A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Thursday, August 31, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Karmic Gardening
Learn
to selectively water the positive seeds and flowers in you by attending
to them. There are enough weeds. You don’t have to encourage them.
—Thomas Bien, “Water the Flowers, Not the Weeds”
—Thomas Bien, “Water the Flowers, Not the Weeds”
Wednesday, August 30, 2017
Via JMG and CBS / West Virginia County To Pay Settlement And Apologize After Deputy Clerk Called Gay Couple An “Abomination”
GILMER COUNTY, W.Va. (WDTV) -- A settlement has been announced in a federal lawsuit against Gilmer County.
The case Brookover v. Gilmer County was a result of alleged harassment received by a same-sex couple when going to get their marriage license.
According to a news release by Americans United for Separation of Church and State, Gilmer County Deputy Clerk Debbie Allen called Amanda Abramovich and Samantha Brookover an “abomination” to God and stated their marriage shouldn’t be legal.
The lawsuit was filed on behalf of the women by Mayer Brown LLP, Americans United for Separation of Church and State and Fairness West Virginia, naming Allen, Gilmer County Clerk Jean Butcher and Gilmer County as the defendants. Americans United stated the defendants violated the U.S. Constitution by “treating same-sex couple differently from others in the name of religion.”
The settlement includes Gilmer County apologizing to Abramovich and Brookover and paying damages to them. It also includes the county issuing a public statement regarding the wrongdoing of the County Clerk’s office. The county has also promised to take steps to ensure their employees do not discriminate against anyone again.
In a statement, Abramovich and Brookover said,
““When we went to get our marriage license, this was the last thing we
expected. We were presented with two options: accept this treatment and
leave the possibility that other couples would have to endure this as
well, or speak up for ourselves and hopefully stop it from continuing.”
“Consenting adults should never be made to feel embarrassed or ashamed when marrying the person they love,” they added. “It will be a comfort to know that this behavior will no longer be allowed in the Gilmer County Courthouse.”
“Religious freedom is a fundamental American value, and finding someone to love and to marry is a fundamental part of the American dream for many. One should not come at the expense of the other,” said Richard B. Katskee, legal director of Americans United “Religious freedom gives us all the right to believe, or not, as we see fit, but it does not give anyone the right to harm others.”
The case Brookover v. Gilmer County was a result of alleged harassment received by a same-sex couple when going to get their marriage license.
According to a news release by Americans United for Separation of Church and State, Gilmer County Deputy Clerk Debbie Allen called Amanda Abramovich and Samantha Brookover an “abomination” to God and stated their marriage shouldn’t be legal.
The lawsuit was filed on behalf of the women by Mayer Brown LLP, Americans United for Separation of Church and State and Fairness West Virginia, naming Allen, Gilmer County Clerk Jean Butcher and Gilmer County as the defendants. Americans United stated the defendants violated the U.S. Constitution by “treating same-sex couple differently from others in the name of religion.”
The settlement includes Gilmer County apologizing to Abramovich and Brookover and paying damages to them. It also includes the county issuing a public statement regarding the wrongdoing of the County Clerk’s office. The county has also promised to take steps to ensure their employees do not discriminate against anyone again.
“Consenting adults should never be made to feel embarrassed or ashamed when marrying the person they love,” they added. “It will be a comfort to know that this behavior will no longer be allowed in the Gilmer County Courthouse.”
“Religious freedom is a fundamental American value, and finding someone to love and to marry is a fundamental part of the American dream for many. One should not come at the expense of the other,” said Richard B. Katskee, legal director of Americans United “Religious freedom gives us all the right to believe, or not, as we see fit, but it does not give anyone the right to harm others.”
Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 30, 2017
My work around the issue of aging is to quiet the mind — it’s standing back enough so that I am not so caught in the culture and the set of attitudes I developed from my childhood, and so on—that I can see what is and respond in a way that is in harmony with that, to become a part of it. Which is the way a bird sings or a river flows or a baby cries.
