Via Daily Dharma: The Three Most Basic Fears

Every negative emotion, every drama, comes down to one or more of the three most basic fears: the fear of losing safety and control, the fear of aloneness and disconnection, and the fear of unworthiness.

—Ezra Bayda, “The Three Things We Fear Most"

Harvey Fierstein with Barbara Walters on 20/20 (1983)

Via Scientific American: Homophobes Might Be Hidden Homosexuals

A new analysis of implicit bias and explicit sexual orientation statements may help to explain the underpinnings of anti-gay bullying and hate crimes

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Homophobes should consider a little self-reflection, suggests a new study finding those individuals who are most hostile toward gays and hold strong anti-gay views may themselves have same-sex desires, albeit undercover ones.

The prejudice of homophobia may also stem from authoritarian parents, particularly those with homophobic views as well, the researchers added.

"This study shows that if you are feeling that kind of visceral reaction to an out-group, ask yourself, 'Why?'" co-author Richard Ryan, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, said in a statement. "Those intense emotions should serve as a call to self-reflection."

The research, published in the April 2012 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, reveals the nuances of prejudices like homophobia, which can ultimately have dire consequences. [The 10 Most Destructive Human Behaviors]

"Sometimes people are threatened by gays and lesbians because they are fearing their own impulses, in a sense they 'doth protest too much,'" Ryan told LiveScience. "In addition, it appears that sometimes those who would oppress others have been oppressed themselves, and we can have some compassion for them too, they may be unaccepting of others because they cannot be accepting of themselves."

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Via Daily Dharma: Create a Sacred Space

Most of us cannot afford a separate room for zazen [Zen meditation], but all of us can make a corner sacred.

—Robert Aitken, “Setting Up Your Home Altar”

Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - October 22, 2017

One doesn’t have to beat down one’s ego for God. That isn’t the way it works. The ego isn’t in the way. It’s how we are holding the ego. It is much better to just do the spiritual practices and open to God and love God and trust your intuitive heart. As the transformation happens, the ego then becomes this beautiful instrument that’s available to you to deal with the world. It’s not in the way anymore.  

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Via Daily Dharma: Buddhism in a Shell

Buddhism is nothing other than a set of practices to open up the mysteries of the human heart.

—Reggie Ray, “Looking Inward, Seeing Outward”

Via Daily Dharma: Don't Confuse Awakening with Bliss

There may be bliss with awakening, because it is actually a by-product of awakening, but it is not awakening itself. As long as we are chasing the byproducts of awakening, we will miss the real thing.

—Adyashanti, “Bliss Is a By-Product”

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Via Daily Dharma: Do You Know Where to Look for Spiritual Awareness?

There is always a need for experience and knowledge rooted in traditions, but it is not a spiritual given that these are the places where peace, union, and spiritual awareness are found.

—bell hooks, “Waking Up to Racism”

Via Lionsroar / Buddhist author George Saunders wins Man Booker Prize for “Lincoln in the Bardo”

George Saunders has won the Man Booker Prize — awarded for the best original novel published in the UK — for his novel Lincoln in the Bardo. Saunders is a Buddhist, and his novel is based on the idea of bardo, the Tibetan Buddhist concept of a state between death and life.

The book tells the story of Abraham Lincoln visiting the crypt of his son, William, who died at age 11. In an interview, Saunders told Lion’s Roar editor-in-chief Melvin McLeod:

“I’d been reading some Buddhist texts and was aware of the bardo as a sort of transitional state between the moment when you die and the moment you’re reincarnated. That struck me as an interesting way to destabilize the usual ghost story.”

On announcing the award, Baroness Lola Young, chair of the Man Booker Prize, said, “The form and style of this utterly original novel reveals a witty, intelligent, and deeply moving narrative.”
Young said that Lincoln in the Bardo stood out from the other books shortlisted for the prize, “because of its innovation – its very different styling and the way in which it paradoxically brought to life these not-quite-dead souls in this other world.”


In 2014, Saunders gave a convocation speech at Syracuse University that went viral and was adapted into a book. Shortly afterward, he spoke with McLeod, and explained how Buddhism comes into his writing:

“In my writing work, I’ve noticed that if you do anything with real intensity, and with a real interest in the truth of the matter, then it ends up being dharmic somehow. If you’re really, really interested in the truth, then you’ll end up with something that looks and feels very much like dharma.”

The Man Booker is widely regarded as one of the top prizes in fiction, assuring success and renown for its winners.


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Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - October 18, 2017

When you look back at the suffering in your own life, each time you would have avoided it if you possibly could. And yet, when you look at the depth of your character now, isn’t part of that a product of those experiences? Weren’t those experiences part of what created the depth of your inner being?

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Via Daily Dharma: Don't Mix Rigidity with Meditation

Global rules, where you have to do the same thing in all instances, are not as helpful as rules that have specific contexts in which they are used.

—Jason Siff, “The Problem with Meditation Instructions”

Via Daily Dharma: Mind the Gap (between Object and Mind)

Nonself only begins to be clear when the illusion of seamlessness disappears and we experience the gaps in the continuity, when we actually see the mind and its object arising and dying together from instant to instant.

—Cynthia Thatcher, “Disconnected the Dots”

Via Daily Dharma: Struggle Can Lead to Future Courage

For anyone working to become more courageous, suffering can become an ideal source of growth. An indolent life without hardship of any kind is just like an empty ship, easily overturned by a storm.

—Khenpo Sodargye, “Working through Suffering”

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Via Daily Dharma: Learn When to Quit

Strange as it may seem, stopping is as much an important aspect of practice as starting.

—Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, “The Aim of Attention”

Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - October 15, 2017

To see through the veil of what our senses and thinking minds make real, to the true self, feels often like the highest aspiration of humanity. When we do this, it’s as if we find our rightful place in the order of things. We begin to recognize a harmony that’s been waiting for us to feel and once we do this, it’s not only for the life hereafter or some abstract thing for later, it’s for now, and for the way in which we live our lives day by day.

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Via Ram Dass / Words of Wisdom - October 11, 2017

Being peacefully in relationship to everything made me realize that my happiness isn’t based on the situation being 'this way' or 'that way' – my happiness is one which embraces my sadness, and my love is one which embraces my own hate…

- Ram Dass -

Via Daily Dharma: Meditation Off the Cushion

When I put so much stock in formal meditation, I forget that it’s only one way of helping me see the magic that surrounds me and that is me.

—Barry Evans, “I Like It ...but Is It Meditation?”