A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Thursday, May 9, 2013
Via JMG: HomoQuotable - Michelangelo Signorile
"For gay men over 40, it's as if we've come back from a war that was far away and distant to most Americans even as it was happening -- not unlike the actual wars we've experienced in this country in the past decade. All of us who were in the trenches of the AIDS war are today dealing with the grief and the survivor guilt, even as the war itself goes on. Many are grappling with deeper scars and something akin to post-traumatic stress. A lot of it is immeshed in all the other issues people face, such as mid-life crises and aging. But as John Voelcker pointed out, unlike for other veterans of other wars, there isn't a Veterans Administration or any built-in support system for the survivors of the AIDS war, nor is there any outlet for mass grieving of the thousands who've died from AIDS similar to the memorials for war dead or terrorism victims." - Michelangelo Signorile, writing for the Huffington Post.
Read Signorile's full essay, which includes mention of tonight's Manhattan panel on AIDS survivorship, where I'm one of the speakers.
Labels: activism, AIDS, Broadway Cares, HIV/AIDS, HomoQuotable, LGBT History, Michelangelo Signorile
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Maintaining a Steady Practice
Now
if the practice is so good for us, why is it so difficult to maintain a
steady practice? It may be that the notion that practice is 'good for
us' is the very impediment—we all know how we can resist what is good
for us at the table, at the gym, and on the Internet. This mechanical
notion of practice, 'if I practice, then I will be (fill in the blank),'
leads to discouragement because it is not true that practice inevitably
leads to happiness or anything that we can imagine.
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- Roshi Pat Enkyo O'Hara, "Like a Dragon in Water"
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
JMG Quote Of The Day - Chris Kluwe
"I love football, I love playing football but at the end of the day, it is a children's game that grown men play. If I can speak out on something, especially something that affects millions of lives and causes young kids to kill themselves - if I can speak out on that and help one of those young kids realize that you don't have to take that step, to me that's worth far more than anything that I could gain from football. I think all that we're asking and all that any athlete is asking, straight or gay, is judge that person by what they can do on the field. Not by who they are, not by what their beliefs are or the color of their skin. Judge them by their playing abilities." - Chris Kluwe, speaking with the Huffington Post. Kluwe was cut this week by the Minnesota Vikings. (Via Gay Star News)
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Tricycle Daily Dharma May 8, 2013
The Other Side of Boredom
When
you are really bored, the best thing you can do is sit down and let
yourself experience the boredom more fully. It may not be a deep or
satisfying state, but at least you are not indulging in the things with
which you usually cover up this kind of experience. Your real state of
mind is more nakedly exposed, because for the time being there are no
distractions. If you can stay with the experience of boredom, you can
try to feel your way through into something deeper, truer, and more
spontaneous within yourself.
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- Sangharakshita, "Staying with Boredom"
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
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Via JMG: Frank Bruni On The Boy Scouts
"The Episcopal Church wants all aspects of the ban lifted, as does the National Jewish Committee on Scouting, whose former chairman, a Baltimore lawyer named Jay Lenrow, told me that while no troop should be forced to choose a gay leader, no troop should be prevented from doing so, either.
"He noted that our country was founded on a principle of religious freedom; that the Scouts’ bylaws require equal treatment of every religion’s teachings; and that certain denominations — the Episcopal Church and the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.), for example — ordain gay and lesbian ministers. By the Scouts’ current rules, those very ministers, fit for the pulpit, aren’t deemed fit to lead a troop.
"Isn’t that as much of an insult to their religions as the ban’s end would be to [Tony] Perkins, [Rick] Perry and their kind? - Frank Bruni, writing for the New York Times. Hit the link and read his entire piece.
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Tricycle Daily Dharma May 7, 2013
It Gets Easier
Once
we taste the freedom that comes with independence, it gets easier. We
realize how much we have lost by desperately holding on, and we know how
much there is to gain through disengaging from confusion. We can do
this while expanding our most precious qualities: our good heart and our
compassion for others.
