A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Sunday, May 25, 2014
JMG HomoQuotable - Frank Bruni
"A kiss is nothing. On the sidewalks, in the park, I see one every few minutes, a real kiss, lip to lip. It barely registers. It’s as unremarkable as a car horn in traffic, as an umbrella in rain. And yet a kiss is everything. A kiss can stop the world. The football player Michael Sam recently demonstrated as much. [snip] I still sometimes feel panic when my partner, meeting me in a restaurant, gives me a perfunctory kiss on the lips. And yet I feel robbed — wronged — if I sense that an awareness of other people’s gazes and a fear of their judgment are preventing him from doing that. We shouldn’t be bound that way, and on the day of the pro football draft, in front of the cameras, Sam rightly declared that he wasn’t. He did so with a gesture at once humdrum and heroic, a gesture that connects everyone who has been in love and affirms what every love shares: physical tenderness, eye-to-eye togetherness. It was something to behold. It was something to hold on to." - Frank Bruni, writing for the New York Times.
Read the full essay.
JMG Quote Of The Day - Elton John
"While The Normal Heart is a product of a specific time, it is not an artifact. There is still an AIDS crisis -- not only in sub-Saharan Africa, but right here in the America, in your state, in your community. And, just as in 1985, it is silence, fear and stigma that continue to drive the epidemic. Today, African-Americans represent 12% of the national population, but they account for 44% of Americans living with HIV, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Gay and bisexual men comprise only 2% of the American population, but they represented 30% of the nation's HIV infections in 2010.
"Around 4,000 Americans are infected with HIV each year because of injection drug use, and one in seven HIV-positive Americans pass through a correctional facility each year. The crisis is particularly acute in the American South, where homophobia is rampant. I hope HBO's production of The Normal Heart will compel a new generation to act up. There is so much work still to be done, but there's also so much potential. The characters in The Normal Heart, living as they did in the 1980s, didn't understand what they or their friends were dying of, and they didn't have treatments to manage the disease. They hardly knew how to protect themselves.
"Today, we know how to protect everyone, and we have the ability to treat every single person living with HIV. Yet AIDS continues to prey upon the most vulnerable in our society: the poor, the incarcerated, sex workers, drug users, and those living in regions where intolerance and stigma are facts of life. Today, as ever, silence equals death." - Elton John, writing for CNN. The Normal Heart debuts on HBO tonight at 9PM.
Labels: ACT UP, Elton John, gay artists, gay writers, HBO, HIV, HIV/AIDS, Larry Kramer, LGBT History, The Normal Heart
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Extinguish the Craving | May 25, 2014
Try looking into how feeling gives rise
to craving. It's because we want pleasant feelings that craving
whispers—whispers right there to the feeling. If you observe carefully,
you will see that this is very important. This is where the paths and
fruitions leading to nibbana are attained. If we extinguish the craving
in feeling, that's nibbana.
—Upasika Kee Nanayon, “A Glob of Tar”
Saturday, May 24, 2014
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The Spokes of Our Lives | May 24, 2014
The spokes of wheels are like the
spokes of our lives: our family, our community, everything that supports
us. The center of our existence is the hub. And notice that when the
wheel spins, everything is moving except for the center. That’s us, you
know. Our wheels need to be true and straight. Be mindful of them, and
tighten the spokes in the right way.
—James Veliskakis, “Three Lives: From Biker to Buddhist”
Friday, May 23, 2014
Via PRAIA DO FUTURO / FB:
Nosso diretor Karim Aïnouz fala a O Globo: "A intolerância e o preconceito são manifestações muito tristes da alma humana, e elas em geral são frutos da ignorância, assim como o fascismo e o racismo. Ver um filme onde um monte de gente morre, onde há violência e tiros para cima e para baixo não tem problema. Mas uma história de amor tem? Do que essas pessoas têm medo?".
