A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
All of us, no matter how difficult our lives may be, can find something to be grateful for, even if it’s as simple as a cool breeze on a hot day, the love of a pet, or a smile from a stranger.
Lisa Ernst, “The Liberating Practices of Sympathetic Joy and Gratitude”
The Courage to Be Compassionate Thupten Jinpa in conversation with James Shaheen and Sharon Salzberg
The Dalai Lama’s principal English translator discusses why compassion is fundamental to our basic nature as human beings—and why we tend to resist it.
The Work of Not Knowing Marie Howe in conversation with James Shaheen
In this episode of Tricycle Talks, Tricycle’s editor-in-chief, James Shaheen, sits down with Pulitzer Prize winner Marie Howe to discuss how poetry can help us cultivate attention and devotion to the ordinary.
Whatever a person frequently thinks about and ponders, that will become the inclination of their mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders healthy states, one has abandoned unhealthy states to cultivate healthy states, and then one’s mind inclines to healthy states. (MN 19)
Here a person rouses the will, makes an effort, stirs up energy, exerts the mind, and strives to maintain arisen healthy mental states. One maintains the arisen energy-awakening factor. (MN 141)
Reflection
It is one thing to arouse energy when it is needed in order to persevere in some healthy practice, for example. It is something else to be able to sustain that extra energy long enough to see the endeavor through. Sporadic effort has some value, but it is sustained effort that is really effective in helping us develop healthy mental and emotional states. It is valuable to be able to maintain the awakening factor of energy.
Daily Practice
Let’s take a specific example. Say you are in an annoying discussion with an annoying person, and you want to respond with kindness rather than annoyance. Remember that each moment is a new beginning and that each moment you have to renew your intention and your resolve. If you find kindness once, you need to reapply it in every ensuing moment. Maintaining kindness involves reapplying it again and again.
Tomorrow: Establishing Mindfulness of Mental Objects and the Fourth Jhāna One week from today: Restraining Unarisen Unhealthy States
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RIGHT LIVING Undertaking the Commitment to Abstain from Intoxication
Intoxication is unhealthy. Refraining from intoxication is healthy. (MN 9) What are the imperfections that defile the mind? Negligence is an imperfection that defiles the mind. Knowing that negligence is an imperfection that defiles the mind, a person abandons it. (MN 7) One practices thus: “Others may become negligent by intoxication, but I will abstain from the negligence of intoxication.” (MN 8)
There are these two worldly conditions: praise and blame. These are conditions that people meet—impermanent, transient, and subject to change. A mindful, wise person knows them and sees that they are subject to change. Desirable conditions do not excite one’s mind nor is one resentful of undesirable conditions. (AN 8.6)
Reflection
The “worldly winds,” you will recall, are those conditions that are inevitably found in the world, things it is useless to object to or resist, and the best course is to learn how to adapt and live with them. Praise and blame are among these inevitable worldly conditions. No matter what you do, there are times you will be praised, justifiably or not, and there are times you will be blamed, justifiably or not. It is best to accept this.
Daily Practice
One thing that helps in dealing with praise and blame is not to take things personally. Having yourself be the focus of everything can be seen as a kind of intoxication, distorting your perception of things as they actually are. Remind yourself that conditions are transient, that peoples’ opinions are subject to change, and that they may not praise or blame you with any real understanding of who you are or what you had in mind.
Tomorrow: Maintaining Arisen Healthy States One week from today: Abstaining from Harming Living Beings
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“Lower your expectations and you won’t be disappointed.” This may be tried and true advice, but it’s not very satisfying until you ask why it works. Hopes or goals aren’t the problem; attachment to them is. And attachment is inherent in expectations.
The Buddha was clear on this: The source of suffering, he said in the four noble truths, is attachment, or craving and aversion. Recognizing the impermanence of all phenomena, we understand that attachment will inevitably lead to disappointment. But simply carving out space—time or distance—from our attachments can loosen their hold.
As Korean Zen Buddhist teacher Haemin Sunim says, “When we take a broader view, the present slump can be seen as the trough of a wave, which sinks down to gather the energy it needs in order to rise again. It’s thanks to these low points that, when we’re again riding the crest of the wave, we’re able to be humble rather than arrogant, and to have the wisdom not to get carried away.”
This week’s Three Teachings offers guidance on maintaining hope and determination without suffering from unhelpful attachments.
Ven. Thubten Chodron offers a practice for helping us work with craving, reminding us that “it is not realistic to expect external objects to be a lasting source of happiness.”
Zen teacher and writer Vanessa Zuisei Goddard digs into the different types of craving, and points out that the truth of impermanence doesn’t just compel us to avoid expectation, but that it also allows us to enjoy what we have—for now.