, and aversion have a harmful effect on our well-being. So it makes sense to use whatever ability you have to inhibit the arising of these mental and emotional states before they flood your mind. Once they arise, unhealthy states take over and inhibit the arising of healthy mind states, so it’s better they don’t occur at all. 
Daily Practice
Keeping your mind focused on healthy states prevents unhealthy states from arising. Only one state of mind can be present at a time, so if you frequently occupy your mind with healthy states, such as thoughts of kindness or generosity or joy in the well-being of others, then your mind will remain inclined toward similar healthy states. Maintaining positive states of mind is the best way of restraining negative mind states.
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Via Daily Dharma: What Lies Behind the Mask

What Lies Behind the Mask

Instead of trying to polish our mask until it becomes perfect, we can start looking for the one who’s wearing it.

Santiago Santai Jiménez, “Waking Up Is Letting the Mask Fall”


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Friday, November 3, 2023

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[GBF] New Talk: Claiming our Unique Way of Living, with JD Doyle

Here's a new dharma talk that has been added to the GBF website and podcast.

As queer/non-conforming individuals, how do we claim our unique way of living, but also let go of our attachment to an identity?

In this talk, JD Doyle explores how we can re-orient ourselves to our lives, and connect with the non-human aspects of our world, such as other life forms and the natural world.

As we witness so many attacks on various categories of people, it’s easy to begin thinking of our world as fragmented. Instead, we can re-member, or bring together, the various parts of our fractured selves AND the people in our lives, present and past.

When we feel attacked, we long for security. This is when we must re-orient ourselves to what we actually need to be stable, vs. what we have come to believe we need to be safe. JD contrasts this with the Buddhist truth of impermanence and that letting go of these beliefs can reduce our suffering.

JD goes on to quote a book, ‘Hospicing Modernity‘ and speaks on how we can observe aspects of our world that are waning, or disappearing.

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https://gaybuddhist.org/podcast/claiming-our-unique-way-of-living-jd-doyle/

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Living: Abstaining from Harming Living Beings


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Undertaking the Commitment to Abstain from Harming Living Beings
Harming living beings is unhealthy. Refraining from harming living beings is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning the harming of living beings, one abstains from harming living beings; with rod and weapon laid aside, gentle and kindly, one abides compassionate to all living beings. (MN 41) One practices thus: “Others may harm living beings, but I will abstain from the harming of living beings.” (MN 8)
Reflection
One of the key characteristics of Buddhism and other Indian traditions is a fundamental respect for life and a commitment to an attitude of non-harming. One form this can take is giving the gift of harmlessness to all beings through ethical behavior: not killing, not lying, not stealing, not misbehaving sexually, and not becoming intoxicated in various ways. Beyond these restraints, you can also actively practice kindness and compassion.
Daily Practice
Bring a benevolent attitude of harmlessness to the forefront of your mind whenever you remember to do so. When looking at or thinking about a living being, allow the natural emotion of caring to arise and sustain it by actively reinforcing it with the thought “May you be healthy; may you be well; may you feel safe and free from harm.” Undertake a commitment to abide with compassion for all living beings whenever you can.
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Via Daily Dharma: Find Your Own Dance

 

Find Your Own Dance

A teacher can sing a song and show you some moves but ultimately the dance belongs to you. A good teacher gets out of your way and, in this regard, a flawed but honest teacher is often the best teacher.

Shozan Jack Haubner, “Delbert and the Butterfly”


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