A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Whatever you intend,
whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will
become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop
meditation on lovingkindness, for when you develop meditation on
lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62)
The proximate cause of lovingkindness is seeing the lovable qualities of beings. (Vm 9.93)
Reflection
We can all
practice being kinder to one another. If we are able to make
lovingkindness the basis upon which our mind is established, then we
will all become kinder. The principle is so simple: the emotions we feed
and nurture will grow stronger, and their opposites will starve and
eventually die off. The immediate benefit of such practice is not only
the growth of kindness but also the withering of hate and ill will.
Daily Practice
The way to
develop lovingkindness is to bring to mind the lovable qualities of
others. Try looking at a puppy or a kitten. Don’t you just love it? It
has many lovable qualities. All the people you know also have such
qualities; you just have to look for them and call them to mind.
Practice seeing how often you can find something lovable in another
person, even someone you might not like that much. Cultivate
lovingkindness.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech One week from today: Cultivating Compassion
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If
you love yourself, you will never enjoy making yourself angry. If you
love yourself, you will have the opportunity to love others. And if you
love others, you will never try to hurt those people with rude and angry
words.
Ven. Mahindasiri Thero, “How to Deal with Toxic People”
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RIGHT VIEW Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering
When people have met with
suffering and become victims of suffering, they come to me and ask me
about the noble truth of suffering. Being asked, I explain to them the
noble truth of suffering. (MN 77) What is suffering? (MN 9)
Sorrow and lamentation are suffering: the sorrow, sorrowing,
sorrowfulness, inner sorrow, inner sorriness of one who has encountered
some misfortune or is affected by some painful state. (MN 9)
Reflection
The first noble
truth, the truth of suffering, is described in some detail in these
texts. Here the experience of loss and sorrow is highlighted. Elsewhere
we might be able to make a distinction between sorrow as a form of
mental pain and suffering as a state of emotional affliction, but here
we are simply directed to the universal human experience of the pain of
loss or misfortune. It hurts a lot to lose someone you love.
Daily Practice
The truth of
suffering is not meant to encourage us to wallow in our afflictions, but
it does not let us try to escape them through some kind of denial. The
first noble truth is a starting point. Only when the suffering is
acknowledged can the healing begin. Look at some aspect of your own
suffering with courage and without fear and decide that you can and will
undertake a path to heal the pain by understanding it and letting it
go.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Lovingkindness One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Origin of Suffering
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Be
neither glad nor regretful when sadness and gloom appear within the
heart. Look on them as mental conditions that must be investigated, as
things that arise, cease, and come out from the heart. They depend on
the heart for their birth and then latch on to it.
Whatever a person frequently thinks about and ponders, that will become the inclination of their mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders healthy states, one has abandoned unhealthy states to cultivate healthy states, and then one’s mind inclines to healthy states. (MN 19)
Here a person rouses the will, makes an effort, stirs up energy, exerts the mind, and strives to maintain arisen healthy mental states. One maintains the arisen joy-awakening factor. (MN 141)
Reflection
Last week we looked at abandoning unhealthy states that have arisen in the mind, and this week we are doing the opposite: practicing to maintain the good states of mind that have come up. If we are feeling generous or kind, or are being truthful, that is a good thing and should be supported. The word translated here as “maintain” also has the sense of guarding or protecting healthy emotions and healthy thoughts.
Daily Practice
All kinds of positive states arise and pass away naturally in the mind. The practice here is to notice that and to support, reinforce, and sustain positive states. If you say something nice to someone, say it again or say it to another person. If you give something to someone in an act of generosity, acknowledge that giving to others is good for you and look for opportunities to give again and again in different ways.
Tomorrow: Establishing Mindfulness of Mental Objects and Abiding in the Fourth Jhāna One week from today: Restraining Unarisen Unhealthy States
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