Leia a matéria completa aqui: http://bit.ly/oglobo-praiadofuturo
Via JMG: OREGON: Ballot Measure Dropped
Via press release:
Oregon United for Marriage submitted an amicus brief in the Rummell v Kitzhaber marriage equality case, noting that if the judge ruled in a way that allowed for same-sex couples to marry by May 23, the campaign would not submit the 160,000 signatures gathered to put a marriage equality measure on the ballot. Today is May 23—and following Judge Michael McShane’s ruling that extended the freedom to marry to all loving, committed couples in Oregon, a ballot campaign to address the same issue is no longer needed. “We are confident that the freedom to marry is secure in Oregon and that we do not need to move forward with the ballot measure,” said Oregon United for Marriage deputy campaign manager Amy Ruiz. “It is time to celebrate this victory for Oregon.”
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Long Journey to a Bow | May 23, 2014
Learning to make that first bow to
ourselves is perhaps a step to realizing that a bow is just a bow, a
simple gesture where all ideas of 'self' and 'other,' 'worthy' and
'unworthy,' fall away. It is a step of confidently committing ourselves
to realizing the same freedom and compassion that all buddhas throughout
time have discovered; it is acknowledging that we practice to be
liberated.
—Christina Feldman, "Long Journey to a Bow"
Thursday, May 22, 2014
10 Tips for Keeping Love Alive in Modern Times
Postedon 2/7/20142:30:00 PMbyDavid Cruz III
[Editor's note: Relationship expert—and current Frontiers cover model—David Cruz knows the importance of love. He shares that importance with us in this fun guide to keeping love alive in a time when most people consider chivalry and love at first sight to be things of cheesy rom-coms.]
1. Be a Warrior of Chivalry
There is much to be said about being a gentleman. Not only should you marry one but you should also be one! Open doors and treat the love of your life like a king.
2. Write
Handwritten Love Notes
Whether it’s a handwritten letter, card or even a Post-it, surprise the one you love with a short and sweet declaration of your love.
Whether it’s a handwritten letter, card or even a Post-it, surprise the one you love with a short and sweet declaration of your love.
3. Do
Something Your Partner Enjoys
It’s easy to get caught up with what you like in a relationship. Switch things up and make your partner feel special. Maybe tonight’s the night you watch a documentary instead of The Carrie Diaries!
4. Create Traditions with Good Friends
Whether it’s planning a monthly dinner party or a karaoke night, fostering your relationships with friends creates a strong support system. Become the ambassador of good times while catching up with the people you care most about. Remember that friends need love, too, and traditions like these keep everyone feeling special.
It’s easy to get caught up with what you like in a relationship. Switch things up and make your partner feel special. Maybe tonight’s the night you watch a documentary instead of The Carrie Diaries!
4. Create Traditions with Good Friends
Whether it’s planning a monthly dinner party or a karaoke night, fostering your relationships with friends creates a strong support system. Become the ambassador of good times while catching up with the people you care most about. Remember that friends need love, too, and traditions like these keep everyone feeling special.
5. Make a
Phone Call
When was the last time you actually talked to someone? Connect on a human level and call someone you care about. The general rule should be to replace one text a day with a phone call. Go ahead, I dare you—dial.
When was the last time you actually talked to someone? Connect on a human level and call someone you care about. The general rule should be to replace one text a day with a phone call. Go ahead, I dare you—dial.
6. Plan
Date Nights
Whether you’ve been together for a year or 10 years, remember to keep that flame burning bright. Plan nights out like you did when you first met, and make them fun and sexy.
Whether you’ve been together for a year or 10 years, remember to keep that flame burning bright. Plan nights out like you did when you first met, and make them fun and sexy.
7. Embrace
“Guys Night Out”
Sometimes it’s good to let guys be guys. Spend time away from your relationship and let loose with the old gang. At the end of the night you will still get to cuddle with your little spoon!
Sometimes it’s good to let guys be guys. Spend time away from your relationship and let loose with the old gang. At the end of the night you will still get to cuddle with your little spoon!
8. Unplug
from Technology
It’s so important to take a day and simply unplug—no tablets, phones, laptops or Twitter, just human communication. Take this time to make dinner, go for a hike or go to the beach together. Disconnect to reconnect!
It’s so important to take a day and simply unplug—no tablets, phones, laptops or Twitter, just human communication. Take this time to make dinner, go for a hike or go to the beach together. Disconnect to reconnect!