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- Dzigar Kongtrul, “Old Relationships, New Possibilities”
Monday, May 6, 2013
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Via JMG: Liza Joins NOH8 Campaign
Via press release, Liza's message: "Here's what I believe ... no shame, no blame, no guilt. Be happy. And be who you are. I love you." [Photo credit: Adam Bouska courtesy of NOH8 Campaign.]
Labels: Liza Minnelli, NOH8, Proposition 8
Via JMG: Chris Kluwe Cut By Minnesota Vikings
The Star-Tribune reports that punter and gay marriage advocate Chris Kluwe has been cut by the Minnesota Vikings. The team is denying that the move has anything to do with politics.
Reposted from Joe
“It has nothing to do with anything Chris Kluwe is off the field,” the GM said. “When we’re making decisions, we’re purely making them trying to bring in the best competition possible regardless of position. ... This was just another normal personnel move. It had nothing to do with Chris Kluwe’s off-field concerns, I have no issues if Chris Kluwe wants to express his opinion. That’s his right, that’s his freedom of speech. This is just a football decision to bring in a guy to come in to compete.”RELATED: Last month gay marriage ally Brendon Ayanbadejo was released by the Baltimore Ravens.
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Tricycle Daily Dharma May 6, 2013
Facing Yourself
Spiritual
change is precisely a process that is bigger than you. You don’t
control it. You surrender to it. You don’t reinvent yourself through
spiritual work. You face yourself, and then you must let go of all the
ghastly things you find. But there is no end to these ghastly things.
They keep coming. The ego is a bottomless pit of suckiness. And so you
finally let go of the self that clings to itself (one definition of
ego). True freedom comes when ego goes.
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- Shozan Jack Haubner, "A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to Enlightenment"
Sunday, May 5, 2013
Via JMG: President Obama Supports LGBT Inclusion For Immigration Reform Bill
Speaking tonight at a press conference in Costa Rica, President Obama endorsed including LGBT couples in the immigration reform bill currently before the Senate.
Obama says that recognizing same-sex relationships in the bill is "the right thing to do." But he says it would be premature to telegraph what he will or won't do before lawmakers send him a bill. Gay rights supporters are pushing for an amendment to the bill to allow gays to sponsor their partners to come to the U.S. But Republicans, including some who helped draft the bill, have made it clear that amending the legislation in that fashion would cost their support.
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Tricycle Daily Dharma May 5, 2013
Our Mutual Dependency
To
open yourself up to need, longing, dependency, and reliance on others
means opening yourself to the truth that none of us can do this on our
own. We really do need each other, just as we need parents and teachers.
We need all those people in our lives who make us feel so uncertain.
Our practice is not about finally getting to a place where we are going
to escape all that but about creating a container that allows us to be
more and more human, to feel more and more.
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- Barry Magid, “No Gain”
Saturday, May 4, 2013
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Keeping our Understanding Alive
The
seeds of anger are always there. But when you notice, when you keep
alive your understanding, they have no chance to manifest. Understanding
is something that stays with you, and practicing the precepts,
practicing meditation, helps you deepen your understanding all the time.
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- Thich Nhat Hanh, “Interbeing with Thich Nhat Hanh”
Thursday, May 2, 2013
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Eliminating Thoughts of Unworthiness
Without
cultivating love for ourselves, regardless of how much discipline we
have, regardless of how serious we are about practice, we will still
stay stuck in the subtle mercilessness of the mind, listening to the
voice that tells us we are basically and fundamentally unworthy. We
should never underestimate the need for lovingkindness on the long and
sometimes daunting path of learning to awaken.
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- Ezra Bayda, “The Three Things We Fear Most”
Wednesday, May 1, 2013
Via JMG: Jason Collins' #98 Jersey: Top Seller
Jason Collins' #98 Jersey: Top Seller
The Washington Wizards announced today that 100% of its online custom jersey sales in the last 48 hours have borne the name and number of Jason Collins.
