Thursday, September 26, 2024

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Universal and Innate Potential

The Buddha, in his radiant enlightenment and benevolence, not only welcomed everyone onto the path but also proclaimed that each of us—irrespective of gender, class, or background—holds the innate potential for enlightenment.

Nhi Yến Đỗ Trần, “‘Is There a Woman Buddha?’”


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Four Buddhist Teachings on Emptiness
By Simeon Mihaylov
Tracing the history and evolution of the concept of sunyata.
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Via The Tricycle Community \\ Three Teachings: Welcoming Vulnerability

 

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September 26, 2024

A Pathway to Empathy for Ourselves and Others
 
Not-self (anatman), one of Buddhism’s three marks of existence, tells us that there is no unchanging, permanent self. No one has a fixed or independent identity. Rather, each of us is a result of causes and conditions, and what we may think of as a solid self is constantly changing and interdependent on these similarly ever-changing causes and conditions. We exist in relation to everything and everyone around us. From this Buddhist perspective, we don’t have relationships; we are relationships.

Acknowledging dependence on others may be uncomfortable for some, but as psychoanalyst and Zen teacher Barry Magid says, by opening up to others and accepting our reliance on them, we open up to ourselves. Vulnerability invites us to hold space for emotions and truths, even difficult ones, that arise within us. 

Counterintuitive as it may seem, vulnerability, Magid says, is freeing. “As long as we are afraid of feeling vulnerable, our defenses will kick in to try to get life under control, to manipulate ourselves or other people. But instead of either controlling or sequestering our feelings, we can learn to both contain and feel them fully.” 

As meditation teacher and author Tara Brach points out, we are all vulnerable, and embracing this “shared vulnerability” breaks down unnecessary walls. Ultimately, it gives rise to compassion. 

This week’s Three Teachings welcomes vulnerability in life and practice, with each other and with ourselves.

Relationships Won’t Fix Our Problems, But They Can Help Us Grow By Barry Magid 

Psychoanalyst and Zen teacher Barry Magid discusses the value of vulnerability—of opening up to each other and our emotions—even though it can, understandably, put us on edge.
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Exploring Vulnerable Compassion With Lama Rod Owens

Meditation teacher, author, and activist Lama Rod Owens says, “Vulnerability is the development of empathy for ourselves.” Referencing his personal experience, he explains how vulnerability can lead to compassion.  
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The Boundary of Our Freedom By Tara Brach

Meditation teacher and author Tara Brach reflects on the potential of unconditional acceptance to lower the walls in our hearts and let the light shine through.
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Wednesday, September 25, 2024

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Via JMG: Gay Parents Raising Kids: How Will They Fare?

 

Gay Parents Raising Kids: How Will They Fare?

Throughout many years of working with families, I’ve studied the lives of gay parents raising sons and daughters. In general, gay parents tend to be more motivated, more committed, and more thoughtful parents than heterosexual couples. That’s because they usually have to work very hard, and plan very far in advance, to become parents, and so rarely do so by accident.

The children, meanwhile, show few differences in achievement. They perform as well in school, at sports, and in extra-curriculars as peers with heterosexual parents. At the same time, they are more self-aware, more adept at communicating their feelings, and exhibit more empathy for people different from themselves. They learn early how to negotiate the outside environment, gauge other people’s motives, and assess how open they dare to be in specific situations. They are strong. In my work, I routinely saw how, with enough support from their families, children of gay parents developed skills at thinking independently and standing up for what they believed in. This distinguishes them from many children with straight parents.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/our-gender-ourselves/201205/gay-parents-raising-kids-how-will-they-fare

 

Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Frivolous Speech

 



RIGHT SPEECH
Refraining from Frivolous Speech
Frivolous speech is unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous speech.” (MN 8)

A person should examine things in such a way that while examining them, their consciousness is not distracted and scattered externally, and not clinging, one does not become agitated. Then there is no origination of suffering (MN 138)
Reflection
This passage seems written particularly for the 21st century, since so much of what we encounter every day seems designed to distract our consciousness and scatter it externally. Such distraction and scattering is in fact the very origin of suffering, because it leads us to become agitated and thereby to cling to one outcome or another. The whole process never gets started if we learn how to avoid or resist the distractions.

Daily Practice
Much of what distracts us and scatters our consciousness externally is the propensity for frivolous speech, both in the world around us and within ourselves. Is it asking too much to practice abstaining from unnecessary or unworthy speech at least once in a while? These days, learning to steer away from distraction and the scattering of our minds is a practice in itself, and we are likely to become less agitated if we are able to do it well.

Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Social Action
One week from today: Refraining from False Speech

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Just Accept

When something is difficult or not working out for you, just accept it and it will get easier. Let come, let go. Don’t follow your thoughts, your stories, your narratives. Whether thoughts are happy or sad, good or bad, they all have the same compelling repetition. Just watch them.

His Eminence the Seventh Dzogchen Rinpoche, “Let Come, Let Go”


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Access to Absorption
By Shaila Catherine
A Theravada teacher on achieving the prerequisite mental state for deeper meditation.
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Via White Crane Institute // This Day in Gay History: PEDRO ALMODOVAR

 

 

This Day in Gay History

September 25

Born
Almodovar
1949 -

PEDRO ALMODOVAR, Spanish filmmaker, was born; Almodóvar is the most successful and internationally known Spanish filmmaker of his generation. His films, marked by complex narratives, and quirky stylings, employ the codes of melodrama and use elements of pop culture, popular songs, irreverent humor, strong colors and glossy décor. He never judges his character's actions, whatever they do, but he presents them as they are in all their complexity. Desire, passion, family and identity are the director's favorite themes. Almodóvar is openly – dare we say brilliantly? -- Gay and he has incorporated elements of underground and gay culture into mainstream forms with wide crossover appeal, redefining perceptions of Spanish cinema and Spain in the process. At one time, it is believed, he owned the film rights to Tom Spanbauer’s mystical book, The Man Who Fell In Love With the Moon (though we now believe Gus Van Sant has these rights.)

Around 1974, Almodóvar began making his first short films on a Super-8 camera. By the end of the 1970s they were shown in Madrid’s night circuit and in Barcelon These shorts had overtly sexual narratives and no soundtrack: Dos putas, o, Historia de amor que termina en boda (Two Whores, or, A Love Story that Ends in Marriage); La caída de Sodoma (The Fall of Sodom); Homenaje (Homage); La estrella (The Star); Sexo Va: Sexo viene (Sex Comes and Goes) (Super-8); Complementos (shorts 16mm).

“I showed them in bars, at parties… I could not add a soundtrack because it was very difficult. The magnetic strip was very poor, very thin. I remember that I became very famous in Madrid because, as the films had no sound, I took a cassette with music while I personally did the voices of all the characters, songs and dialogues.” After four years of working with shorts in Super-8 format, in 1978 Almodóvar made his first Super-8, full-length film: Folle, folle, fólleme, Tim (Fuck Me, Fuck Me, Fuck Me, Tim), a magazine style melodrama. In addition, he made his first 16 mm short, Salome. This was his first contact with the professional world of cinema. The film's stars, Carmen Maura and Felix Rotaeta, encouraged him to make his first feature film in 16mm and helped him raise the money to finance what would be Pepi Luc: Bom y otras cgicas del monton.

Almodóvar's subsequent films deepened his exploration of sexual desire and the sometimes brutal laws governing it. Matador is a dark, complex story that centers on the relationship between a former bullfighter and a murderous female lawyer, both of whom can only experience sexual fulfillment in conjunction with killing. The film offered up desire as a bridge between sexual attraction and death.

Almodóvar solidified his creative independence when he started the production company El Deseo, together with his brother Agustín, who has also had several cameo roles in his films. From 1986 on, Pedro Almodóvar has produced his own films.

The first movie that came out from El Deseo was the aptly named Law of Desire (La Ley del Deseo). The film has an operatically tragic plot line and is one of Almodóvar’s richest and most disturbing movies. The narrative follows three main characters: a Gay film director who embarks on a new project; his sister, an actress who used to be his brother (played by Carmen Maura), and a repressed murderously obsessive stalker (played by Antonio Banderas).

The film presents a gay love triangle and drew away from most representations of gay men in films. These characters are neither coming out nor confront sexual guilt or homophobia; they are already liberated, like the homosexuals in Fassbinder’s films. Almodóvar said about Law of Desire: "It's the key film in my life and career. It deals with my vision of desire, something that's both very hard and very human. By this I mean the absolute necessity of being desired and the fact that in the interplay of desires it's rare that two desires meet and correspond."

Almodóvar's films rely heavily on the capacity of his actors to pull through difficult roles into a complex narrative. In Law of Desire Carmen Maura plays the role of Tina, a woman who used to be a man. Almodóvar explains: "Carmen is required to imitate a woman, to savor the imitation, to be conscious of the kitsch part that there is in the imitation, completely renouncing parody, but not humor".

Elements from Law of Desire grew into the basis for two later films: Carmen Maura appears in a stage production of Cocteau’s The Human Voice, which inspired Almodóvar’s next film, Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown; and Tina's confrontation scene with an abusive priest formed a partial genesis for Bad Education.


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