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: Practicing Prayer
Your prayers are answered without your having to think about them. They are answered through the practice of prayer itself.
—Ken McLeod, “Prayer Without Blind Faith”
—Ken McLeod, “Prayer Without Blind Faith”
Tuesday, August 29, 2017
Via The independent / Chile legalises gay marriage and allows LGBT couples to adopt as historic new bill signed
Chile legalises gay marriage and allows LGBT couples to adopt as historic new bill signed
'We can’t let old prejudices be stronger than love,' President Michelle Bachelet says
Chilean President Michelle Bachelet has introduced a bill to legalise gay marriage, the latest in a series of recent reforms in a country long regarded as one of Latin America’s most socially conservative.
Bachelet signed the proposal, which will be sent to lawmakers, at a ceremony in the presidential palace. She said the measure seeks to expand the definition of marriage between a man and a woman and would also expand rights for gay couples, allowing them to adopt children.
“We can’t let old prejudices be stronger than love,” Bachelet said.
Chile approved civil unions for same-sex couples in 2015 and decriminalised gay sex in 1999. The bill comes a week after Chile’s Constitutional Court upheld a measure that would end the country’s absolute ban on abortions.
Civil unions have been recognised in several South American countries, though only Argentina and Uruguay have codified same-sex marriage. Gay marriage has also been legalised in Brazil and Colombia under court rulings.
It’s unlikely Bachelet will be able to push the measure through Congress before she ends her term in March 2018. But gay right advocates celebrated the decision as an important step toward full rights.
“It’s the beginning of the end of discrimination based on sexual orientation to access marriage,” said Luis Larrain, founder of the Iguales Foundation.
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Bachelet signed the proposal, which will be sent to lawmakers, at a ceremony in the presidential palace. She said the measure seeks to expand the definition of marriage between a man and a woman and would also expand rights for gay couples, allowing them to adopt children.
“We can’t let old prejudices be stronger than love,” Bachelet said.
Chile approved civil unions for same-sex couples in 2015 and decriminalised gay sex in 1999. The bill comes a week after Chile’s Constitutional Court upheld a measure that would end the country’s absolute ban on abortions.
Civil unions have been recognised in several South American countries, though only Argentina and Uruguay have codified same-sex marriage. Gay marriage has also been legalised in Brazil and Colombia under court rulings.
It’s unlikely Bachelet will be able to push the measure through Congress before she ends her term in March 2018. But gay right advocates celebrated the decision as an important step toward full rights.
“It’s the beginning of the end of discrimination based on sexual orientation to access marriage,” said Luis Larrain, founder of the Iguales Foundation.
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Via Daily Dharma: Work from Where You Are
In
human life, if you feel that you have made a mistake, you don’t try to
undo the past or the present, but you just accept where you are and work
from there.
—Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, “Your Life Is Your Practice”
—Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, “Your Life Is Your Practice”
Via Ram Dass
Worry and fear are not tickets on the express train. They are extra baggage. You were going that way anyway.
- Ram Dass -
Monday, August 28, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Putting Practice before Belief
All
religions claim to teach noble truths; in a sense, it’s a given in this
kind of discourse. What would happen if we stopped using that language?
I think it would free us up to give primacy to the practices.
—Stephen Batchelor, “Understand, Realize, Give Up, Develop”
—Stephen Batchelor, “Understand, Realize, Give Up, Develop”
Sunday, August 27, 2017
Via FB / From his deep studies of Gandhi and his own experience, Martin Luther King Jr. developed a list of six facts to help people understand non-violent resistance
"From his deep studies of Gandhi and his own experience, Martin Luther King Jr. developed a list of six facts to help people understand non-violent resistance and join with him in his vision.
King’s words are as insightful and thought provoking today as they were when he wrote them:
1. Non-violent resistance is not for cowards. It is not a quiet, passive acceptance of evil. One is passive and non-violent physically, but very active spiritually, always seeking ways to persuade the opponent of advantages to the way of love, cooperation, and peace.
