A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Just stop for a moment and breathe. Breathe without knowing anything. You might find that it’s not so easy to drop the mind that knows, but it can free us and reveal to us far deeper truths than those we thought possible.
Roshi Pat Enkyo O’Hara, “The Heart Sutra Explained”
However the seed is planted, in that way the fruit is gathered. Good things come from doing good deeds; bad things come from doing bad deeds. (SN 11.10) What is the purpose of a mirror? For the purpose of reflection. So too verbal action is to be done with repeated reflection. (MN 61)
When you wish to do an action with speech, reflect on that same verbal action thus: "Would this action I wish to do with speech lead to my own affliction?" If, on reflection, you know that it would, then do not do it. If you know that it would not, then proceed. (MN 61)
Reflection
Verbal action is as important a matter as bodily action, for much harm and much good can be done with words. Reflecting on verbal action involves being attentive to cause and effect, considering whether what you want to say may cause harm to you or to someone else. The truth of the phrase "Bad things come from uttering bad words" is plainly evident in the world around us. Let's not contribute to it.
Daily Practice
This is a practice familiar to us as "Think before you speak." It is simply a matter of establishing and maintaining some space between what comes to mind and what goes out into the world as speech. This moment of reflection brings care to the process. Practice speaking slower and more thoughtfully. Practice also placing yourself in the position of the hearer and imagine how your words might be received by others.
Tomorrow: Abstaining from Taking What is Not Given One week from today: Reflecting upon Mental Action
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"The relationships that are the most exciting are where the contract is to share truth. Many relationships don’t have that kind of a contract. They have a contract of you won’t threaten my ego and I won’t threaten yours, we’ll both feel comfortable."
Imagine the ocean. Instead of identifying with the waves on the surface, which are like our thoughts that come and go, you can cultivate a calmer mind by sinking below the waves.
Radhule Weininger, “Deep Trust: Finding Our Footing in a Turbulent World”
Malicious speech is unhealthy. Refraining from malicious speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning malicious speech, one refrains from malicious speech. One does not repeat there what one has heard here to the detriment of these, or repeat here what he has heard there to the detriment of those. One unites those who are divided, is a promoter of friendships, and speaks words that promote concord. (DN 1) One practices thus: "Others may speak maliciously, but I shall abstain from malicious speech." (MN 8)
When others address you, their speech may be timely or untimely. . . . One is to train thus: "My mind will be unaffected, and I shall utter no bad words. I shall abide with compassion for their welfare, with a mind of lovingkindness, without inner hate." (MN 21)
Reflection
The second category of right speech is refraining from malicious speech, which has a lot to do with setting people against one another and causing divisions. Such speech involves harmful intentions and is therefore unhealthy. Notice the final phrase of the text, wherein one undertakes to personally refrain from such speech even though others may do it. The practice here is to change your own behavior, not that of others.
Daily Practice
Pay attention to the speech you hear around you and see if you can identify malicious speech when you hear it. Then listen for when you yourself engage in such speech, often inadvertently. Finally, undertake a commitment to refrain from malicious speech. This is particularly challenging when you are interrupted by untimely speech, but such episodes provide an opportunity to practice not being thrown off by the impropriety of others.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Verbal Action One week from today: Refraining from Harsh Speech
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