Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 25/08/2016

“Se existe medo da intimidade, existe vergonha. A vergonha é um aspecto do orgulho que pode ser usado como um portal de acesso ao inconsciente. Ao identificar a vergonha, estabeleça um diálogo com ela. Mas se ainda não foi possível identificar a vergonha, dialogue então com o medo. Converse com essas partes da sua personalidade que estão gerando o isolamento. Pergunta a si mesmo: Do que eu tenho medo? O que eu considero tão feio em mim que preciso esconder? O que em mim eu não consigo aceitar? Essa é uma forma de acessar os porões do inconsciente.”

“Si existe miedo a la intimidad, existe vergüenza. La vergüenza es un aspecto del orgullo que puede ser usado como un portal de acceso al inconsciente. Al identificar la vergüenza, establece un diálogo con ella. Pero si todavía no fue posible identificar la vergüenza, entonces dialoga con el miedo. Habla con esas partes de su personalidad que están generando aislamiento. Pregúntate a ti mismo: ¿De qué tengo miedo? ¿Qué es lo que considero tan feo en mí que necesito esconderlo? ¿Qué en mí no consigo aceptar? Esta es una forma de acceder a los sótanos del inconsciente.”

“If there is fear of intimacy, there exists shame. Shame is an aspect of pride that can be used as a doorway to the unconscious. As you identify shame acting in you, develop a dialogue with it. If you have not yet been able to identify shame, have a conversation with your fear. Converse with these parts of your personality that are creating isolation. Ask yourself, ‘What do I fear? What is so ugly in me that I need to hide? What don’t I accept about myself?’ This is a way to access the dungeons of the unconscious.”

Via Daily Dharma / August 25, 2016: The Buddhist Art of Debate

The Buddha said, “My words are not to be simply accepted; they are to be tested.” Debating trains you to be clear and gives you an analytical mind. When you study Buddhism you can analyze what really makes sense rather than simply memorizing.

—Rinchen Khando Choegyal, "Standing as Equals"

Via Ram Dass

August 24, 2016

Water, when it flows downstream, doesn’t have a model of what it’s doing. It’s just being water, and water floats downstream, because that’s how water works. The thing that is extraordinarily hard for any of us to truly realize and to have sufficient faith to accept, is that if you stop having views, having models, planning, desiring, organizing, and structuring, it’s all right.

You don’t stop your desires as long as you stay in a human body. You break the identification with them. That's all that's required.

It isn’t necessary to give up a thing. It’s necessary to give up attachment to the thing. That’s all that’s required.

Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 24/08/2016

“A necessidade compulsiva de trocar de parceiro sexual é um desdobramento da gula; é um mecanismo de defesa que serve para amortecer a consciência. Por trás dessa compulsão existe um profundo medo da intimidade. Você tem medo de aprofundar na relação por que teme se revelar para o outro. O que faz com que você perca o interesse sexual pelo outro é o medo que ele veja algo em você que você não aceita. Você tem medo de entrar em contato com algo que não quer ver. No mais profundo, ao fugir do outro, você está fugindo de si mesmo.” 

“La necesidad compulsiva de cambiar de pareja sexual es undesdoblamiento de la gula; es un mecanismo de defensa que sirve para adormecer la conciencia. Por detrás de esta compulsión existe un profundo miedo a la intimidad. Tienes miedo de profundizar en la relación porquetemes revelarte al otro. Lo que te hace perder el interés sexual por el otro, es el miedo de que él vea algo en ti que no aceptas. Tienes miedo de entrar en contacto con algo que no quieres ver. En lo más profundo, alhuir del otro, estás huyendo de ti mismo.”

“The compulsive need to change our sexual partners is an unfolding of gluttony. It is a defense mechanism that serves to numb our consciousness. Behind this compulsion lies a deep-rooted fear of intimacy. We fear deepening into a relationship because we are afraid to reveal ourselves to the other. What makes us lose our sexual interest in our partner is that we fear they are seeing something in us that we don’t accept about ourselves. We dread coming into contact with something that we don’t want to see. At the deepest level, when we try to escape the other, we are attempting to run and hide from ourselves.”

Via Daily Dharma / August 24, 2016: The Everyday Buddhist

Buddhism after patriarchy calls for a radical reassessment of the relationship between spirituality and so-called “everyday life” . . . Now maintaining one’s livelihood and taking care of one’s environment and family need to be accepted as an alternative that is not inferior to monasticism.

—Rita M. Gross, "After Patriarchy"

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Via Lion's Roas: I’m interested in going to a Buddhist center in my city for the first time. Any advice?

by Lion's Roar Staff| August 17, 2016

Illustration by Nolan Pelletier.

It sounds like you’re a little nervous and unsure what to expect. That’s okay—Buddhists talk about the value of “not-knowing,” after all. But we do have some tips.

First: do some googling to see what your options are. And you’ll find a helpful directory of Buddhist centers right in the back of Lion’s Roar magazine or Buddhadharma. Visit centers’ websites and social media to get a sense of the tradition and teachings they represent. Which ones reflect what’s drawn you to Buddhism? Look for special beginner-friendly and drop-in events.