King’s words are as insightful and thought provoking today as they were when he wrote them:
1. Non-violent resistance is not for cowards. It is not a quiet, passive acceptance of evil. One is passive and non-violent physically, but very active spiritually, always seeking ways to persuade the opponent of advantages to the way of love, cooperation, and peace.
2. The goal is not to defeat or humiliate the opponent but rather to win him or her over to understanding new ways to create cooperation and community.
3. The non-violent resister attacks the forces of evil, not the people who are engaged in injustice. As King said in Montgomery, “We are out to defeat injustice and not white persons who may be unjust.”
4. The non-violent resister accepts suffering without retaliating; accepts violence, but never commits it. Gandhi said, “Rivers of blood may have to flow before we gain our freedom, but it must be our blood.” Gandhi and King both understood that suffering by activists had the mysterious power of converting opponents who would otherwise refuse to listen.
5. In non-violent resistance, one learns to avoid physical violence toward others and also learns to love the opponents with “agape” or unconditional love–which is love given not for what one will receive in return, but for the sake of love alone. It is God flowing through the human heart. Agape is ahimsa. “Along the way of life, someone must have sense enough and morality enough to cut off the chain of hate,” said King.
6. Non-violent resistance is based on the belief that the universe is just. There is God or a creative force that is moving us toward universal love and wholeness continually. Therefore, all our work for justice will bear fruit – the fruit of love, peace, and justice for all beings everywhere.”
3. The non-violent resister attacks the forces of evil, not the people who are engaged in injustice. As King said in Montgomery, “We are out to defeat injustice and not white persons who may be unjust.”
4. The non-violent resister accepts suffering without retaliating; accepts violence, but never commits it. Gandhi said, “Rivers of blood may have to flow before we gain our freedom, but it must be our blood.” Gandhi and King both understood that suffering by activists had the mysterious power of converting opponents who would otherwise refuse to listen.
5. In non-violent resistance, one learns to avoid physical violence toward others and also learns to love the opponents with “agape” or unconditional love–which is love given not for what one will receive in return, but for the sake of love alone. It is God flowing through the human heart. Agape is ahimsa. “Along the way of life, someone must have sense enough and morality enough to cut off the chain of hate,” said King.
6. Non-violent resistance is based on the belief that the universe is just. There is God or a creative force that is moving us toward universal love and wholeness continually. Therefore, all our work for justice will bear fruit – the fruit of love, peace, and justice for all beings everywhere.”
Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 27, 2017
You
couldn’t possibly be lonely, because where could you go? Do you think
if I go in my bathroom and lock the door I can be lonely? I can’t be.
It’s always one thought away: The living spirit, the community of our
consciousness, that guru inside, is always one thought away.
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: A Pinch of Generosity
When
you are practicing generosity, you should feel a little pinch when you
give something away. That pinch is your stinginess protesting.
—Gelek Rimpoche, “Generosity (and Greed) Introduction”
—Gelek Rimpoche, “Generosity (and Greed) Introduction”
Saturday, August 26, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: How Self-judgment Can Be Skillful
Joy
is what healthy shame and honor are for: to help you see for yourself
the well-being that comes from mastering higher levels of skill and
harmlessness in your actions.
—Thanissaro Bhikkhu, “Why Shame Gets a Bad Rap”
—Thanissaro Bhikkhu, “Why Shame Gets a Bad Rap”
Friday, August 25, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Willing to Experiment
We do not need to be afraid of our mind. We can go on a journey of discovery and experiment.
—Martine Batchelor, “Meditation, Mental Habits, and Creative Imagination”
—Martine Batchelor, “Meditation, Mental Habits, and Creative Imagination”
Thursday, August 24, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: What Can You Give Up?
The spiritual path is about what we give up, not what we get.
