"I am a white heterosexual male. This trifecta of privilege means that I'm not routinely subjected to prejudice. But for a few minutes I got to walk in the shoes of a gay person in a public place. For no good reason I had had a slur marked over my luggage. I was degraded. I was shamed. I was humiliated. For me, this was only a few minutes of one day of my life. If what I felt for those few minutes is extrapolated out every day over a lifetime, then I can fully understand why our gay friends feel persecuted and why they have such high rates of suicide. It is unacceptable. It is said that words can't hurt you. That it is true. But it isn't the words that hurt, it's the intention behind them. 'I am gay' was not emblazened across my luggage as a celebration. It was used as a pejorative. It was used to humiliate. It was used as a slur." - One Sleepy Dad blogger Aaron, whose suitcase emerged on the Perth airport carousel with the above message. The airline has apologized.
A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Monday, October 14, 2013
JMG Quote Of The Day
"I am a white heterosexual male. This trifecta of privilege means that I'm not routinely subjected to prejudice. But for a few minutes I got to walk in the shoes of a gay person in a public place. For no good reason I had had a slur marked over my luggage. I was degraded. I was shamed. I was humiliated. For me, this was only a few minutes of one day of my life. If what I felt for those few minutes is extrapolated out every day over a lifetime, then I can fully understand why our gay friends feel persecuted and why they have such high rates of suicide. It is unacceptable. It is said that words can't hurt you. That it is true. But it isn't the words that hurt, it's the intention behind them. 'I am gay' was not emblazened across my luggage as a celebration. It was used as a pejorative. It was used to humiliate. It was used as a slur." - One Sleepy Dad blogger Aaron, whose suitcase emerged on the Perth airport carousel with the above message. The airline has apologized.
Via JMG: NORTH CAROLINA: State Attorney General Roy Cooper Endorses Marriage Equality
But he's still going to fight defend the state against the lawsuit brought by the ACLU. Via the Associated Press:
Attorney General Roy Cooper says he supports gay marriage but argues his personal views aren't preventing him from vigorously defending North Carolina's constitutional amendment affirming its prohibition from a lawsuit. Cooper opposed passage of the amendment in 2012 but hadn't addressed his views on sanctioning gay marriage publicly until now. He said over the weekend "I support marriage equality" when asked by The Associated Press about the topic. His announcement worries the socially conservative North Carolina Family Policy Council after it questioned why Cooper was speaking next month at a fundraiser for gay-rights group Equality North Carolina.Equality North Carolina has responded to Cooper's announcement: "The Attorney General has long been an advocate for equal rights for all people and we applaud him for publicly aligning with a fast-growing majority of North Carolinians who now support the legal relationship recognitions between committed LGBT couples." (Tipped by JMG reader Al)
Labels: ACLU, marriage equality, North Carolina, Roy Cooper
Via Tricycle Daily Dharma
Tricycle Daily Dharma October 14, 2013
Taking Suffering Seriously
Taking
suffering seriously is an important element of Buddhist practice. To
ignore it is to miss a powerful opportunity. Intolerance to suffering
motivated the Buddha to find liberation from it.
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- Gil Fronsdal, "Living Two Traditions"
Sunday, October 13, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma October 13, 2013
Face to Face
In
a sense, all of Buddhist practice takes place here, in this most
intimate realm: here, in the family, shoulder to shoulder with fellow
workers, beside each other on the cushion. Even alone in a cave, there
is no way out of the sense object we call the body. We meet each other
face to face, and so have all our teachers and ancestors met each other.
In this way have all the Buddhas taught. Hand to sweating hand.
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- Sallie Tisdale, “Washing Out Emptiness”
Saturday, October 12, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma October 12, 2013
Recognizing Love
As
adults, we need to become newly aware of the love that has infused our
lives all along, to turn our attention to it afresh with the eyes of a
child. To do so is to become conscious of the tremendous capacity for
love that even now permeates our being—to open to it, to be healed by
its life-giving energy, and to participate in its power to renew our
world. We can awaken to the deepest goodness in ourselves and others. We
can learn to recognize and commune with the blessings that have always
been pouring forth.
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- John Makransky, “Love Is All Around”
Via JMG: US Olympic Committee Adds Sexual Orientation To Non-Discrimination Policy
The United States Olympic Committee today amended its official non-discrimination policies to include sexual orientation.
