The
other night I made a post asking people who intended on voting for
Trump in this election to unfriend me on Facebook. This post created
some backlash and I’ve been accused of being unpatriotic, not having
respect for other opinions, not believing or understanding how Democracy
works and even not allowing other people to have an opinion different
from mine.
I’d like to say something.
I
grew up hiding who I was. I walked the halls of EVERY SINGLE
educational establishment in fear. In MeadowBrook Junior High it could
have been a swift punch on the shoulder while “Fucking faggot” was
whispered just loud enough that everyone but the teachers would hear.
One
night outside my dorm room in the Christian college of OVC a few guys
banged on my door and threatened “There’s no room for fucking faggots
here. You should go home where you belong."
In
the relative safety of progressive Athens, I once had a professor at
Ohio University openly mock my homosexuality in front of the entire
class. No one stood up for me, no one reprimanded the professor.
My
partner Bruno and I would never dream of holding hands in many places
in Athens. The other week we stopped at Walmart for window blinds and we
subconsciously kept a distance from each other. It would have been
foolish to invite trouble after having walked by all the pickup trucks
with Trump stickers on our way in.
So.
Here we are. I’m 40 years old and very likely will never feel
completely safe in this country that I love. It’s an election year. And
the party that Trump is representing would like to:
1. Take marriage back to only between a man and a woman.
2. Support adoption agencies that refuse same-sex couples
3. Affirm conversion therapy
4. Ban transgender people from their appropriate bathrooms
5. Support “Religious Freedom” for businesses to refuse service to LGBTQ customers
So, when I ask that you remove me from your “friends” list on Facebook and it upsets you? Let me tell you something.
1. Not being able to marry upsets me.
2. Not being able to adopt upsets me.
3. Being told I can “pray the gay away” by a therapist upsets me.
4. Having friends harassed for going to the bathroom upsets me.
5. Being turned away from the grocery store because I’m gay upsets me.
And you're upset because I don’t want to be friends with someone who supports this discrimination?
CRY ME A FUCKING RIVER.
I
understand completely how Democracy works. Whoever is elected president
will be my president. I’ll be glad I voted either way.
You
are more than in your right to vote proudly for who you want. And I’m
more than in my right to decide we aren’t going to be friends because of
it.
I
can respect your opinion but when your opinion is that I don’t have the
human right to marry, well, how much respect do you think would be
adequate? Should I gleefully drive you to the polls so you can vote to
strip away my human rights? Should I pour a glass of champagne for you
when I’m told I can’t buy bread from the bakery because the owner
doesn’t agree with my lifestyle? Oh, I guess you’ll have to buy the
champagne since that wine shop has a “NO GAYS SERVED” sign in the
window. My bad!
So
how about this: If it bothers you that I don’t want to be your BFF
after you proudly stake that Trump/Pence sign in your yard then I
suggest you get over it.
Because trust me, I already have.
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