—Tim Olmsted, “The Great Experiment”
—Tim Olmsted, “The Great Experiment”
Wednesday, August 23, 2017
Via Ram Dass / 25 of 34 Words of Wisdom - August 23, 2017
Since
love is a state of being, and a Divine state at that, the state to
which we all yearn to return, we wish to possess love. At best we can
try to possess the key to our hearts, our Beloved, but sooner or later
we find that even that is impossible. To possess the key is to lose it.
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: The Ultimate All-Inclusive Sangha
Everyone
I meet is in my sangha. I don’t know if that’s the proper definition,
but that’s the way I’m going to hold it in my mind.
—Jeff Bridges, “The Natural”
—Jeff Bridges, “The Natural”
Tuesday, August 22, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Realizing Goals Requires a Routine
The key to development along the Buddhist path is repetitive routine guided by inspirational vision.
—Bhikkhu Bodhi, “Vision and Routine”
—Bhikkhu Bodhi, “Vision and Routine”
Monday, August 21, 2017
Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 20, 2017
One
of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we
want to know that we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot
know wisdom.
You must be wisdom.
When my guru wanted to put me down, he called me ‘clever.’ When he wanted to reward me, he would call me ‘simple.’ The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The intuitive, compassionate heart is the doorway to our unity.
You must be wisdom.
When my guru wanted to put me down, he called me ‘clever.’ When he wanted to reward me, he would call me ‘simple.’ The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The intuitive, compassionate heart is the doorway to our unity.
-- Ram Dass --
Via Daily Dharma: The Many Varieties of Belief
We
all believe in something: self, nonself, an omnipotent creator, karma,
science, reality, emptiness, dragons, elves... When we see that
belief gives color to every stratum of our experience of reality, we can
embrace others as kindred believers, regardless of the shades we tend
to favor.
—Pamela Gayle White, “Real Belief”
Sunday, August 20, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Getting Our Effort "In Tune"
If
effort isn’t balanced, the Buddha says, we’ll produce an untoward
result, in the same way that a stringed instrument, if not tuned
properly, will produce a dissonant sound.
—Peter Doobinin, “Skillful Effort”
—Peter Doobinin, “Skillful Effort”
Saturday, August 19, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Clear Intention Comes First
Meditation practice flourishes when it is supported by clear intention.
—Gil Fronsdal, “Evaluate Your Meditation”
—Gil Fronsdal, “Evaluate Your Meditation”
Friday, August 18, 2017
Via Barack Obama / FB:
The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up & do something.
Don't wait for good things to happen to you.
If you go out & make some good things happen you will fill the world w/hope...and you will fill yourself w/hope.
- Barack Obama
Don't wait for good things to happen to you.
If you go out & make some good things happen you will fill the world w/hope...and you will fill yourself w/hope.
- Barack Obama
Via Daily Dharma: The Mind's Natural Tranquility
When we begin to win the struggle to free ourselves from the waves of afflictive emotions, the mind will become like a calm and vast lake. This peaceful state, the natural tranquility of mind, will lead to deep samadhi [concentration], which is the pacification of wandering, deluded thoughts.
—Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, “An Investigation of the Mind”
—Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, “An Investigation of the Mind”
Thursday, August 17, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: The Gift of a Skillful Critique
Judgmental criticism is one thing; judicious criticism is actually a gift.
—Thanissaro Bhikkhu, “Gossip”
—Thanissaro Bhikkhu, “Gossip”
Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Via Pink News: Obama tells young African leaders: Rejecting gays comes from the same mindset as racism
President Obama has told young African leaders that homophobia comes from the same mindset as racism, and that they should be more accepting of gay people.
Speaking at the Omni Shoreham Hotel in Washington DC, at a three-day summit for the Young African Leaders Initiative, Obama made the comments.
One question came from a participant who said she was from Kenya, and that people with albinism were being killed in order to harvest their body parts for rituals, reports the Washington Blade.
“The same, by the way, is true for sexual orientation,” Obama said, condemning the killing of people with albinism.
