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Frivolous speech is unhealthy. Refraining from frivolous speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning frivolous speech, one refrains from frivolous speech. One speaks at the right time, speaks only what is fact, and speaks about what is good. One speaks what is worthy of being overheard, words that are reasonable, moderate, and beneficial. (DN 1) One practices thus: "Others may speak frivolously, but I shall abstain from frivolous speech." (MN 8)
When a person commits an offense of some kind, one should not hurry to reprove them but rather should consider whether or not to speak. If you will be troubled, the other person will be hurt, and you can help them emerge from what is unhealthy and establish them in what is healthy, then it is proper to speak. It is a trifle that you will be troubled and they will be hurt compared with the value of helping establish them in what is healthy. (MN 103)
Reflection
The teachings on right speech are encouraging us to take the matter of communication more seriously than we often do. Often a lot of chattering is not conveying anything important, and it has a tendency to be distracting, making us less attentive. Speaking carefully about what is true and good brings greater value to our speech and renders it more worthy of being overheard.
Daily Practice
The example offered in this passage suggests that we should not jump to reprimand someone when they have committed some small offense. Pausing to consider whether to speak up breaks the momentum of a quick, reflexive reaction. It may turn out to be appropriate to speak, but the key issue is whether it would be helpful to do so. Note that whether speaking up would be troublesome or might hurt the other person is a trifle in comparison to the benefit of “helping establish them in what is healthy.”
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Social Action One week from today: Refraining from False Speech
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“May
I relate to myself, to others, and to the events around me with
kindness, understanding, and less judgment. May I use my day in a way
that is in tune with my deeper values.” In this way, set the tone for
the day.
Thupten Jinpa, “Two Exercises for Turning Intention into Motivation”
By
valuing and honoring the awakened nature of the Buddha, we sense our
own potential to awaken. When done in the container of dharma practice,
this does not feed conceit but nearly the opposite—it supports both
wholesome humility and self-respect.
RIGHT VIEW Understanding the Noble Truth of the Way to the Cessation of Suffering
And what is the way leading
to the cessation of suffering? It is just this noble eightfold path;
that is, right view, right intention, right speech, right action, right
living, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration. (MN 9)
One perfects their ethical behavior by abandoning the taking of life,
dwelling without taking life, with rod and weapon laid aside, gentle and
kindly, and with compassion for all living beings. (DN 2)
Reflection
The first and
perhaps most important of the basic ethical precepts is committing
yourself to the practice of harmlessness. This means not only no
deliberate killing but also refraining from any kind of assault against
living beings. The phrase used above literally means “laying down the
stick” and broadly speaking is construed as not only abandoning any
overt acts of violence but also softening the heart internally with
kindness and compassion.
Daily Practice
How can you
bring more harmlessness to your daily life? It is an emotional attitude
more than anything else. It involves seeing things through the eyes of
other beings and recognizing that they do not want and do not deserve to
be assaulted. Begin by brushing insects away rather than killing them,
slowing down to avoid animals on the road, and in every way increasing
your sensitivity to the inherent value of life.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Equanimity One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering
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