At his annual address to the USOC Assembly on Friday, CEO Scott Blackmun said the federation is not in the business of trying to influence Russian policy. “The fact that we do not think it is our role to advocate for a change in the Russian law does not mean that we support the law, and we do not,” Blackmun said. The board passed the measure Thursday, a week after chairman Larry Probst, a new member of the International Olympic Committee, said he would support a similar change to the IOC Olympic charter. Currently, it does not mention sexual orientation as a form of discrimination. With the Sochi Olympics less than four months away, Blackmun said the USOC is seeking clarity from the IOC on what will and won’t be regarded as violations of the IOC rule against using the Olympic stage to make political protests or demonstrations.Blackmun added that the USOC has given American athletes the freedom to express opposition to Russia's anti-gay laws "however they see fit." But that freedom ends when the Games begin. (Tipped by JMG reader Dwight)
Labels: LGBT rights, Russia, Sochi Olympics, USOC
Friday, October 11, 2013
Via JMG: It's National Coming Out Day
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Via jMG: USPS To Announce Harvey Milk Stamp
From the Facebook page of the Harvey Milk Foundation:
Breaking! It is official! The USPS will confirm this week that my uncle, Harvey Milk will be commemorated on a 2014 US postage stamp. Another first! My deep gratitude to everyone that supported this effort! More details including the image to come via USPS soon! "Hope Will Never Be Silent" and will be on millions of letters soon!Get ready for some super-sadz!
Labels: Harvey Milk, LGBT History, USPS
More Sarah goes to Church – her Baha’i on Life blog
Sarah goes to Church – her Baha’i on Life blogby justabahai |
"Sarah
Goes To Church" is an engaging and insightful blog on her independent
investigations into different religions. So she went along to find out
about the Bahais of Webster Groves, Missouri along with her partner with
the dazzling pink hair. Enjoy the read! http://sarahgoestochurch. blogspot.nl/2013/10/bahai-on- life.html And then you'll see that the bottleneck for her is that […]
Via Tricycle Daily Dharma:
Tricycle Daily Dharma October 10, 2013
Devotional Practice
In
Asia, laypeople generally relate to Buddhism devotionally. But in
America, when laypeople engage in these traditions they most often want
to relate to them solely as a yogic path, beyond devotion. The problem
is that they have all of the problems that lay Buddhists have always
had. Trying to force yourself into the yogic path while living with all
of the distractions, complications, and follies of the lay life may not
always work so well.
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- Mark Unno, “The Buddha of Infinite Light and Life”
Via Sarah Goes To Church: AND THAT'S WHEN SARAH STEPPED OFF THE BAHA'I BOAT
Baha'i on Life
Sidebar - I'm tired of talking about gay issues at church. My life is like a gay pride parade - it's constantly raining glitter and fabulous. Gay is all around me and it's wonderful. I wouldn't want it any other way. My life is amazing. It's just...I know people are still working through this whole "Is it okay to be gay?" thing and trying to figure out where God fits in with the issue. But I'm really losing my patience and I'm starting to get angry. GOD LOVES EVERYONE NOW SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!! Can we please talk about something other than gayness? Please? PLEASE!!??!!! Anything. Syria. Gun violence. The afterlife. Mysteries of the universe. Tacos. A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G.
Gayness follows me. I cannot escape it. Long ago I accepted that I
indeed have magical gay powers and everything I touch turns to gay. So, I
should have known the Baha'i service would eventually start heading
down a gay road...and it did.
Out of nowhere the conversation turned to David's son, who recently
realized he was gay. David was very supportive of his gay son - standing
up for his desire to wear skirts and make-up at school. David's son
felt for some time that he was transgender - living life as a woman in a
man's body - and started expressing himself as such. David beautifully
described how God didn't see gender or biological sex. God only sees our
soul and our souls are without gender or biological sex. It's not your
human body that matters - it's your soul. Up until this point I
appreciated everything David had to say about gender and homosexuality.
Then things got sticky...someone brought up the issue of having sex.
Baha'i's are to refrain from sexual activity until they enter into a
religious marriage - and the only marriages recognized are marriages
between...you guessed it...one man and one women. The Baha'i faith
doesn't exactly condemn gay love. They are big believers in legal
marriage equality and protecting gay rights. And you can totally hold
hands and talk and snuggle and share your deepest darkest secrets with
your same-sex partner, but you can't have sex with him or her. EVER. Not
even oral. Nope. Not okay. If you are gay and you follow the
Baha'i faith you are expected to practice life long chastity.
AND THAT'S WHEN SARAH STEPPED OFF THE BAHA'I BOAT.
WHAT?!?!?!!!!! Does God hate gay people? Cause that seems like lifelong
punishment for being gay...the way God made them to be. What kind of God
does that? Here ya go, here are all these desires and feelings and instincts but DON'T YOU DARE DO ANYTHING WITH THEM OR I WON'T LIKE IT!
