How to manage your wants | Peter Attia & Arthur Brooks

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In partnership with Arthur Brooks speaking. Happiness researcher reveals the 'enduring' secret to being happy in the second half of life It goes against what Mother Nature may be telling you. By Tod Perry Happiness researcher Dr. Arthur Brooks says that one of the most important things people can do as they enter the second half of their life is to focus on internal well-being rather than satisfying all of their wants. Even though this may feel like it runs counter to how many live the first half of their lives, he says it's the best way to find joy in middle age and beyond. Brooks is a professor at Harvard University, author of From Strength to Strength and Build the Life You Want (with Oprah Winfrey), and is a lifelong student of the science of happiness. He says the key to finding it in the second half of life is recognizing when enough is enough and reducing unnecessary desires. “What happy, successful people do in the second half of their lives is they go from adding to subtracting," Brooks says. "Mother Nature tells you that satisfaction comes from having more. More of what? More money, more power, more pleasure, more honor, more everything. More. But that's not the secret. The real formula for happiness is all the things that you have divided by the things that you want.” Read the story

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October 16

 

Today's Gay Wisdom 2017 - The Wit of Oscar Wilde A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything but the value of nothing. A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world. A gentleman is one who never hurts anyone's feelings unintentionally. A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal. A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her. A man can't be too careful in the choice of his enemies. A man who does not think for himself does not think at all. A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's face is her work of fiction. A poet can survive everything but a misprint. A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it. A true friend stabs you in the front.

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Browse our online courses » October 16, 2025 Beyond Blame   It’s no secret that we’re quick to blame others. Even at a young age, children will readily claim, “He did it first!” or, “It wasn’t my fault!” before they even fully understand the implications of their accusations.  This innate self-defense breaks down pretty quickly when we remember the Buddhist truth of interdependence. We see that in blaming others, we forget our own responsibility, and we overlook the causes and conditions that resulted in the offending actions or incidents. Compassion awakens and we see that blame is misguided and unskillful. This week’s Three Teachings works at uprooting that impulse to blame by encouraging empathy and offering the foundations to go beyond ingrained thought patterns and relationships. Forward today's teachings to a friend » Beyond Blame By Mark Epstein Listening to a Bruce Springsteen interview where “the Boss” reflects on his own parents, psychiatrist and author Mark Epstein takes to heart the capacity we all have for empathy, and to let go of what doesn’t serve us. We can all move beyond what psychoanalyst Jessica Benjamin calls the framework of “doer and and done to.” Read more » Drive All Blames Into One By Judy Lief In a series offering commentary on Atisha’s 59 mind-training (Tib. lojong) slogans, Buddhist teacher Judy Lief explains a practice for uprooting our automatic blaming of others. The teaching doesn’t encourage us to blame ourselves for everything, but to recognize how quickly and how often we immediately cast blame. Read more » An Appropriate Response By Christina Feldman and Chris Cullen Citing a practice by Thai Forest teacher Ajahn Sucitto to recite the phrase “Oh, just like me” when someone behaves in a way we find unacceptable, meditation teachers Christina Feldman and Chris Cullen call upon our shared vulnerability. Read more » Follow Us

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The Joy of the Present All experience, all reality (as we keep having to learn) is in the present. That makes it the only place where we can enjoy things. Dean Sluyter, “Macbeth Flunks the Marshmallow Test” CLICK HERE TO READ THE ARTICLE

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RIGHT ACTION Reflecting Upon Mental Action However the seed is planted, in that way the fruit is gathered. Good things come from doing good deeds; bad things come from doing bad deeds. (SN 11.10) What is the purpose of a mirror? For the purpose of reflection. So too mental action is to be done with repeated reflection. (MN 61) When you have done an action with the mind, reflect on that same mental action thus: “Was this action I have done with the mind an unhealthy bodily action with painful consequences and painful results?” If, on reflection, you know that it was, then tell someone you trust about it and undertake a commitment not to do it again. If you know it was not, then be content and feel happy about it. (MN 61)

Reflection One of the great innovations of Buddhist psychology is the recognition that all thoughts and emotions are a form of action taken by the mind, and as such all create karma—that is to say, they are causes that result in effects. So even if you think harmful thoughts without saying or doing anything, they will have a harmful effect on you, if not on others. This is why Buddhists care so much about nurturing the quality of their minds. Daily Practice Look objectively and honestly at the way your mind works. If you notice you have been thinking or imagining things that could cause painful consequences, such as images of retribution against someone or plans for revenge, be aware of it and recognize that such mental activities are harmful. Acknowledge to someone you trust that you are thinking like this, recognize it as unhealthy, and commit to changing this activity in the future. Tomorrow: Abstaining from Misbehaving Among Sensual Pleasures One week from today: Reflecting upon Social Action Share your thoughts and join the conversation on social media #DhammaWheel Questions? Visit the Dhamma Wheel orientation page.

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