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Wednesday, May 29, 2024
Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Harsh Speech
Harsh speech is unhealthy.
Refraining from harsh speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning harsh speech,
one refrains from harsh speech. One speaks words that are gentle,
pleasing to the ear, and affectionate, words that go to the heart, are
courteous, and are agreeable to many. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others
may speak harshly, but I shall abstain from harsh speech.” (MN 8)
When one speaks unhurriedly, one’s body does not grow tired and one’s
mind does not become excited, one’s voice is not strained and one’s
throat does not become hoarse. The speech of one who speaks unhurriedly
is distinct and easy to understand. (MN 139)
Reflection
The previous
text on right speech emphasized the drawbacks of speaking hurriedly, and
this one reverses the focus and speaks to the benefits of taking your
time when you have something to say. This can seem out of touch with the
pace of modern life, but does that mean we should ignore this advice to
fit in with the times? Might it be better to be guided by these wise
words and learn to slow down how we communicate?
Daily Practice
How much of the
stress in your experience comes from speaking too fast or trying to
follow the speech of others who are speaking at a mile a minute? Notice,
by paying attention, when this happens and make a conscious effort to
slow down the pace of your own speech. This can have the effect of
slowing down the people you talk with as well. You don’t have to be
swept along by the speaking habits of others.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Mental Action One week from today: Refraining from Frivolous Speech
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