Via Tricycle: The Buddhist Review \\\ Why Are We So Afraid to Fail?

Why Are We So Afraid to Fail? Three teachings on failure Tricycle: The Buddhist Review Jul 2   READ IN APP   Photo by Petr Sidorov “As a baby learns to walk, it keeps falling down. Is this failure?” Chan Master Sheng Yen asks in a teaching featured in the book Faith in Mind: A Guide to Ch’an Practice. Failure is a necessary part of life and practice, he says. We should not fear failure, but somewhere along the way, getting back up after falling might not come so easy. We might dread falling so much that we never take a step. Or, if we do stumble, the self-reproach might outweigh the actual event. As complex and deeply-rooted as a fear of failure may be, Buddhist wisdom offers many ways to loosen its hold. Among them is acceptance, or the commitment to stop resisting and start welcoming every action, result, and circumstance as it is. And it is a commitment, because acceptance challenges the overwhelming cultural expectation that we improve at every turn. But if we can let go of the self-improvement imperative, and see failure as a doorway instead of a wall, we might learn to celebrate it. This week’s Three Teachings shows us how “failure” is an opening—to learn, to go deeper, to change direction, or simply to find freedom in acceptance. How to Fail By Pema Chödrön American Buddhist nun and best-selling author Pema Chödrön, known for her many books, including When Things Fall Apart, encourages us to see failure as a portal. Get curious about your so-called failure, she says, because it’s where bravery, kindness, and compassion emerge. “It’s from that space that our best part of ourselves comes out. It’s in that space—when we aren’t masking ourselves or trying to make circumstances go away—that our best qualities begin to shine.” Read for FREE Being Natural By Master Sheng Yen In a compilation of teachings, Master Sheng Yen encourages practitioners to follow their original nature instead of resisting and questioning. Failure is natural, he says. Read more On Failure, Despair, Our Times, and the 1,000 Arms of the Bodhisattva of Great Compassion By Rafe Martin “Failure may come, but challenges can lead to greater commitment and greater skill,” Zen teacher Rafe Martin points out. “This, after all, is how the Great Bodhisattva got all those hands and eyes and mouths, too, to speak up for what’s good, and speak out about what’s wrong. It’s how we beginner bodhisattvas will do it too.” Read more