Here are some things to keep in mind for your visit to a center:

1. You’re under no obligation to do anything you don’t want to—and you’re free to leave if you don’t like the feel of the place.
2. That said, Buddhist practice is often about letting go, so try your best to have a spirit of playful experimentation. Bowing or chanting may be outside of your experience, but you’re there to try something new. Don’t worry about getting things wrong, because that’s expected.
3. Centers often rely on generosity to function. You are free to make a donation but not obligated.
4. Different communities have different feels—some are mostly silent, some are talkier, and so on. Keep looking and soon you’ll find one where you feel at home.

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Via LGBTQ Nation / FB: Trump’s new campaign chiefs have a long and sordid anti-gay past

In this Aug. 10, 2016, photo, Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump speaks during a coal mining roundtable at Fitzgerald Peterbilt in Glade Spring, Va. (AP Photo/Evan Vucci)

Donald Trump seems to have discovered some change you can believe in, and has just shuffled around the leadership of his campaign (again). Out goes Paul Manafort, who may or may not have been illegally accepting money from foreign powers, and in comes Breitbart News chairman Steve Bannon and conservative pollster Kellyanne Conway.

Wait, who?

Well, you’ll be delighted (and no doubt shocked) to learn that Trump’s new best friends have a long history of homophobia. Surprise!

Bannon, for example, went nuts over Target’s inclusive bathroom policy, accusing the store of “trying to exclude people who are decent, hard-working people who don’t want their four-year-old daughter to have to go into a bathroom with a guy with a beard in a dress.” Good one!

Conway called homosexuality “corrupting” and said that people “don’t want their kids looking at a cartoon with a bunch of lesbian mothers.” She did a bunch of polling for the National Organization for Marriage, which unbelievably still exists. (In fact, just last week, NOM sent out a fundraising email in which they inadvertently called their own members “pathetic.” Truer words were never spoken!)

Conway also spoke at the Family Research Council’s Values Voter Summit, and said that opposing homosexuality is not “right versus left, but right versus wrong.”

Trump likes to pretend that he’s a friend to the gays, but a quick look over at the company he keeps proves that’s simply not true. And of course, running mate Mike Pence is even worse.

Under Bannon’s leadership, Breitbart has run headlines like “The Trouble with Trannies” and pushed a conspiracy theory that Matthew Shepard’s murder wasn’t a hate crime. The site has also claimed that being gay is a mental illness.

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Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 23/08/2016

“O ego humano encontra-se adoecido, completamente obcecado pelo poder. O egoísmo chegou no seu grau máximo. E para que possamos nos curar dessa doença, precisamos primeiro reconhecê-la através dos seus sintomas (ansiedade, angústia, tristeza, depressão, desconexão...). Porém, não basta somente tratar os sintomas, precisamos tratar e eliminar a causa, a raiz dessa doença. No mais profundo, a raiz do egoísmo humano está na desconexão com a sua verdadeira identidade e com realidade espiritual da vida.” 

“El ego humano se encuentra enfermo, completamente obsesionado con el poder. El egoísmo ha alcanzado su grado máximo. Y para que podamos curarnos de esta enfermedad, primero necesitamos reconocerla a través de sus síntomas (ansiedad, angustia, tristeza, depresión, desconexión...). Pero no basta solamente con tratar los síntomas, necesitamos tratar y eliminar la causa, la raíz de esta enfermedad. En lo más profundo, la raíz del egoísmo humano está en la desconexión con su verdadera identidad y con la realidad espiritual de la vida.” 

“The human ego is sick, completely obsessed with power. Selfishness has increased to its maximum degree. In order for us to heal ourselves from this disease, we first need to recognize its symptoms such as, anxiety, anguish, sadness, depression and disconnection. However, it is not enough to only treat the symptoms. We need to treat and eliminate the cause, and address the roots of this illness. At the deepest level, the roots of human selfishness lie in the disconnection from our true identity and the spiritual reality of life.”

Via Daily Dharma / August 23, 2016: Our Temporary Niche

As human beings we agonize about death, and about our lack of freedom. We have the greatest difficulty in acknowledging our impermanence and our dependence. Once we truly accept our temporary niche in the interdependence of all things, then, as the Buddha taught, we can be free of dukkha.

—Robert Aitken, "The Rectification of Names"

Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 22/08/2016

“Para ancorar a presença é preciso fechar as contas com o passado, o que significa poder olhar para trás e agradecer à cada pessoa que passou na sua vida. Onde existe ingratidão existe acusação; onde existe acusação, existe um coração fechado. Em outras palavras, existe uma ferida a ser tratada. Pois é essa ferida que te mantém preso ao passado. Com isso, eu lhe convido a fazer uma reflexão: se, nesse momento, a vida lhe convidasse a deixar o corpo, você estaria pronto? Se a resposta é não, procure identificar porquê. O que você estaria deixando para trás inacabado? Quais são as contas abertas que você estaria deixando? Somente quando puder fechar essas contas do passado, você poderá viver plenamente o presente.” 

