A personal blog by a graying (mostly Anglo with light African-American roots) gay left leaning liberal progressive married college-educated Buddhist Baha'i BBC/NPR-listening Professor Emeritus now following the Dharma in Minas Gerais, Brasil.
Whatever you intend, whatever you plan, and whatever you have a tendency toward, that will become the basis on which your mind is established. (SN 12.40) Develop meditation on lovingkindness, for when you develop meditation on lovingkindness, all ill will will be abandoned. (MN 62)
The function of lovingkindness is preferring welfare. (Vm 9.93)
Reflection
Kindness is a habit, like everything else in our emotional range. It can be learned and reinforced and cultivated, or it can be neglected, abandoned, and suppressed. Why not practice kindness by fostering the welfare of all beings, including yourself? Like any habit, it takes time and patience to interrupt the reflex to blame and hate and to install the new patterns of thought and behavior. But it can be done. So let’s do it!
Daily Practice
Lovingkindness can be invoked at any time. Look for opportunities to think kindly of other people, to wish them well, and to soften your heart. Do this especially as an antidote if you feel yourself going in the other direction and feeling ill will toward someone. Lovingkindness and ill will cannot coexist in a single mind moment, so you always have a choice to feel friendly or feel hostile in any situation. May you choose wisely.
Tomorrow: Refraining from False Speech One week from today: Cultivating Compassion
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What We Gain When We Learn to Let Go By Gil Fronsdal
While the Buddhist practice of letting go can be extremely beneficial, the practice can be even more significant when we also learn to let go intosomething valuable.
RIGHT VIEW Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering
When people have met with
suffering and become victims of suffering, they come to me and ask me
about the noble truth of suffering. Being asked, I explain to them the
noble truth of suffering. (MN 77) What is suffering? (MN 9)
Sickness is suffering. (MN 9)
Reflection
While nobody
would wish illness on another person, times of ill health or affliction
are often excellent opportunities for practice. The scope of our
experience contracts, sometimes to a very small point of breathing in
and out, or to a specific part of the body that is in pain. Illness and
affliction focus our attention and force us to abandon much that is
taken for granted in times of health. This is where we all come face to
face with suffering.
Daily Practice
Scan your body
with your awareness and check in to see if there is anywhere you are
experiencing pain or discomfort. Few of us are entirely free of any
instance of distress. Rather than trying to overlook or avoid the
discomfort, turn your attention deliberately to it. There is something
to learn here, something to see and understand. If you can’t find any
pain, be grateful for that.
Tomorrow: Cultivating Lovingkindness One week from today: Understanding the Noble Truth of the Origin of Suffering
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Letting
go is not a dramatic moment we build up to some time in the future. It
is happening now, in the present moment—it is not singular but ongoing.
Letting go is based on our present realization of the reality of
impermanence.
The Power of the Third Moment By Trungram Gyalwa Rinpoche
The
look you gave the driver who cut you off. The email you shouldn’t have
sent. Trungram Gyalwa Rinpoche explains a method to help us recognize
harmful emotions in the moment—and let them go.
RIGHT MINDFULNESS Establishing Mindfulness of Mental Objects
A person goes to the forest
or to the root of a tree or to an empty place and sits down. Having
crossed the legs, one sets the body erect. One establishes the presence
of mindfulness. (MN 10) One is aware: "Ardent, fully aware, mindful, I
am content." (SN 47.10)
When ill will is internally present, one is aware: "Ill will is
present for me." When ill will is not present, one is aware: "Ill will
is not present for me." When the arising of unarisen ill will occurs,
one is aware of that. And when the abandoning of arisen ill will occurs,
one is aware of that. . . . One is just aware, just mindful: "There is a
mental object." And one abides not clinging to anything in the world.
(MN 10)
Reflection
The second of
the five hindrances is ill will, which, like the first hindrance, sense
desire, is a mental state that arises and passes away from time to time.
Highlighting this factor in the swirl of experience and noticing when
it is present and when it is not helps us realize that the annoyance we
often feel is a fleeting phenomenon. This in turn gives us the ability
to abandon that annoyance. We need not give in to it.
Daily Practice
Annoyance is a
good way of practicing with ill will, because it is a mild form of it.
Anger, hatred, and fear are more charged and thus more difficult to work
with. See if you can notice when you are annoyed and also when you are
not. See how annoyance is just a state that arises and therefore is a
state you can let go of. Instead of holding on to the justification for
the annoyance, see if you can just let it go and "abide without
clinging."
RIGHT CONCENTRATION Approaching and Abiding in the Fourth Phase of Absorption (4th Jhāna)
With the abandoning of pleasure
and pain, and with the previous disappearance of joy and grief, one
enters into and abides in the fourth phase of absorption, which has
neither-pain-nor-pleasure and purity of mindfulness as a result of
equanimity. The concentrated mind is thus purified, bright, unblemished,
rid of imperfection, malleable, wieldy, steady, and attained to
imperturbability. (MN 4)
Reflection
This state of
mind is the culmination of the four stages of absorption and represents
the consummation of the meditative enterprise of focused, one-pointed
awareness. With the mind thus purified of its imperfections it is
capable of seeing clearly, and by becoming "malleable" and "wieldy" it
can be used as a tool to penetrate the many distortions and delusions
that normally prevent us from understanding the true nature of things.
Daily Practice
Allow your
Sunday sitting meditation to slowly and gently mellow into a profound
state of equanimity. The mind is steady and bright but also
imperturbable in the sense that there is nothing in your inner or outer
experience that is going to evoke an episode of yearning or aversion.
Equanimity is balance, an evenly hovering attention. Notice also in this
passage that equanimity is said to be the means of purifying
mindfulness.
Tomorrow: Understanding the Noble Truth of Suffering One week from today: Establishing Mindfulness of Body and Abiding in the First Jhāna
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On this date a sociologist at an Iranian university presented a study showing high levels of homosexual experiences among the country's population.
Iran has strict laws against sex outside marriage and other sexual acts
such as masturbation. Adultery and same-sex acts are punishable by
death. Startling new research from sociologist Parvaneh Abdul Maleki
found that 24% of Iranian women and 16% of Iranian men have had at least
one homosexual experience. 73% of men and 26% of women surveyed said
they had masturbated.
Ms. Maleki presented her findings at the Third Conference on
Well-being in the Family and the story was reported in the Iranian
press, albeit as a report on sexual deviance in need of treatment. The
report also revealed that more than 75% of those who grew up in a
conservative religious environment have watched pornography, 86% have
had a heterosexual relationship outside of marriage and just over 4%
have had Gay or Lesbian relationships. Since Iran's Islamic revolution
in 1979, human rights groups claim that between 3,000 and 4,000 people
have been executed under Sharia law for the crime of homosexuality. The
President of Iran admitted in an interview that there may be "a few" gay
people in his country, but attacked homosexuality as destructive to
society.
In an interview with U.S. current affairs TV program Democracy Now,
Mahmoud Ahmadinejad also rejected criticism of the execution of
children in Iran. During a visit to the U.S. in 2007 he said in reply to
a question posed about homosexuality during his speech at New York's
Columbia University: "In Iran we don't have homosexuals like in your
country… In Iran we do not have this phenomenon, I don't know who has
told you that we have it." In his TV interview he condemned American
acceptance of gay people. "It should be of no pride to American society
to say they defend something like this," President Ahmadinejad said.
"Just because some people want to get votes, they are willing to
overlook every morality."
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