“I spoke about this in Africa, and everybody is like, oh, oh, we don’t want to hear that. But the truth of the matter is, is that if you’re treating people differently just because of who they love and who they are, then there’s a connection between that mindset and the mindset that led to racism, and the mindset that leads to ethnic conflict. It means that you’re not able to see somebody else as a human being.”
The President went on to compare the oppression of black people in Africa due to European Imperialism to the way LGBT people are oppressed in some countries, saying: “You can’t, on the one hand, complain when somebody else does that to you, and then you’re doing it to somebody else.”
“You can’t do it,” Obama went on. “There’s got to be some consistency to how you think about these issues. And that’s going to be up to young people — because old people get stuck in their ways.”
A rainbow appeared in Ethiopia last month ahead of a visit from US President Barack Obama – who is expected to raise the country’s anti-gay law with leaders.
During an interview with the BBC’s John Sopel prior to his visit Africa, President Obama said he would be “very blunt” about the need for equality in the country.
He did not disappoint during his visit to Kenya – publicly challenging Kenyan President Uhuru Kenyatta over state discrimination against gay people.
Speaking at the Omni Shoreham Hotel in Washington DC, at a three-day summit for the Young African Leaders Initiative, Obama made the comments.
“The same, by the way, is true for sexual orientation,” Obama said, condemning the killing of people with albinism.
“I spoke about this in Africa, and everybody is like, oh, oh, we don’t want to hear that. But the truth of the matter is, is that if you’re treating people differently just because of who they love and who they are, then there’s a connection between that mindset and the mindset that led to racism, and the mindset that leads to ethnic conflict. It means that you’re not able to see somebody else as a human being.”
The President went on to compare the oppression of black people in Africa due to European Imperialism to the way LGBT people are oppressed in some countries, saying: “You can’t, on the one hand, complain when somebody else does that to you, and then you’re doing it to somebody else.”
“You can’t do it,” Obama went on. “There’s got to be some consistency to how you think about these issues. And that’s going to be up to young people — because old people get stuck in their ways.”
A rainbow appeared in Ethiopia last month ahead of a visit from US President Barack Obama – who is expected to raise the country’s anti-gay law with leaders.
During an interview with the BBC’s John Sopel prior to his visit Africa, President Obama said he would be “very blunt” about the need for equality in the country.
He did not disappoint during his visit to Kenya – publicly challenging Kenyan President Uhuru Kenyatta over state discrimination against gay people.
Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 16, 2017
When you stand back far enough, all of your life experiences, independent of what they are, are all learning experiences. From a human point of view, you do your best to optimize pleasure, happiness, all the nice things in life. From your soul’s point of view you take what comes down the pike. So from the soul’s perspective, you work to get what you want and then if you don’t, ‘ah, so, I’ll work with what I’ve got.’
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: Overcoming Obstacles with Determination
No
matter how high the mountains of the great dharma are, no matter how
deep the sea of ignorance is, they will be as nothing before a boundless
spirit of determination.
—Koun Yamada, “Great Faith, Great Doubt, Great Determination”
—Koun Yamada, “Great Faith, Great Doubt, Great Determination”
Tuesday, August 15, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Generosity Needs No Reason
Generosity
might be strategically effective or virtuous, but that’s not important.
The point is that there is no good reason to love life or each other,
yet we do.
—John Tarrant, “The Erotic Life of Emptiness”
—John Tarrant, “The Erotic Life of Emptiness”
Monday, August 14, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: A New Definition of Consciousness
Consciousness is an action, a capacity for meeting whatever its object is.
—Beth Jacobs, “Mapping Your Mind: The Original Buddhist Psychology”
—Beth Jacobs, “Mapping Your Mind: The Original Buddhist Psychology”
Sunday, August 13, 2017
Via justabahai blog : Letter from a gay former Baha’i
Letter from a gay former Baha’i
August 12, 2017In 1963 I joined the Faith at 15 in a European country. After 20 years of serving on committees, assemblies, pioneering to goal districts, holding firesides, praying, fasting, teaching and all the rest, I realised that to be forbidden to grow in love with another man was intolerable.