9. Play
Life can be too serious sometimes. People often get so caught up in being grown ups that they forget what it’s like to just play. Take time in your day to read the comics, run in the sprinklers, wander the toy aisle, watch cartoons and just relax. This will help your relationship “breathe” and not be taken too seriously. A relationship can be a lot of things, but it should also be fun.
Life can be too serious sometimes. People often get so caught up in being grown ups that they forget what it’s like to just play. Take time in your day to read the comics, run in the sprinklers, wander the toy aisle, watch cartoons and just relax. This will help your relationship “breathe” and not be taken too seriously. A relationship can be a lot of things, but it should also be fun.
10. Be
Thoughtful
Go the extra mile for the one you love. When your significant other is sick, make him soup and put together a special “get well” care kit. When you see his favorite candy, buy it for him. Do something without obligation and surprise him with it. Thoughtfulness is a one-way ticket to a long and happy relationship.
Go the extra mile for the one you love. When your significant other is sick, make him soup and put together a special “get well” care kit. When you see his favorite candy, buy it for him. Do something without obligation and surprise him with it. Thoughtfulness is a one-way ticket to a long and happy relationship.
Tags: Love , relationships , romance
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The Path of Reasoning | May 22, 2014
Gold merchants do not merely accept the
seller’s praise of his goods; rather, they use a variety of methods to
examine the quality of the merchandise before they make their purchase
decision. Similarly, the Buddha said, do not accept my teachings out of
faith in me, but rather out of your own confidence in my
words—confidence that you have reached as a result of your own
intelligent analysis.
—Khenpo Tsültrim Gyamtso, “Dissecting Devotion”
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
Via Merepresenta.net: Brasil X Argentina : Perdemos de goleada no combate a homofobia
by Redação •
Correspondente internacional na Argentina
O Brasil é oficialmente um País Laico (sem a interferência da Igreja no Estado), mas se comparado à Argentina que tem a Igreja Católica religião oficial do país, poderíamos supor que o Brasil teria maior aceitação, tolerância e respeito aos LGBT, certo? Errado. As contradições começam quando percebemos as diferenças no tratamento dispensado aos LGBT em seus respectivos países.
Além de dividirem fronteiras, Brasil e Argentina também dividem uma história semelhante. Ambos sofreram anos de ditadura militar e também sofrem com problemas sociais graves. Ambos têm governos presidenciais inclinados à esquerda e forte presença religiosa em seu povo. Mas são como dois continentes separados por um imenso oceano quando o assunto são os Direitos Humanos para a população LGBT. A Argentina goleia o Brasil neste quesito, aqui os homossexuais, bissexuais, travestis, transexuais são cidadãos plenos com seus direitos protegidos.
Moro na Argentina desde fevereiro deste ano e é visível a liberdade que os homossexuais vivenciam no país. Você não é surpreendido com linguagem homofóbica na rua, quando vai comprar um presente para o Dia de São Valentin ( comemorado dia 14 de Fevereiro em todo o mundo como o Dia dos Namorados, com exceção do Brasil, que comemora dia 12 de Junho) é extremamente comum ser perguntado na loja “Tiene vos novio o novia?” (Você tem namorado ou namorada?), todos os bares e boates (chamados de “boliches”, aqui) são gay-friendly e é raro você ouvir sobre assassinatos por conta da orientação sexual ou de gênero, mas quando acontece o país para; quando um LGBT é assassinado na Argentina tem a mesma repercussão que teve o assassinato do pedreiro Amarildo no Brasil.
Na Província de Rio Negro (equivalente ao Estado de Rio Negro) e na cidade de Buenos Aires a união civil entre pessoas do mesmo sexo já era garantida desde 2003, mas o Casamento Igualitário em vigor no país desde Julho de 2010 substituiu estas leis e garante o casamento a todas as pessoas independente de seu sexo e/ou identidade de gênero, garantindo inclusive, o direito à adoção. Em julho de 2003 Marcelo Suntheim y César Cigliutti se tornaram o primeiro casal de homens da América Latina legalmente unidos. A cerimônia foi transmitida ao vivo por diversos canais de TV da Argentina e teve repercussão em todos os jornais no dia seguinte. Uma multidão se aglomerou em frente o Cartório Civil da Avenida Uruguai em Buenos Aires. Depois, em agosto foi a vez de María Rachid y Claudia Castro históricas dirigentes da “Federación Argentina de Lesbianas, Gays, Bisexuales y Trans”. No Brasil, desde o ano passado, graças ao STF, os homossexuais podem se casar.