“Para anclar la presencia es necesario cerrar las cuentas con el pasado, lo que significa poder mirar hacia atrás y agradecer a cada persona que pasó por tu vida. Donde hay ingratitud hay acusación; donde hay acusación, hay un corazón cerrado. En otras palabras, existe una herida a tratarse. Pues esesta herida la que te mantiene atado al pasado. Con eso, yo te invito a hacer una reflexión: si, en ese momento, la vida te invitara a dejar el cuerpo, ¿estarías listo? Si la respuesta es no, trata de identificar por qué. ¿Qué estarías dejando atrás sin terminar? ¿Cuáles son las cuentas abiertas que estarías dejando? Solamente cuando puedas cerrar estas cuentas del pasado, podrás vivir plenamente el presente.” 

“In order to anchor presence, it is necessary to close the open accounts from our past. We need to be able to look back and thank each and every person from our past. Where there is ingratitude, there exists an accusation. Where there are accusations, there is also a closed heart. In other words, there is a wound that needs to be treated. It is this wound that keeps us stuck in the past. With this knowledge, I invite you to do a reflection exercise: if, in this exact moment, life were to invite you to leave your body, would you be ready? If your answer is no, try to identify why this is. What would you be leaving behind that is still unfinished? What are the open accounts that would be left unfinished? Only when we are able to close these accounts of the past will we be able to live fully in the present.”

Via Daily Dharma / August 22, 2016: Giving Up Fear

A quick summation of Buddhist logic: the source of my anxiety is not the succession of objects to which it attaches itself but that volatile heap of memory and habit I have come to call “myself.” Give it up and you give up your fear; cling to it, and fear will haunt you always.

—Lawrence Shainberg, "Ambivalent Zen"

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Via Ram Dass

August 17, 2016

Because when you push against somebody (even the subtlest model in your head they should be different than they are), it awakens in them at a very in unconscious level, pushing back. A resistance, a subtle paranoia. And I have noticed in my human relationships that as I want less and less of each individual, there is much less paranoia of them at a deep level, and they are much more available immediately.

Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 21/08/2016

“Quando desenvolve a habilidade da auto-observação e da atenção plena, a sua memória desperta e você começa a lembrar de situações e imagens; você abre os porões do inconsciente e inicia uma limpeza. Limpar os porões significa liberar sentimentos guardados, fechar contas abertas (mágoas e ressentimentos) e se harmonizar com o passado, para finalmente poder sustentar a presença. Pois o que te tira da presença é o passado.” 

“Cuando desarrollas la habilidad de la auto-observación y de la atención plena, tu memoria despierta y comienzas a recordar situaciones e imágenes; abres los sótanos del inconsciente y comienzas una limpieza. Limpiar los sótanos significa liberar sentimientos guardados, cerrar cuentas abiertas (heridas y resentimientos) y armonizarse con el pasado, para finalmente poder sustentar la presencia. Porque lo que te saca de la presencia es el pasado.” 

“When we develop the abilities for self-observation and mindfulness, our memories awaken and we begin to remember situations and images from our past. We open the dungeons of our unconscious and begin a deep cleansing. We cleanse these areas of darkness by liberating our suppressed feelings, closing our open accounts of hurts and resentments, and by coming into harmony with our past. We do all of this so that we may finally be able to sustain presence. It is the past that robs us of our presence.”

Via Daily Dharma / August 21, 2016: The God of Silent Music

Zen and Catholicism meet deep inside me . . . There is nothing to contradict and nothing to harmonize. They don’t say the same thing, because they don’t say anything. They don’t address the one God expressed in different languages, because the only God there is, is the God of silent music.

—Thomas Moore, "Zen Catholic"

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Via Sri Prem Baba: Flor do dia - Flor del día- Flower of the day - 20/08/2016

“Algumas pessoas tentam fugir dos relacionamentos com a desculpa de precisarem se dedicar à espiritualidade. Elas acreditam que, ao se mudarem para uma comunidade espiritual, terão seus problemas resolvidos. Mas, a realidade é que, onde quer que estejam (quer seja trabalhando no escritório de uma grande empresa ou rezando em um templo), elas precisarão encarar seus fantasmas internos, o que significa lidar com seus medos e sentimentos negados. Não importa onde estejam, será necessário aprender a se relacionar de forma saudável, pois o fantasma não é o outro, é você mesmo.”

“Algunas personas intentan huir de las relaciones con la excusa de que necesitan dedicarse a la espiritualidad. Creen que al mudarse a una comunidad espiritual, tendrán sus problemas resueltos. Pero la realidad es que, dondequiera que estén (ya sea trabajando en la oficina de una gran empresa o rezando en un templo), tendrán que encarar sus fantasmas internos, lo que significa lidiar con sus miedos y sentimientos negados. No importa donde estén, será necesario aprender a relacionarse de forma saludable, porque el fantasma no es el otro, eres tú mismo.”

“Some people avoid being in relationships with the excuse of needing to dedicate themselves to spirituality. They believe that by moving to a spiritual community, their problems will be resolved. The reality is that, no matter where we are, whether working in the office of a big company, or praying in a temple, we will have to face our inner ghosts. We have to deal with our fears and denied feelings. Regardless of where we are, we have to learn how to relate in a healthy way, because the other is not the ghost: we are the ghost.”