The idea of growing old emotionally alone felt positively dangerous to my mental health. Having accepted my being gay since early adolescence I decided I had to be with other men like myself. I thought then that I could possibly continue to serve and also find mutual love with another guy—just being discrete about it. Love not sex, please note, because Bahai’s always, always, confuse the two.
I met some great guys and quickly realised that these guys were just as normal as me. In fact, they were really attuned to human differences and the complexity of being the “other” in an intolerant society. It was a paradox that, in many ways, they showed more open and honest Bahai characteristics than many in my own local community. Time spent in their company became far more enriching and emotionally rewarding than sitting on an Assembly reading ever more jargon-ridden letters from the Institutions. I had shared the pain with dear friends who were marginalized for their academic research and writing, and who suffered vile abuse from some Bahais, still happening today. I felt the cruelty of the absence of a warm, fulfilling community life with other Baha’is.
Then a truly decent gay Baha’i acquaintance, on one of his sexuality guilt trips, outed me to an ABM as gay. [Note: ABM is a Bahai appointed to counsel Bahai communities at a regional level.
Their role is advisory but local communities often accord them greater authority.] This ABM, a doctor working in a hospital which had done ECT on gays, wrote offering me a weekend of therapy which would cure me of these unhealthy and unacceptable urges. I declined, rather impolitely. I regret not being more diplomatic. Now outed, I decided to come out to close friends in the community. My closest friend of many years told me of his shock and how he never wanted to speak with me again and could not bear to even shake my hand. I haven’t seen him since, and still miss him. Another told me he would never leave his son in a room alone with me. Another dear friend could not bear to meet or hear about the man with whom I had fallen in love. On and on it went. I wondered how I could continue to serve on Institutions with these people. It simply was impossible. I chose to become inactive. Assembly members then called my home to tell me I was sick in the head.
I decided to leave the Faith one evening in a restaurant. I was having dinner with a gay friend—a dear, kind, sweet, lovely guy battling cancer, who would have been a credit to any community, may he rest in peace. Into the cafe came a party of Baha’is, including some who had served on an Assembly with me. They sat two tables away, in full view of me, and pointedly ignored me. I sat chatting to my friend and thought, who do I prefer to share my life with? Did I want a life with these Bahai’s, supposedly modelling themselves on the Master, or with truly decent people like my friend? It was a no-brainer. I withdrew. That was 1983.
I have now shared my life for over 34 years with one man, the love of my life. We are married. We created a home, a life and a business together, and I have never much regretted leaving the Bahai community. Whatever excuses people make, however they quote scripture, or the Guardian’s letters, it will never change. The community itself is homophobic from top to bottom. It is beyond change. I saw so many closeted gays in the Baha’i community twisting themselves into knots over their sexuality, living lonely single lives, or in sterile marriages, having kids to prove they are devout and casual sex with strangers as a release. One guy got married and on his honeymoon confessed he was gay. That revelation was followed by a speedy divorce. So much unhappiness dealt out along with heaps of intolerance to gays who could truly show many Baha’is the depth of real human compassion and love.
The Faith, devoid and deprived of this segment of humanity, seems so utterly sterile. It hardly deserves a future.
The Baha’i community here is no bigger now than in 1983—it just has more committees and institutional bodies, it is still largely unknown to the public. It has apparently had no impact of any kind of depth on this wider society. It has many fine people trying their best, but on this issue don’t waste your emotional or spiritual energy. It is not worth it. Move on honourably and decently and leave them to their understanding of a prejudice-free world order.
Keep your love for aspects of it and its Founders, by all means. I have no bitterness and wish my former friends no ill will at alI. Time will tell if I am wrong. Perhaps after all they will in fact create their frightening new world order, but be assured: gays will never be a fully-accepted people within it. That bet I think I will win.
