A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Ancient
texts compare the process of concentration to the taming of a wild
animal. It is a difficult endeavor, full of ups and downs, but one that
yields reliable results if practiced diligently and with patience.
You get to be at home with change and uncertainty. You get to be at home with not knowing how it all comes out. You make a plan knowing full well that it may be irrelevant a moment later, and you're at peace with that.
I find that when I'm at a choice point, the best thing to do is to be quiet and empty and go back to square one. But I try to stay at the choice point as long as I can, because that's as interesting a place as any other place, to stay with not knowing what to do. But if you listen, it all becomes apparent in time. Patience is good—the tolerance for not knowing what's what is quite an art form.
Harsh speech is unhealthy.
Refraining from harsh speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning harsh speech,
one refrains from harsh speech. One speaks words that are gentle,
pleasing to the ear, and affectionate, words that go to the heart, are
courteous, and are agreeable to many. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others
may speak harshly, but I shall abstain from harsh speech.” (MN 8)
When one speaks unhurriedly, one’s body does not grow tired and one’s
mind does not become excited, one’s voice is not strained and one’s
throat does not become hoarse. The speech of one who speaks unhurriedly
is distinct and easy to understand. (MN 139)
Reflection
The previous
text on right speech emphasized the drawbacks of speaking hurriedly, and
this one reverses the focus and speaks to the benefits of taking your
time when you have something to say. This can seem out of touch with the
pace of modern life, but does that mean we should ignore this advice to
fit in with the times? Might it be better to be guided by these wise
words and learn to slow down how we communicate?
Daily Practice
How much of the
stress in your experience comes from speaking too fast or trying to
follow the speech of others who are speaking at a mile a minute? Notice,
by paying attention, when this happens and make a conscious effort to
slow down the pace of your own speech. This can have the effect of
slowing down the people you talk with as well. You don’t have to be
swept along by the speaking habits of others.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Mental Action One week from today: Refraining from Frivolous Speech
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As
you extend tenderness to others, you may also begin to recognize how it
brings out tenderness in them. Life begins to look more like a mother
gazing at her infant child with deep adoration.
Elizabeth Mattis Namgyel, “Nurturing the Intelligent Heart”
This review of Ben Van Overmeire's American Koan: Imagining Zen and Self in Autobiographical Literature explores how koans and autobiographical narratives reveal the evolution of Zen practice in America.
Whatever you intend,
whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will
become the basis upon which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop
meditation on appreciative joy, for when you develop meditation on
appreciative joy, any discontent will be abandoned. (MN 62)
Appreciative joy fails when it produces amusement. (Vm 9.95)
Reflection
The emotion indicated by the term appreciative joy
is a deep one and is to be distinguished from mere amusement. Noticing
the success of others is not a momentary lift; you are allowing yourself
to be profoundly moved by the beneficial aspects of life that do not
center on yourself. Once we open to all the ways others have good things
happen to them, this becomes a boundless source of our own good
feelings.
Daily Practice
Cultivate
appreciative joy at every opportunity. Get in the habit of noticing the
good things that happen around you, not as they relate to your own gain
but as they affect and benefit others. Being happy about other people
being happy is a practice in itself. It is good to loosen the habit of
always relating what you see to yourself and to develop an appreciation
for the perspective of others. Feel the joy you experience from this.
Tomorrow: Refraining from Harsh Speech One week from today: Cultivating Equanimity
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