Washington Wizards center Jason Collins’ jerseys got a boost in online sales after he became the first openly gay athlete on a major U.S. team sport. Team spokesman Scott Hall told ABC News that 100 percent of custom jerseys ordered from the team’s online store bore Collins’ name and number, 98, on the back, after Collins revealed his homosexuality in an article published on Sports Illustrated’s website on Monday. While Hall could not reveal how many custom Collins jerseys were sold, he said that the team’s general merchandise sales and online traffic spiked following Collins’ announcement. In a statement, the Wizards said they were proud of Collins and “his decision to live his life proudly and openly.”The parents of Matthew Shepard revealed yesterday that they were "brought to tears" by the news that Collins chose his jersey number as a secret memorial to the year that Shepard was murdered. Customize your Collins jersey here.
Labels: basketball, coming out, gay athletes, Jason Collins, Matthew Shepard, NBA, retail, sports
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Via JMG" Texas Attorney General: Domestic Partner Benefits Violate State Constitution
GOP Texas Attorney General Greg Abbott says that any city that offers domestic partner benefits is in violation of the state constitution.
Domestic partnerships, as recognized by the local governments, are close enough to the definition of marriage to violate a constitutional amendment banning same-sex unions that 76 percent of Texas voters approved in 2005, the opinion stated. “By creating domestic partnerships and offering health benefits based on them, the political subdivisions have created and recognized something not established by Texas law,” the opinion said. Lawyers for Austin and Travis County have begun researching the opinion to help political leaders determine if it should be followed. Attorney general opinions attempt to determine how Texas courts would rule on a legal matter, but only the courts have the definitive say on constitutional questions.Travis County, which has offered such benefits for 16 years, will hold a meeting next week to discuss Abbott's claim. The Austin City Council will meet with its lawyers but says it has no plan to change its benefits. (Tipped by JMG reader Jeff)
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Learning How to Live
Not
only is it of profound importance for each of us to understand in a
deep way the law of impermanence but it’s also quite practical. It’s not
merely metaphysical or something to be argued about in philosophy
seminars and coffee shops. Learning the law of impermanence can be done
there, too, but the Buddhist teaching is designed to help us learn how
to live.
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- Larry Rosenberg, “The Weather is Just the Weather”
Sunday, April 28, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 28, 2013
Taming the Monkey Mind
Your
thoughts run around like a wild horse and your feelings jump about like
a monkey in the forest. When the monkey and horse step back and reflect
upon themselves, freedom from all discrimination is realized naturally.
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- Dogen, "Instructions for the Tenzo"
Saturday, April 27, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 27, 2013
On Not Playing the Victim
One
of the worst kinds of elevation of the self is playing the victim.
There are times when we actually are victims, when actual blame is
appropriate, but to take on the identity of a victim and be stuck
blaming is something else. Surprisingly, it is actually a subtle form of
elevation—I’m not responsible, you are. This is giving up all freedom.
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- Nancy Baker, "The Seventh Zen Precept"
Thursday, April 25, 2013
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You Are Not Your Pain
You
can’t go preventing pleasure and pain, you can’t keep the mind from
labeling things and forming thoughts, but you can put these things to a
new use. If the mind labels a pain, saying, 'I hurt,' you have to
examine the label carefully, contemplate it until you see that it’s
wrong: the pain isn’t really yours. It’s simply a sensation that arises
and passes away, that’s all.
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- Upasika Kee Nanayon, "Tough Teachings To Ease The Mind"
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 24, 2013
Forgiving Past Harms
Most
of us find it very difficult to forgive individuals who have hurt us
deeply. Why should we forgive them? Although we sometimes make others
feel uncomfortable when we express our anger toward them, we are the
ones who wind up suffering the most when we do so. Maintaining anger is
similar to picking up a red-hot piece of coal to throw at
someone—whether we hit our target or not, we are the ones who get
burned.
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- Matthew Flickstein, "Forgiveness"
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Via JMG: COLOMBIA: Bogota Mayor Unfurls Pro-Gay Banner As Senate Considers Marriage
Colombia's Senate is expected to vote down its marriage equality bill today after a debate which is scheduled to begin within the hour of this writing. Despite that prediction, today Bogota Mayor Gustavo Petro ordered the above banner to be unfurled over city hall as LGBT activists demonstrated outside. Watch the debate and vote live here. More photos from the pro and anti-gay sides can be found on the Twitter feed of US-based activist and Colombia native Andres Duque.
