Let’s say I drive to see somebody who’s dying. I’ve been driving on the
highway. I’ve been thinking about a lot of things, listening to the
radio, maybe chanting the Hanuman Chalisa—I’m somewhere else.
I walk into the room and suddenly I’m a lifeline. I’m a presence for
that person. What I’ve learned to do is just sit down and get there into
the situation. I can say, “I’d like to get here for a few minutes. Why
don’t we just sit quietly together?” I sit there and just feel my way
into what the moment is—the moment is the ticking of the clock or the
moment is a hand I’m holding. Your models of how you are suppose to be
to be useful for another person could be what’s getting in your way.
Trust that you will be open in the way you need to be opened. Maybe not
the way you would think of yourself being opened. But how presumptuous
of you to know what that person needs.
Maybe that person needs you to be a silly toad.
So that when you leave he or she can say, “Well, I know more than she
did. She was no use to me whatsoever.” The models have to be let go of.
You walk into a situation naked, always."
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