Via JMG: UNSHOCKING: Study Shows "Ex-Gay" Mormons Have Very High Divorce Rate

 

Via the Salt Lake Tribune:

The LDS couples profiled on TLC’s "My Husband Is Not Gay" may find these statistics sobering: Marriages like theirs — same-sex attracted husbands and straight wives — are two to three times more likely to end in divorce than others. That finding and others come from a newly released in-depth survey of 1,612 self-selected LGBT/same-sex attracted Mormons and former Mormons, thought by researchers to be the largest study ever conducted with this population. Rather than tapping a random sample, John Dehlin, a doctoral student at Utah State University, and Bill Bradshaw, a retired Brigham Young University professor, with help from Renee Galliher, also of USU, solicited responses via various websites, including pro-Mormon outlets such as North Star International and those more critical such as Dehlin’s own "Mormon Stories" podcast. The study found that between 51 percent and 69 percent of mixed-orientation Mormon marriages end in divorce, well above the roughly 25 percent of LDS couples who split up.

Mind-blowing, huh?

Labels: ex-gay, LDS, Mormons, religion

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Via Huffington: How to Respond When Someone Asks You to Stop Flaunting Your Homosexuality Online

"Why does everything with you have to be so gay?" the chat box bleeped in the lower right corner of my screen. It was someone I once knew from my conservative hometown, a place I've scarcely shown my face in two decades.

Social media has returned people to our lives that ought not be there. With our fancy phones, the past is lurking right there in your pocket. Everyone with whom you've ever crossed paths is somewhere behind a screen liking a picture of your salad or making passive aggressive hashtag judgements on your posts.

Of course these naysayers can blocked, but that often happens after you realize that you assembled the worst online party of all time. Your parents. Your old youth pastor. Drag queens. Porn stars.

Clarence. (He may not be named Clarence in your world, but you know who I'm talking about. That friend.) So, like many of us, I went through a great Facebook purge. A Duck Dynasty meme?

Unfriend. A pro-Sarah Palin reference? Delete. A cross-stiched, Bible verse jpeg about men lying with men? Actually, that's amazing and I want it on a T-shirt.

I then realized these people need my voice in their lives. Homophobic views thrive in the absence of actual homosexuals. And worse yet, I'll end up as the person they are referring to when they say, "I have tons of gay friends, but..."

So, I've been allowing some reconnections with my fundamentalist Christian past.

"I mean, I don't care about your sexuality, but does everything you talk about have to be gay?" this old friend typed. In all fairness, I do let it rip on Twitter and Facebook. I've always been somewhat of a button pusher; on my conservative friends' feeds, I probably seem a sort of "Richard Simmons After Dark," if you will.

This "stop flaunting it" sentiment really gets my big gay goat. Being gay isn't some weird hobby. It's not a penis fetish. (Don't get me wrong, I'm a fan.) It's who I am. My sexuality runs a thread through every part of my being, just as it does for all people both gay and straight.

Every straight-person-post about date night, engagements and babies is a display of heterosexuality. That weird selfie of the two of them peck kissing at Applebee's? Blatant display of straightness. A "Which Romantic Comedy Are You" quiz? They got The Notebook. I got Showgirls. My point is, we are all expressing our sexuality non-stop in sometimes bold, but more often subtle, ways.

I was taking a stroll with a seemingly progressive friend here in Nashville. There was a lesbian couple nearby holding hands -- a sight that's becoming fairly common in larger southern cities. My friend made an out-of-character comment that they were trying to "make a statement." I suggested they quite possibly might just be holding hands. Many straight people -- even allies -- are used to gays being shamed into discretion. If we behave with the same emotional freedom as they it could initially come off to them as an inappropriate display.

It might seem like flaunting, but it's simply humans acting like humans.

I'm tired of being an ambassador. I'm tired of being the understanding one, but it's the position I'm in. It's the position you are in. So next time it's suggested you tone it down, give our straight brothers and sisters an understanding pardon, then turn it up. They will never relax if we cater to uncomfortable sensibilities. As for me, my social media feed will continue to flame and sparkle, and if you don't like it, there's my backdoor. And I mean that in the gayest way possible.