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 23, 2013
Becoming Intimate with your Neurosis
The
teacher serves as a mirror but also encourages your ability to trust in
yourself. You begin to trust in your basic goodness instead of
identifying with your neurosis. There’s a shift of allegiance. Then the
obstacles begin to seem temporary, and what’s permanent is the wisdom.
To the degree that you become intimate with your neurosis—not acting-out
and not repressing—to that degree you discover your wisdom.
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- Pema Chödrön, “Unconditionally Steadfast”
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Monday, April 22, 2013
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Gateway to Happiness
We
are constantly encouraged to reject what is unpleasant, disappointing
or difficult. 'What's all this suffering? Let's be happy! Have fun!' But
our suffering is not our enemy. It is only through a relationship with
my pain, my sadness, that I can truly know and touch the opposite—my
pleasure, my joy, and my happiness.
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- Claude AnShin Thomas, “Conceptions of Happiness”
Sunday, April 21, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 21, 2013
Riding the Highs and Lows of Life
Skillful
attitudes of mind are the key to facing potentially explosive
situations and the ongoing highs and lows of life and practice. In fact,
recognizing these attitudes and cultivating their antidotes is the
foundation for all spiritual growth. By cultivating skillful attitudes
of mind, we will respond to more and more of life with awareness and
wisdom.
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- Steve Armstrong, "Got Attitude?"
Saturday, April 20, 2013
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 20, 2013
The Mind's Buddha
Trying
to find a Buddha or enlightenment is like trying to grab space. Space
has a name but no form. It's not something you can pick up or put down.
And you certainly can't grab it. Beyond this mind you'll never see a
Buddha. The Buddha is a product of your mind. Why look for a Buddha
beyond this mind?
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- Bodhidharma, "The Snaggletoothed Barbarian"
Friday, April 19, 2013
Via JMG: Rio De Janeiro State Legalizes Marriage
The Brazilian state of Rio De Janeiro has become the tenth in the nation to legalize same-sex marriage. Marriages conducted in any of these ten states are recognized nationwide. Same-sex marriage is also legal in the national capital of Brasilia. (Tipped by JMG reader Afonso)
The National Spiritual Assembly of the Bahá’ís of the United States wants you to know that you as a gay person are not welcome in their community:
January 3, 2011
To the American Bahá’í community
Dearest Bahá'í Friends,
The National Spiritual Assembly understands that homosexuality is a subject of
particular interest and concern to many in this country and is, therefore, moved to share
with you a letter dated October 27, 2010, written on behalf of the Universal House of
Justice on this topic. A copy of the letter—addressed to an American Bahá’í—was
received by our Assembly, and the Supreme Body has kindly granted us permission to
share it with you:
...With respect to your question concerning the position Bahá’ís are to
take regarding homosexuality and civil rights, we have been asked to convey
the following.
The purpose of the Faith of Bahá’u’lláh is the realization of the organic
unity of the entire human race, and Bahá’ís are enjoined to eliminate from
their lives all forms of prejudice and to manifest respect towards all.
Therefore, to regard those with a homosexual orientation with prejudice or
disdain would be against the spirit of the Faith. Furthermore, a Bahá’í is
exhorted to be “an upholder and defender of the victim of oppression”, and it
would be entirely appropriate for a believer to come to the defense of those
whose fundamental rights are being denied or violated.
At the same time, you are no doubt aware of the relevant teachings of the
Faith that govern the personal conduct of Bahá’ís. The Bahá’í Writings state
that marriage is a union between a man and a woman and that sexual
relations are restricted to a couple who are married to each other. Other
passages from the Writings state that the practice of homosexuality is not
permitted. The teachings of Bahá’u’lláh on personal morality are binding on
Bahá’ís, who strive, as best they can, to live up to the high standards He has
established.
