“Al identificar un patrón de comportamiento negativo que genera
conflicto a través de una terquedad, de un vicio enpelear para defender
puntos de vista y de la necesidad de tener siempre la última palabra,
tal vez exista unpacto de venganza inconsciente. Tal vez estés
proyectandotu pasado en la persona con quien te estás relacionando;
intentando forzar a tus padres a que te escuchen, a que te acepten,a que
te amen. Entonces,al observar el sufrimiento y la angustia que esto
genera en tu vida y en la vida de los demás a tu alrededor, empiezas a
querer cambiar. De a poco, antes de pelear, te muerdes la lengua -
eliges dejar de actuar en el patrón.”
“When we identify a pattern of negative behavior that creates conflict through stubbornness, an addiction to fighting, defending points of views, and the need to always have the last word, we might see that underlying all of this, exists an unconscious pact of revenge. Perhaps we are projecting our past on the person we are in relationship with, as though trying to force our parents to listen to us, to accept us, to love us. As we observe the suffering and the distress this causes in our life and in the lives of those around us, we begin to want to change. Gradually, before we accept the invitation to war, we hold our tongues and we choose to stop acting out of this pattern.”
“When we identify a pattern of negative behavior that creates conflict through stubbornness, an addiction to fighting, defending points of views, and the need to always have the last word, we might see that underlying all of this, exists an unconscious pact of revenge. Perhaps we are projecting our past on the person we are in relationship with, as though trying to force our parents to listen to us, to accept us, to love us. As we observe the suffering and the distress this causes in our life and in the lives of those around us, we begin to want to change. Gradually, before we accept the invitation to war, we hold our tongues and we choose to stop acting out of this pattern.”
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