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Iranian in Yemen Accused of Promoting Bahá'í Faith

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Iranian in Yemen Accused of Promoting Bahá'í Faith - For Israel

Iranian man charged with spreading pacifistic, universalist religion to benefit its world headquarters in Haifa.

An Iranian living in Yemen has been charged with promoting the Bahá'í Faith and trying to convert residents of the Muslim country for Israel's benefit, state news agency Saba reported Monday.

The man, arrested last year in Mukalla, southeast Yemen, had tried between 1991 and 2014 to "lure some Yemenis into abandoning Islam to follow this alleged faith", according to the charge sheet, quoted by Saba.

He was named as Hamid Mirza Kamali Sarustani, 51, and had allegedly used a false identity to conduct private businesses in Yemen.

"He worked with a foreign country, Israel, through its (Baha'i) Universal House of Justice that serves its interests, to proselytize Bahaism in Yemen," the prosecution said. The Universal House of Justice is the faith's supreme governing body, which is based in the Mediterranean city of Haifa, in northern Israel.

The prosecution said Sarustani used money to lure impoverished Yemenis into conversions and distributed Bahá'í material through the Internet and at gatherings.

His case has been referred to a special penal court in Sanaa, Saba said.

The Bahá'í faith, which believes in equality among religions and between men and women, faces persecution in several Middle Eastern countries. Bahá'ís consider Baha'ú'lláh, an Iranian born in 1817, to be the latest prophet sent by God, a major divergence from Islamic orthodoxy. 

Around 250 Baha'is live in Yemen, where they are allowed to practice their faith freely, a Baha'i organization told AFP. 

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Flor do Dia - Flor del Día - Flower of the Day - 13/01/2015

“A sua inclinação para a Verdade precisa ser renovada a cada instante, o que requer um tanto de força de vontade desenvolvida. Porém, muitas vezes você já desenvolveu força de vontade, mas ela está sendo utilizada para satisfazer vícios, alimentar emoções negativas ou satisfazer caprichos do ego. A energia é a mesma, mas está sendo utilizada pela natureza inferior. Nesse caso é preciso inverter a direção do fluxo da energia, ou seja, é preciso redirecionar os vetores da vontade. Para isso eu sugiro a prática de algum tipo de austeridade, que pode variar de acordo com a história de cada um. Mas, independentemente do seu caso específico, eu recomendo para todos a prática diária do silêncio, nem que seja por períodos curtos de tempo.”

“Tu inclinación hacia la Verdad necesita ser renovada a cada instante, lo que requiere un tanto de fuerza de voluntad ya desarrollada. Sin embargo, muchas veces ya desarrollaste fuerza de voluntad, pero ella está siendo utilizada para satisfacer vicios, alimentar emociones negativas o satisfacer caprichos del ego. La energía es la misma, pero está siendo utilizada por la naturaleza inferior. En ese caso, es necesario invertir la dirección del flujo de la energía, o sea, es necesario re-direccionar los vectores de la voluntad. Para eso sugiero la práctica de algún tipo de austeridad, que puede variar de acuerdo con la historia de cada uno. Pero independientemente de tu caso específico, recomiendo para todos la práctica diaria del silencio, aunque sea por períodos cortos de tiempo.”

“Our commitment to the truth must be constantly renewed at every instance, which requires having developed a certain level of willpower. Oftentimes we have already developed willpower, but it’s being used to satisfy addictions, fuel negative emotions, or satisfy the ego’s whims. The energy is the same, but it is being used by our lower self. In this case, the direction of the energy flow must be inverted, meaning we must redirect the vectors of our willpower. To do so, I suggest you practice some kind of austerity, which can vary based on each person’s story. Regardless of your specific case, I recommend that everyone engage in the daily practice of silence, even if it’s only for short periods of time.”   

