Tuesday, March 17, 2026

Via FB // A young man once approached a wise monk and asked...



A young man once approached a wise monk and asked,

“How do I stop overthinking?”
The monk replied:
“You overthink because your mind is trying to protect you… from a future that does not yet exist.
Tell me—who has ever seen tomorrow?
Whatever you fear about it is not reality, but imagination wearing the mask of truth.
So the mind creates problems that aren’t real…
and then exhausts itself trying to solve them.
Like a cat spinning in circles, chasing its own tail.
If you wish to be free, remember two things.
First—your thoughts are not facts.
Most of what you worry about will never happen.
Second—life will unfold as it must.
Release what you cannot control, and respond wisely to what actually comes.
Do this, and your restless mind transforms…
from a loop of fear into a steady river—
flowing, adapting, and at peace with whatever lies ahead.
Understand this clearly:
the mind is often trying to solve problems it created itself.
Trust life.
Act where you can.
Let go where you cannot.
This is the way.”
Moral:
Overthinking is not wisdom—it is fear pretending to be preparation.
Peace begins the moment you stop battling an imagined future… and start living in the present.

Via FB // Meet Jack Baker and Michael McConnell.



In 1971, two men walked into a county office in Minnesota and walked out with a marriage license. It wasn't a stunt or a protest prop. It was a real license, stamped and issued by the state.

Meet Jack Baker and Michael McConnell.

The couple had already tried in Minneapolis. The clerk there refused to process the application. So Baker and McConnell tried a different strategy. They drove about 80 miles south to Blue Earth County and applied again. This time, the paperwork went through.

On September 3, 1971, county clerk Gerald Nelson issued the license. A few days later, the couple married in Minneapolis. A Methodist minister performed the ceremony. For a brief moment, two men were legally married in the United States.

Of course, the state quickly tried to undo it. Officials declared the license invalid and the case headed to court. Baker and McConnell fought back, arguing Minnesota law never explicitly banned two men from marrying.

The case eventually reached the U.S. Supreme Court.

In 1972, the justices dismissed it with a single sentence, saying the issue did not raise a “substantial federal question.” That one line froze marriage equality lawsuits for decades. Courts kept citing Baker v. Nelson as settled law.

But Baker and McConnell never gave up their claim. They stayed together. They insisted their marriage was real.

In 2015, the Supreme Court legalized same sex marriage nationwide in Obergefell v. Hodges. That decision quietly erased the legal barrier created by the 1972 dismissal.

Minnesota officials later acknowledged something remarkable. The 1971 marriage had never actually been dissolved. Which means Jack Baker and Michael McConnell were legally married all along.

More than forty years before marriage equality became the law of the land, two men already had the paperwork to prove it. They had insisted their marriage was legal all along. Turns out, they were right.

They're still married today.

Via GBF -- "Loving-Kindness Practice: Cutting Through Everyday Anxiety" with Sean Feit Oakes

Our latest dharma talk is now available on the GBF website, podcast and YouTube channel:

Loving-Kindness Practice: Cutting Through Everyday Anxiety – Sean Feit Oakes

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How can we cultivate a heart that remains open and loving regardless of the external circumstances we face?
 
In this talk, Sean Feit Oakes explores the Brahma Viharas, also known as the "divine abodes" or states of the heart, as a comprehensive framework for answering this question. He explains that while the Buddha is often associated with wisdom, these practices of love are foundational for both laypeople and monastics to access extraordinary states of consciousness.
 
He describes these four qualities not as separate entities, but as the "song" love sings depending on the context it encounters:
  • Loving-kindness (Metta): The quintessential quality of friendliness and unbounded, impersonal love.
  • Compassion (Karuna): What happens when loving-kindness encounters suffering and pain.
  • Empathic Joy (Mudita): Also referred to as "celebration," this is love encountering well-being or beauty.
  • Equanimity (Upekkha): A balanced, resting state of love that exists beyond specific objects or conditions, helping to prevent love from turning into grasping.
Sean weaves together diverse influences, from the devotional lineage of Neem Karoli Baba to modern poetry, to illustrate how a dedicated practice of love can cut through everyday neuroses and anxiety. He emphasizes that love inevitably brings us into contact with both beauty and the "heartbreak" of the world's suffering, yet it remains the primary vehicle for healing and waking up.
 