In more recent years I wondered sometimes how things stood with my former Baha’i community. The internet is a great channel to look at this, and I quickly realised little had changed over the years.
Reading your blog and others, I feel a great sense of hope reading so many expressions of positivity by so many people, but also of sadness and exasperation on two broad levels. The first is for those young people who have still have to hide their sexuality within the community and cope with all the negativity about them being somehow deformed human beings. The slightly softer line recently from the UHJ seems so obviously to be a concern for avoiding legal conflicts with civil societies who have accepted equal rights, same sex marriage, etc., rather than any ditching of institutional homophobia. They are in no way unique; this is all too common. Shunning those who have withdrawn now seems accepted practice in this part of the world.
Not far from here is a small, pretty lake with a lovely, tree-covered island. Years ago, a teacher who had been outed to his workmates, family, church and friends as gay rowed himself across the lake, past the swans, to the island where he took a rope and hanged himself from a tree. He had done no wrong, but his future had been taken from him by intolerance and hate. Going past the lake I think of how lonely and awful that he had no one to turn to, and that he may have found hanging less awful than drowning. The kind of prejudice which drove him to act as he did is what I saw and heard in the Baha’i community. Times have changed, thankfully, so that people are more prepared to say “No, I won’t be treated as inferior, mentally or spiritually deformed.” I left without too much regret, though I saw a big chunk of my social world suddenly vanish away. Others may decide to stay and brave it out, and good luck to them. I worry about their long-term mental/spiritual health, but wish them well.
My second source of sadness is to see the Baha’i community continue to deprive itself of all the really positive aspects of so much of gay sensibility. It may be cliched, but the creativity at so many levels, the humour, the empathy and understanding of otherness—of being discriminated against within a larger group—the deep honesty about society, and the genuine tolerance of differences: these are all attributes that the Baha’i community could use. Instead, it deprives itself of so much talent. This year I found myself in that city on the day of the Gay Pride march. It was a very positive and uplifting experience, particularly to see how many young straight couples had brought their toddlers and children to wave rainbow flags and cheer on the marchers. For them it was a fun, carnival-like family day out and they were supporting people they knew. Gays were not shadowy, sad, tortured weirdos, as in Shoghi Effendi’s day. They had names, life stories, families, workmates, a three-dimensional reality—in other words: ordinary people. I wondered what it would be like for Bahai’s to go in there delivering the message to these straight families about how sick these gays were, how this was wrong to God?
Recently the Republic of Ireland, despite opposition from the usual religious groups, had a referendum to allow constitutional change allowing same sex marriage. It passed by a huge majority and was implemented, and lo and behold the sky has not fallen. People have taken it in their stride, though older people like me still find it odd to describe my partner of 34 years as my husband. Where I live we have yet to introduce same-sex marriage. Bahai’s show themselves to be out of step with the wider society which seems sad to me, for all parties. But I comfort myself with Julian of Norwich’s great declaration, “All shall be well, all shall be well, all manner of things shall be well.”
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Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 13, 2017
The
way we regard death is critical to the way we experience life. When
your fear of death changes, the way you live your life changes.
-- Ram Dass --
Via Daily Dharma: The Price of Multitasking
Awareness itself is the primary currency of the human condition, and as such it deserves to be spent carefully.
—Andrew Olendzki, “Busy Signal”
—Andrew Olendzki, “Busy Signal”
Saturday, August 12, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Connecting with Awareness
As
meditative awareness deepens, we may begin to experience what we call
pure awareness. This isn’t some extraordinary state of consciousness. . .
. It’s completely ordinary. It’s simply the natural extension of the
first glimpse of awareness that comes when we start to meditate.
—Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, “The Good Shepherd”
—Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, “The Good Shepherd”
Friday, August 11, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Activists with Heart
With
our practice, we can turn our gaze and our heart toward the very
dilemmas of our time and enter as activists who cool and soothe the
situation.