- Sri Prem Baba

Via Daily Dharma

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A Simple Thing | January 13, 2015

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It's a simple thing, the feeling of a job well done. There's a workman-like quality that depends, I'm sure, on the same sensibility that makes the tea ceremony work, that kind of ritual of doing some simple task over and over again. It's not a big thing, but it's strong and important.

- Jerry Garcia, "Jerry Garcia"

Via JMG: FLASHBACK: That Time In 1958 When The Supreme Court Ruled On Gay Rights

Via the Los Angeles Times:

The road to gay rights at the U.S. Supreme Court began not in San Francisco or New York, but in a small downtown Los Angeles office, where volunteer writers and editors in 1953 launched a new "magazine for homosexuals." ONE, as it was called, offered thoughtful articles, defiant editorials and none of the racy photos or sex ads often found in the gay press. "The first issue was sold in bars in the Los Angeles area for 25 cents, about the price of a draft beer," said Michael C. Oliveira, an archivist at the magazine's archives housed at the USC Library. Yet in an era when FBI Director J. Edgar Hoover was routing out "sex deviates" from the government and homosexuality was a crime in every state, the journal quickly drew negative attention, culminating with a U.S. Post Office ban of the magazine as "obscene." The cover story of the first issue censored by the postmaster proved decades ahead of its time, asking "Homosexual Marriage?" To the rescue came a young, straight California attorney fresh out of law school.

Hit the link for the rest. Fascinating story.

Labels: freedom of speech, LGBT History, SCOTUS

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Via JMG: Ho-Hum, Yet Another "Ex-Gay" Former Exodus Leader Comes Out As Gay

In what has become a fairly routine event, yet another "ex-gay" leader has decided that he was kidding himself. Today it's Randy Thomas, former Exodus International vice president and self-described "ex-gay poster boy." He writes:

Whether anyone cares, pays attention, approves, disapproves, friends or unfriends me isn’t the point. The point is that I need to stay true to how I am wired, be honest, and consistent with what I believe to be true in this regard. Writing this post is something I need to do as a part of taking personal responsibility for my past journey and being honest in my present reality. My love for Jesus and His finished work on the Cross is unwavering, and stronger than ever. I am as saved today as I was the moment I believed in, and received Him as my Lord and Savior. He rose from the dead to open the door to reconciliation with God and eternal Life. I’ve already walked through that door. He is in my heart. None of that changes regardless of my sexuality or my all-to-human musings. It doesn’t change because it’s all on Him and He never changes. He loves me, I know it. He loves you, is not angry with you, and I hope you know that truth.

Thomas says he hasn't had sex in 24 years. He notes that he published an apology to the gay community back in 2013. Former Exodus leader Alan Chambers, who has also apologized, is among those participating in the comment thread at the top link. (Tipped by JMG reader Jasun)

Labels: brainwashing, coming out, ex-gay, Exodus International, LGBT rights, LGBT youth, Randy Thomas, religion

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Via JMG: South Dakota Turns Mustard

 

And the number of red states shrinks again.

 

BREAKING: South Dakota Marriage Ban Struck Down, Ruling Has Been Stayed

 

Read the ruling. From its conclusion:

In Loving, the Supreme Court addressed a traditionally accepted definition of marriage that prohibited Mildred Jeter and Richard Loving from marrying. Because Virginia’s laws deprived that couple of their fundamental right to marriage, the Court struck down those laws. Little distinguishes this case from Loving. Plaintiffs have a fundamental right to marry. South Dakota law deprives them of that right solely because they are same-sex couples and without sufficient justification. Accordingly, it is ORDERED that plaintiffs’ motion for summary judgment (Docket 20) is granted, and defendants’ motion for summary judgment (Docket 43) is denied.

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED that SDCL 25-1-1, SDCL 25-1-38, Article 21, § 9 of the South Dakota Constitution, and any other provision of state law that precludes people from marrying, or refuses to recognize an existing marriage, solely because the individuals are of the same gender are unconstitutional because they violate the Due Process Clause and the Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment.

IT IS FURTHER ORDERED that defendants are enjoined from enforcing those laws or otherwise declining to issue a marriage license solely because the applicants are of the same gender. IT IS FURTHER ORDERED that a separate judgment will be entered and the effects of that judgment will be stayed until the judgment is final.