In attempting to reconcile what may appear to be conflicting obligations,
it is important to understand that the Bahá’í community does not seek to
impose its values on others, nor does it pass judgment on others on the basis
of its own moral standards. It does not see itself as one among competing
social groups and organizations, each vying to establish its particular social
agenda. In working for social justice, Bahá’ís must inevitably distinguish
between those dimensions of public issues that are in keeping with the Bahá’í
Teachings, which they can actively support, and those that are not, which
they would neither promote nor necessarily oppose. In connection with
issues of concern to homosexuals, the former would be freedom from
discrimination and the latter the opportunity for civil marriage. Such
distinctions are unavoidable when addressing any social issue. For example,
Bahá’ís actively work for the establishment of world peace but, in the
process, do not engage in partisan political activities directed against
particular governments.
We felt it important that the friends have access to this guidance from the House of
Justice, and trust that you will find it helpful.
With loving Bahá'í greetings,
Kenneth E. Bowers
Secretary
To the American Bahá’í community
Dearest Bahá'í Friends,
The National Spiritual Assembly understands that homosexuality is a subject of
particular interest and concern to many in this country and is, therefore, moved to share
with you a letter dated October 27, 2010, written on behalf of the Universal House of
Justice on this topic. A copy of the letter—addressed to an American Bahá’í—was
received by our Assembly, and the Supreme Body has kindly granted us permission to
share it with you:
...With respect to your question concerning the position Bahá’ís are to
take regarding homosexuality and civil rights, we have been asked to convey
the following.
The purpose of the Faith of Bahá’u’lláh is the realization of the organic
unity of the entire human race, and Bahá’ís are enjoined to eliminate from
their lives all forms of prejudice and to manifest respect towards all.
Therefore, to regard those with a homosexual orientation with prejudice or
disdain would be against the spirit of the Faith. Furthermore, a Bahá’í is
exhorted to be “an upholder and defender of the victim of oppression”, and it
would be entirely appropriate for a believer to come to the defense of those
whose fundamental rights are being denied or violated.
At the same time, you are no doubt aware of the relevant teachings of the
Faith that govern the personal conduct of Bahá’ís. The Bahá’í Writings state
that marriage is a union between a man and a woman and that sexual
relations are restricted to a couple who are married to each other. Other
passages from the Writings state that the practice of homosexuality is not
permitted. The teachings of Bahá’u’lláh on personal morality are binding on
Bahá’ís, who strive, as best they can, to live up to the high standards He has
established.
In attempting to reconcile what may appear to be conflicting obligations,
it is important to understand that the Bahá’í community does not seek to
impose its values on others, nor does it pass judgment on others on the basis
of its own moral standards. It does not see itself as one among competing
social groups and organizations, each vying to establish its particular social
agenda. In working for social justice, Bahá’ís must inevitably distinguish
between those dimensions of public issues that are in keeping with the Bahá’í
Teachings, which they can actively support, and those that are not, which
they would neither promote nor necessarily oppose. In connection with
issues of concern to homosexuals, the former would be freedom from
discrimination and the latter the opportunity for civil marriage. Such
distinctions are unavoidable when addressing any social issue. For example,
Bahá’ís actively work for the establishment of world peace but, in the
process, do not engage in partisan political activities directed against
particular governments.
We felt it important that the friends have access to this guidance from the House of
Justice, and trust that you will find it helpful.
With loving Bahá'í greetings,
Kenneth E. Bowers
Secretary
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Tricycle Daily Dharma April 19, 2013
Daydreams of a Poet
It
is possible to take our existence as a ‘sacred world,’ to take this
place as open space rather than claustrophobic dark void. It is possible
to take a friendly relationship to our ego natures, it is possible to
appreciate the aesthetic play of forms in emptiness, and to exist in
this place like majestic kings of our own consciousness. But to do that,
we would have to give up grasping to make everything come out the way
we daydream it should.
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- Allen Ginsberg, “Negative Capability: Kerouac’s Buddhist Ethic”
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