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Wednesday, May 3, 2023
Via Dhamma Wheel | Right Speech: Refraining from Harsh Speech
Harsh speech is unhealthy.
Refraining from harsh speech is healthy. (MN 9) Abandoning harsh speech,
one refrains from harsh speech. One speaks words that are gentle,
pleasing to the ear, and affectionate, words that go to the heart, are
courteous, and are agreeable to many. (DN 1) One practices thus: “Others
may speak harshly, but I shall abstain from harsh speech.” (MN 8)
When one speaks hurriedly, one’s body grows tired and one’s mind becomes
excited, one’s voice is strained and one’s throat becomes hoarse, and
the speech of one who speaks hurriedly is indistinct and hard to
understand. (MN 139)
Reflection
This is a
simple and straightforward suggestion for how to speak more effectively.
Hurried speech is a form of harsh speech and is to be abandoned
whenever possible. When you look, you can see how strained people can
get when they rush their words, and you know what this feels like when
you do it. Speedy action of body, speech, or mind supports restlessness,
while taking your time is conducive to calming body and mind.
Daily Practice
Put this
guideline for right speech into action today and see what effect it has
on your mind and body and on the people with whom you speak. Slow down
your speech. Take your time to say what you mean with care. See if you
can craft words that “go to the heart” rather than speaking harshly.
Notice also when the speech of others is indistinct or hard to
understand, and learn from this the effect of your own speech.
Tomorrow: Reflecting upon Mental Action One week from today: Refraining from Frivolous Speech
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