—Jack Kornfield, “A Change of Heart”
—Jack Kornfield, “A Change of Heart”
Thursday, August 10, 2017
Via His Holiness the Dalai Lama
I
believe that to meet the challenges of our times, human beings will
have to develop a greater sense of universal responsibility. Each of us
must learn to work not just for oneself, one's own family or nation, but
for the benefit of all humankind. Universal responsibility is the key
to human survival. It is the best foundation for world peace.
- His Holiness the Dalai Lama
- His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Via Daily Dharma: How to Experience the Freshness of Life
Watching
impartially opens the mind to realize that there is no way that we can
stop this flux even for a fraction of a second. We experience the
freshness of life. Every moment is a new moment. Every breath is a fresh
breath.
—Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, “Five Practices to Change Your Mind”
—Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, “Five Practices to Change Your Mind”
Wednesday, August 9, 2017
Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - August 9, 2017
Suffering is a lesson the Soul needs in order to get to its Beloved. Joy is too.
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: There's No Race to Enlightenment
We
breathe in and out, and we just watch that. Nothing else. It doesn’t
matter if we get enlightenment or not. It doesn’t matter if our friends
get enlightened faster. Who cares? We are just breathing.
—Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche, “Do Nothing”
—Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche, “Do Nothing”
Tuesday, August 8, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: One-breath Meditation
In
this world of onrushing events the act of meditation—even just a
“one-breath” meditation—straightening the back, clearing the mind for a
moment—is a refreshing island in the stream.
—Gary Snyder, “Just One Breath”
—Gary Snyder, “Just One Breath”
Monday, August 7, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Connecting with Our Best Selves
Appreciative joy is a natural expression of our best humanity.
—Judith Simmer-Brown, “Transforming the Green-Ey'd Monster”
—Judith Simmer-Brown, “Transforming the Green-Ey'd Monster”
Via Ram Dass: Words of Wisdom - August 6, 2017
If you keep examining your mind, you'll come to see that thoughts of who you are and how it all is are creating the reality you're experiencing.
- Ram Dass -
Via Daily Dharma: Transform Yourself
Meditation aims not so much to solve a person’s particular problems as to solve the person altogether.
—David Rome, “Focusing”
—David Rome, “Focusing”
Saturday, August 5, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Why We Shouldn't Be Afraid of Suffering
Handling
our suffering is an art. If we know how to suffer, we suffer much less,
and we’re no longer afraid of being overwhelmed by the suffering
inside.
—Thich Nhat Hanh, “Why We Shouldn't Be Afraid of Suffering”
—Thich Nhat Hanh, “Why We Shouldn't Be Afraid of Suffering”
Friday, August 4, 2017
Via Daily Dharma: Working with Difficult Feelings
A
feeling-tone is a feeling-tone, and that’s all. Just like anything
else, the invitation is to be with it, not to listen to it, not to
ignore it, not to push it away, not to repress it, not to act on it.
—Dr. Jay Michaelson, “Working Through the Strong Emotions of Sexual Identity”
—Dr. Jay Michaelson, “Working Through the Strong Emotions of Sexual Identity”
Via Daily Dharma: Respect Is All We Need
Love for others and respect for their rights and dignity, no matter who or what they are: ultimately these are all we need.
—Dalai Lama, “Consider Yourself a Tourist”
—Dalai Lama, “Consider Yourself a Tourist”
Via Daily Dharma: Changing Your Approach to Life
In Buddhism, the point is not simply to be accomplished meditators but to change our whole approach to life.
—Judy Lief, “Meditation Alone is Not Enough”
—Judy Lief, “Meditation Alone is Not Enough”
Via Daily Dharma: Find Freedom in Stillness
Stillness
in the midst of motion and commotion is free of will, direction, and
time. It is a complete letting be of what is from moment to moment.
—Toni Packer, “Unmasking the Self”
—Toni Packer, “Unmasking the Self”
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