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Wednesday, December 18, 2024
Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Frivolous Speech
Frivolous speech is
unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9)
Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One
speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about
what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that
are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus:
"Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous
speech." (MN 8)
When a person commits an offense of some kind, one should not hurry to
reprove them but rather should consider whether or not to speak. If you
will not be troubled, the other person will not be hurt, and you can
help them emerge from what is unhealthy and establish them in what is
healthy, then it is proper to speak. (MN 103)
Reflection
The fourth
category of right speech is refraining from frivolous speech. This is
not meant to stifle us entirely or to reduce human expression to
essential facts and nothing more; rather, it is an invitation to pay
more careful attention to what we say. It is healthy to speak what is
true, to speak about what is good, and to be moderate in our speech,
even if other people are not. What can you say that is helpful?
Daily Practice
Has it ever
occurred to you that some people speak just for the sake of speaking, or
say anything and everything that comes to mind, or go on indefinitely
repeating the same stories? See if you can notice yourself doing this
from time to time. Practice being aware enough of your own speech
patterns to notice whether you are always saying something useful or
necessary or valuable. Sometimes it is better to stay silent.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Social Action One week from today: Refraining from False Speech
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