“Once
we become independent, we may or may not end up helping to sustain our
parents, but we need to observe who in us is doing this. Where does our
sense of responsibility come from: guilt or love? Do we want to help
because our heart is open, or because we feel guilty? Many people help
their parents out of a sense of obligation, but they will later expect
'compensation,' even charging 'interest' and 'inflation adjustments.'
Rather than being monetary, this compensation comes in the form of
emotional pressure. One actually ends up subtly humiliating one’s
parents, taking revenge for having been hurt in the past.”
Sri Prem Baba
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