ASSUNTA FEMIA,
a San Francisco poet, actor, and political activist who admired nuns,
died on this date at a friend's home in Oregon from liver cancer,
secondary to hepatitis B. He would have been 59 next month.
Assunta was born
Francis Thomas Femia in December 1947, the son of an Italian-American
father and a West Virginia mother. After growing up in modest
circumstances in West Virginia and Philadelphia, and later serving time
in federal prison for an anti-war protest, he arrived in San Francisco
in 1975. Assunta started walking about the city dressed as a nun, which
was a novel sight at the time, and began using the female pronoun for
self-reference. Eventually, she changed her name to Assunta, which means
"Taken Up," a title referring to the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin
Mary.
Assunta loved the
nuns and the Catholic liturgy that she knew from childhood. However,
she rejected the church's male-focused theology and scorned priests and
the pope. She created her own special spirituality based on a sense of
service to the divine feminine, traditional Catholic veneration of the
Blessed Virgin, and fierce independence of spirit. Assunta's eye-popping
spirituality struck a responsive chord in San Francisco's gay community
in the 1970s and 1980s. She helped inspire the founding of the Sisters
of Perpetual Indulgence, a group that continues to this day. However,
she was too independent-minded to spend much time with the Sisters, and
she never adopted a mocking posture toward nuns.
Assunta had made
waves before coming to San Francisco. In 1968, at age 21, she was
arrested, along with two other Catholic peace activists, for pouring
black paint on draft files in Boston, to protest the war in Vietnam. As a
consequence, she spent two years in federal prison in Kentucky, where
she came out as gay. She said she preferred prison life in Kentucky to
parochial high school in south Philadelphia: "Prison was a lot less
brutal than high school. I never got beat up in prison."
Starting in the
1980s, Assunta spent much time in southern Oregon, going back and forth
between there and San Francisco. When in Oregon, she rented a small
house in a wooded area outside the town of Wolf Creek, whose owner lived
in San Francisco. A local homophobe firebombed the house, but luckily
Femia was absent at the time.
She became the
butt of taunts and threats from redneck men in rural Oregon because of
her feminine appearance. But her tormentors always backed off, sensing
on some level that she was not someone to mess with. They were right.
Tucked away in her colorfully knitted Guatemalan handbag, next to her
favorite rosary, she carried a big handgun.
During Assunta's
tenancy, the Wolf Creek property was often visited by gay men seeking
alternatives to urban life, and the land gradually took on the nature of
a country refuge. Eventually, a collective of Radical Faeries from San
Francisco, including followers of the late Harry Hay, came into
possession of the property and turned it into a faerie sanctuary.
A bitter conflict
soon developed between the swarm of new faery landlords and the
longstanding tenant. Things got off to a rocky start when Hay rebuked
Assunta for including Catholic elements in her spirituality. The turning
point came when one of the new faery occupants erected some stone
phalluses on the land. Assunta regarded the phalluses as glorifications
of male power in a place sacred to the divine feminine. She destroyed
them all with a hammer, celebrating the feat with an triumphant poem, "i smashed the phalloi."
Assunta proved to
be too radical for the Radical Faeries, and a parting of the ways
followed. She abandoned the land she had made safe for the new dwellers
and the home that she and some friends had built to replace the one that
was firebombed. "It was easier with one landlord than 200," she later
quipped.
Assunta performed
in plays and musicals in both Oregon in San Francisco. In 1984, at the
former Valencia Rose cabaret in the Mission, she played the lead role of
the god Dionysos in The God of Ecstasy , a rendition of Euripides's play Bakkhai .
When asked at a rehearsal by other members of the cast how she landed
the lead role, she announced to all, "I slept with the director" (which
was true).
She was active in
Bay Area Gay Liberation and also the Butterfly Brigade, a civilian foot
patrol organized to combat anti-gay violence in the Castro. When the
AIDS epidemic hit, she spent much time caring for the dying, both in
Oregon and San Francisco, drawing on skills she had learned from a stint
in nursing school.
[Editor's Note: this bio is based in large part on Assunta's obituary in the Bay Area Reporter, written by Arthur Evans]