A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
The genius of the Buddha—the Indian prince Siddhartha—and many who followed him was the realization that the mind is not static. It is living, breathing, evolving.
Whatever a person frequently thinks about and ponders, that will become the inclination of their mind. If one frequently thinks about and ponders unhealthy states, one has abandoned healthy states to cultivate unhealthy states, and then one’s mind inclines to unhealthy states. (MN 19)
Here a person rouses the will, makes an effort, stirs up energy, exerts the mind, and strives to abandon arisen unhealthy mental states. One abandons the arisen hindrance of doubt. (MN 141)
Reflection
When a thought or emotion arises that is obviously unhelpful or unhealthy, it is natural to make some effort to get rid of it in order not to encourage the damage that such states can do to oneself and others. “Abandoning” involves a particular kind of effort, one that neither encourages nor rejects the unhealthy state. It is not a matter of repressing or pushing away unhealthy states but of letting them simply “flow through” the mind.
Daily Practice
While in some circumstances it can be healthy to doubt, the kind of doubt meant here is that which is debilitating and holds us back from practice and understanding. When doubt as an obstacle arises in your experience, simply let it pass without trying to hold on to it or push it away. You can “abandon” doubt by not letting it get a foothold in your mind but instead watching it arise and pass away, as it will naturally do if you let it.
Tomorrow: Establishing Mindfulness of Feeling and Abiding in the Second Jhāna One week from today: Developing Unarisen Healthy States
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We can practice equanimity much better when we understand how events are interdependent. We also develop equanimity when we look into the future with the same acceptance we have at examining the winding path that got us to where we are today.
Christopher Willard, “How Parents and Children Can Learn Balance and Equanimity from the Eight Worldly Winds”
RIGHT LIVING Undertaking the Commitment to Abstain from Taking What is Not Given
Taking what is not given is unhealthy. Refraining from taking what is not given is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning the taking of what is not given, one abstains from taking what is not given; one does not take by way of theft the wealth and property of others. (MN 41) One practices thus: “Others may take what is not given, but I will abstain from taking what is not given." (MN 8)
One is to practice thus: “Here, regarding things sensed by you, in the sensed there will be just the sensed." When, firmly mindful, one senses a sensation, one is not inflamed by lust for sensations; one experiences the sensation with a dispassionate mind and does not remain holding it tightly. (SN 35.95)
Reflection
The phrase “what is seen, heard, and sensed” is a shorthand way of referring to the first five of the senses, so the word sensed refers to the sense modalities of smelling, tasting, and touching. It can be challenging to simply be with what is given in direct experience, since we are so easily swept beyond what is given to add layers of judgment and interpretation. Right living involves remaining grounded in experience.
Daily Practice
When you smell, taste, or touch an object of any kind at any moment, see if you can focus just on the sensation, not allowing thoughts to take over and run rampant. Such proliferation is a way of “taking what is not given,” insofar as you are going beyond the information provided by the senses in the immediate experience and turning it into something different. Practice simply being with what is present—no more, no less.
Tomorrow: Abandoning Arisen Unhealthy States One week from today: Abstaining from Misbehaving Among Sensual Pleasures
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With all the violence and hatred spewing around us, the wisdom of children can remind us that we all possess bodhicitta, no matter how obscured. Bodhicitta is the wish for the awakening of all beings, and children show us this effortless altruism in plain sight. It may not be on display all the time, as any caregiver or teacher can confirm, but a natural loving-kindness is there. That inner child, with the inclination for loving-kindness, lives on within each of us.
Children can be so open to play with each other, so willing to jump into the mix, surrendering themselves to the moment and riding the wave of imagination. When do we lose that freedom to trust and act without inhibition? Without needless judgment and the fear of being judged? When do we start to accumulate the layers of insecurity that insulate us from others?
With innocence, wonder and love flow. Although the lessons don’t stop here, this week’s Three Teachings offers three takes on the wisdom we can glean from watching and caring for children.
Recounting an encounter with his creek-tromping nephew who catches, studies, and releases the “sea creatures” in his backyard, writer Leath Tonino illuminates the wisdom in curiosity, mindfulness, and non-attachment. “What he fundamentally relies on—what we all rely on, whether we know it or not—is an open mind and heart.”
Plum Village senior teacher Brother Pháp Hữu reminds us to listen to our inner child, which may be like a wound in need of healing, or a deep-seated inclination toward openness and love. Either way, our inner child is both wise and in need of care.
Struggling with the tension of loving our families while adhering to the Buddhist ideals of nonattachment, scholar, author, and meditation teacher Lama Jampa Thaye argues that strong loving-kindness doesn’t require attachment to outcomes, and home is the perfect place to start practicing. “Although we are aiming at an all-inclusive loving-kindness unrestricted by the partiality that divides the world into ‘mine’ and ‘yours,’” he says, “it needs to start with simple, uncontrived loving feelings toward those closest to us.”