Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Frivolous Speech

 

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RIGHT SPEECH Refraining from Frivolous Speech Frivolous speech is unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous speech.” (MN 8) An authentic person is one who, even when asked, does not reveal their own praiseworthy qualities—still less so when not asked. When asked, however, and obliged to reply to questions, one speaks of their own praiseworthy qualities hesitatingly and not in detail. (AN 4.73)

Reflection This passage describes a situation of humility, not dissembling. It is right speech because it does not unnecessarily embellish your own story by exaggerating your good qualities, which can be considered a form of frivolous or unnecessary speech. Notice that it is still important to tell the truth, so if asked directly it is okay to be accurate in noting your own virtues, as long as you do it with an attitude of humility. Daily Practice Pay attention to the speech patterns of the people you encounter and notice just how much of what they say involves praising themselves either overtly or indirectly. It is remarkable how much of our speech is given to this project. Now turn your gaze on your own words and see to what degree you are doing this yourself. Try removing self-praise from your language for a while and see how difficult it is to do. Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Social Action One week from today: Refraining from False Speech Share your thoughts and join the conversation on social media #DhammaWheel Questions? Visit the Dhamma Wheel orientation page.

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