Also, if God doesn't see the physical body and only cares about the
soul then why does God care about gay sex or sex at all for that matter?
No really, why does God care if we have sex? WHY? See, I don't think
God cares. Not even a little bit. I think God could give two shits about
where you poke your pickle or who's dusting your closet. I think sex is
a good thing - not a curse, or a punishment or a test of will-power.
It's a great stress reliever - like all natural Xanax. It's a sleep-aid.
It helps you deal with body issues. It can give you energy. It makes
you happy. Maybe God created us with these "feel good places" because
God wants us to...I don't know...feel good?
There was a woman at the service, a gay woman, who talked about how hard
it was to be chaste but she knew this life was only but a blip and
that her devotion would be rewarded in the next life.
This just does not make sense to me. AT ALL. This Earthly life is but a
test for the next one? Baha'i's don't believe in a literal hell or
heaven, but instead gauge heaven and hell by your closeness with God.
So, apparently God is King Candy and having gay sex is like drawing that
horrible gum drop guy when you are half way through with Candyland (the
children's game) and are now even further away from a heavenly ice-
cream palace finish. It helps me if you can explain things in preschool
terms. Candyland exhausts me and I really think God can do better.
After the service the nice man sitting next to me talked about how
having standards is so important. I questioned which standards you are
supposed to follow because lately I've found everyone is claiming
different standards as "God's". He was very understanding and explained
that the great thing about Baha'u'llah is that he was truly a messenger
of God and spoke the truth.
Uh huh. Right. Thanks. Gotta run. I need a drink - which you do not believe in.
This sex loving booze drinking spiritual enthusiast left church and
headed straight to Cherokee street for some authentic Mexican cuisine
and a delicious homemade margarita. I said a quiet prayer for all the
gay people around the world who have been led to believe they shouldn't
live a happy and full and SEXUAL life because of their orientation. I
wish you all many wonderful orgasms and lots and lots of post-coital
snuggles.
I'm so glad I finally made it back to church.
Cheers!
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
JMG Quote Of The Day - Rev. Gary Hall
"In its wisdom, the church came to its senses and labeled both racism and sexism as sinful. And now we find ourselves at the last barrier—call that barrier homophobia, call it heterosexism. We must now have the courage to take the final step and call homophobia and heterosexism what they are. They are sin. Homophobia is a sin. Heterosexism is a sin. Shaming people for whom they love is a sin. Shaming people because their gender identity doesn’t fit neatly into your sense of what it should be is a sin. Our job, as Christians, is not only to proclaim that Gospel. Our job is to live it. And if we are faithful in proclaiming and living it, today’s generation of LGBT youth will thrive and grow and take their places around this table, with Jesus, as we bless, forgive, heal, and love the world. Amen." - Rev. Gary Hall, chief ecclesiastical leader of the National Cathedral in Washington, DC, in a sermon marking the 15th anniversary of the death of Matthew Shepard.
Via JMG: Activists To IOC: Uphold Principle 6
Athlete Ally and All Out have joined forces to urge the International Olympic Committee to uphold its own Principle 6, which bans discrimination at the Olympic Games. The groups intend to make Principle 6 into a method of denouncing Russia's anti-gay laws without actually risking the arrests of attendees or the medals of supporting athletes at the Sochi Games. Frank Bruni explains at the New York Times:
Athlete Ally, working with a company called the Idea Brand and the professional football player Brendon Ayanbadejo, came up with and developed the notion of using the very name of that clause, along with a logo or logos that allude to it, as a rebuke of Russia’s laws and a method for athletes and fans to express their convictions. The symbol and the syllables P6, perhaps worn as a sticker, perhaps woven into clothing, could evolve into something along the lines of a Livestrong bracelet: a ubiquitous motif that doesn’t spell out a whole philosophy but has an unmistakable meaning and message. [snip] It’s an attempt to take full advantage of the world’s attention to the Winter Games without putting athletes at risk of censure. Maybe they hold up six fingers. Maybe their outfits include something with a P6 logo, several designs for which are being considered.Read more about the Principle 6 campaign at the Athlete Ally site. Their petition is at the link. Samples of the proposed Principle 6 logos are at the Times link.
Via Tricycle Daily Dharma:
Tricycle Daily Dharma October 9, 2013
Faith in Mind
Reject existence and you fall into it,
Pursue emptiness and you move away from it.
With many words and thoughts
You miss what is right before you.
Cutting off words and thought
Nothing remains unpenetrated.
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- Jianzhi Sengcan, "Faith in Mind"
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