Drawing on the Kalama Sutta, he encourages listeners to test these practices for themselves through direct experience rather than blind faith. He invites us to "turn on" the quality of love within the heart and allow it to lead one's movements and perceptions in daily life, suggesting that communities moving from a place of love have the power to ripple out and change the world.

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The Real Enemy Isn’t Doctrine — It’s Outsourcing Perception

Author: Alison Marshall
Categories: Baha'i Scripture Deep Dive

Via Daily Dharma: Complete Selflessness

 

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Complete Selflessness

If enlightenment is, among other things, complete selflessness, then only when we have rid ourselves of selfishness to the point where we are no longer greedy, even for the fruits of training, do we really reach the “goal” of the Way.

Francis Dojun Cook, “Bodhicitta’s Ripple Effect”


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Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Intention: Cultivating Lovingkindness

 

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Cultivating Lovingkindness
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on lovingkindness, for when you develop meditation on lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62) 

The proximate cause of lovingkindness is seeing the lovable qualities of beings. (Vm 9.93)
Reflection
We can all practice being kinder to one another. If we are able to make lovingkindness the basis upon which our mind is established, then we will all become kinder. The principle is so simple: the emotions we feed and nurture will grow stronger, and their opposites will starve and eventually die off. The immediate benefit of such practice is not only the growth of kindness but also the withering of hate and ill will.
Daily Practice
The way to develop lovingkindness is to bring to mind the lovable qualities of others. Try looking at a puppy or a kitten. Don’t you just love it? It has many lovable qualities. All the people you know also have such qualities; you just have to look for them and call them to mind. Practice seeing how often you can find something lovable in another person, even someone you might not like that much. Cultivate lovingkindness.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech
One week from today: Cultivating Compassion

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Monday, March 16, 2026

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Via Daily Dharma: The Magic of Reflecting

 

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The Magic of Reflecting

Through the magic of reflecting on the teachings, their force—sometimes clear, sometimes obscure—will cause ferment in our minds from which we can gradually distill the wisdom of reflection.

Lama Jampa Thaye, “How Do We Learn the Dharma?”


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Via Dhamma Wheel | Right View: Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering

 

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Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering
When people have met with suffering and become victims of suffering, they come to me and ask me about the noble truth of suffering. Being asked, I explain to them the noble truth of suffering. (MN 77) What is suffering? (MN 9)

Sorrow and lamentation are suffering: the sorrow, sorrowing, sorrowfulness, inner sorrow, inner sorriness of one who has encountered some misfortune or is affected by some painful state. (MN 9)
Reflection
The first noble truth, the truth of suffering, is described in some detail in these texts. Here the experience of loss and sorrow is highlighted. Elsewhere we might be able to make a distinction between sorrow as a form of mental pain and suffering as a state of emotional affliction, but here we are simply directed to the universal human experience of the pain of loss or misfortune. It hurts a lot to lose someone you love. 
Daily Practice
The truth of suffering is not meant to encourage us to wallow in our afflictions, but it does not let us try to escape them through some kind of denial. The first noble truth is a starting point. Only when the suffering is acknowledged can the healing begin. Look at some aspect of your own suffering with courage and without fear and decide that you can and will undertake a path to heal the pain by understanding it and letting it go.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Lovingkindness
One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Origin of Suffering

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Via The Tricycle Community \\\ What Is Tantra?

 

On March 26 at 1 p.m. ET, join professor Richard K. Payne in a discussion about tantra. Referencing his new book, Tantra Across the Buddhist Cosmopolis, Payne will explain how tantric practices have evolved from early medieval India to the present day, and why it makes more sense to study tantra through the lens of practice, instead of religion. He’ll also explain common misconceptions about tantric practices and teachings, including the history behind them.
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