GIVE UP!
15 Things To Give Up To Be Happy
- Give up the need to always be right
There
are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to
always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or
causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s
just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a
fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
- Give up the need for control
Be willing to
give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and
around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved
ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow
them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you
will see how much better will that make you feel.“By
letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go.
But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
- Give up on blame
Give
up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for
what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start
taking responsibility for your life.
- Give up self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many
people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and
repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your
mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating.
You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
- Give up limiting beliefs
…about what you
can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you
are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in
the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
- Give up complaining
Give
up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaaany
things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and
depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers
those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive thinking.
- Give up the luxury of criticism
Give
up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different
than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to
be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be
understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
- Give up the need to impress others
Stop
trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like
you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be
something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the
moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be
drawn to you, effortlessly.
- Give up resistance to change
Change
is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you
make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you.
Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
- Give up labels
Stop labeling
those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird
or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only
work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
- Give up on fears
Fear is just an
illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind.
Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
- Give up excuses
Send them packing
and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we
limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing
and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to
ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
- Give up the past
I know, I know.
It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the
present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into
consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all
you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you
are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After
all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the
future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
- Give up attachment
This is a concept
that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it
was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You
get better and better at it with time and practice. The moment you
detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your
love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one
another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real
love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be
fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to
a place where you will be able to understand all things without even
trying. A state beyond words.
- Give up living life to other people’s expectations
Way too many
people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their
lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their
lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what
their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and
the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that
inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up
to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives.
They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and
eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one
right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other
people’s opinions distract you from your path.