A Constituição Nacional da Argentina contém parágrafo contra a discriminação por qualquer tipo e as cidades de Buenos Aires e Rosário implementaram leis anti-homofobia e as divulgam constantemente. Uma lei que puna a discriminação por identidade de gênero e orientação sexual foi aprovada na Câmara dos Deputados e espera-se a aprovação dela no Senado. Existe forte campanha publicitária anti-homofobia para turistas e a Argentina é uma das rotas de turismo mais conhecidas entre homossexuais da Europa.
Em 2012 a Argentina aprovou lei que garante alteração do sexo de travestis transexuais em documentos sem a apresentação de qualquer atestado médico, isto acabou permitindo que na Argentina houvesse o primeiro casamento entre transexuais da história da América. A noiva, Karen Taborda, nasceu homem. O noivo, Alexis Bruselario nasceu mulher. O noivo casou grávido e teve seu ventre abençoado pelo Padre Católico Raúl Benedetti. Quando poderíamos imaginar esta cena no Brasil? Gênesis, o filho do casal, nasceu em Dezembro.
Ainda falando sobre travestis e transexuais, Buenos Aires conta com a primeira escola transexual do mundo, a “Escuela Mocha Celis de Buenos Aires”. Esta escola atende principalmente – mas não exclusivamente – travestis e transexuais maiores de 18 anos que queiram estudar e sair da prostituição. A escola têm 25 professores, metade deles é trans, 90 estudantes de diversas minorias sexuais e acreditem, 2 surdos Cis-héteros que se sentem melhor acolhidos na escola do que fora dela.
A Presidente Cristina Kirchner é adorava pela comunidade LGBT da Argentina, mas não é para menos, ela faz por merecer. Cristina Kirchner, em diversas oportunidades que teve demonstrou total apoio e respeito pela comunidade LGBT. Na ultima Parada Do Orgulho Gay em novembro de 2012 (“que é considerada “de interesse social, cultural e para a defesa dos direitos humanos” ) ela foi homenageada em gritos uníssonos pelas ruas de Buenos Aires. Além de defender o casamento igualitário desde a sua discussão no senado argentino, ter sido madrinha de batismo de um filho de um casal de lésbicas, Cristina fez algo mais notável, defendeu um garoto gay da oposição ano passado por conta de xingamentos que ele recebeu no twitter por conta de sua homossexualidade.
Devido à segurança que os homossexuais, travestis e transexuais sentem na Argentina, o país já se tornou rota de “refugiados” por orientação sexual; um casal gay russo realizou em fevereiro, em Buenos Aires, seu sonho de oficializar sua união e anunciou sua decisão de pedir asilo na Argentina, após fugir de seu país e denunciar a discriminação sofrida pelos coletivos homossexuais na Rússia. Alexander, de 47 anos, e Dimitri, de 35, se conheceram pela internet em sua Rússia natal e mantiveram dois anos de namoro até que decidiram sair do país para poder consumar seu amor perante a lei. “Estamos muito felizes por ter conseguido o que estávamos querendo fazer desde que nos conhecemos”, disse à imprensa Alexander, oriundo de Sochi, na porta do cartório civil em pleno centro da capital argentina.
Sem dúvida que ainda existe homofobia na Argentina, sobretudo no interior do país, mas as ações anti-homofobia existentes estão permitindo uma vida cada dia melhor aos LGBT argentinos, turistas e estrangeiros residentes. Minha ideia inicial era fazer um comparativo entre Brasil e Argentina, mas na verdade, já sabemos que o governo do Brasil não faz “propaganda de opções sexuais”. E a realidade brasileira nós conhecemos muito bem! Estamos perdendo por W.O, é bom pensarmos em entrar em campo!
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