Labels: LGBT rights, marriage equality, South Dakota

Reposted from Joe Jervis

Flor do Dia - Flor del Día - Flower of the Day - 12/01/2015

“É importante tomar consciência dos hábitos e condutas que te conectam com a crueldade no seu dia a dia. Porque é a crueldade (ou maldade) que rebaixa sua consciência. O que te derruba? Qual é a porta que você abre? Dica: Não importa se o sintoma é físico ou emocional (psicológico), o que te derruba é um vício. Pode ser um alimento, uma droga, um hábito, ou até um pensamento - todo vício é uma porta de entrada para o mau.”

“Es importante tomar conciencia de los hábitos y conductas que te conectan con la crueldad en tu día a día. Porque es la crueldad (o maldad) lo que rebaja tu conciencia. ¿Qué es lo que te derriba? ¿Cuál es la puerta que tú abres? Una pista: no importa si el síntoma es físico o emocional (psicológico), lo que te derriba es un vicio. Puede ser un alimento, una droga, un hábito o incluso un pensamiento – todo vicio es una puerta de entrada al mal.”

“It’s important to become aware of the habits and behaviors that connect us to cruelty in our day-to-day lives, as cruelty, or evil, is what lowers our consciousness. What brings us down? Which doors do we open? I’ll give you a hint: it doesn’t matter whether the symptoms are physical, emotional or psychological, what knocks us down is an addiction. This addiction may either be to food, drugs, a habit, or even a thought – all addictions are an entryway for evil”.

- Sri Prem Baba

Via Daily Dharma

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A Moment of Wakefulness | January 12, 2015

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Every mindful moment in which generosity displaces greed, compassion takes the place of hatred, and insight dislodges delusion is a moment in which we are awake.

- Andrew Olendzki, "A Tough But Not Impossible Act to Follow"

Flor do Dia - Flor del Día - Flower of the Day - 11/01/2015

“Muitos buscadores procuram saber sobre técnicas tântricas de controle da energia sexual para faze-la subir pela coluna e abrir os chakras. Mas, aqui eu proponho uma reflexão: Quem em você quer controlar a energia? E para quê? É fato que ao praticar essas técnicas você pode adquirir certos “poderes”, mas é importante compreender a serviço de quem eles serão usados. Para que você quer ter poder?”

Confira o satsang completo: bit.ly/prembaba01

“Muchos buscadores buscan saber sobre técnicas tántricas de control de la energía sexual para hacerla subir por la columna y abrir los chakras. Pero aquí propongo una reflexión: ¿Quién en ti quiere controlar la energía? ¿Y para qué? Es un hecho que al practicar esas técnicas puedes adquirir ciertos “poderes”, pero es importante comprender al servicio de quién ellos serán usados. ¿Para qué quieres tener poder? ”

“Many seekers search to learn about Tantric techniques of controlling sexual energy in order for it to rise up through the spine and open the chakras. But I propose we reflect on the following: Who inside of us wants to control this energy? For what purpose? It is a fact that by using these techniques, we can acquire certain ‘powers’, but it is important to understand at the service of whom they will be used. Why do we want to have this power?”

- Sri Prem Baba

Via Daily Dharma

An Improper Definition of Sangha | January 11, 2015 Everyone I meet is in my sangha. I don’t know if that’s the proper definition, but that’s the way I’m going to hold it in my mind. - Jeff Bridges, "The Natural"

Via BBC Three Counties Radio

Post by BBC Three Counties Radio.

Iain Lee tries a simple experiment to see if the public have a problem with people being openly gay.

You might have heard 23 year-old Nick telling Iain how humiliated he felt when he was subjected to a torrent of homophobic abuse by a woman who followed him off the train.

What really shocked Iain was when Nick went on to say he's used to being insulted by strangers offended by him holding hands with his boyfriend in public...not kissing, smooching or cuddling...just holding hands.

So we decided to conduct a little experiment. — with Iain Lee.

Via AliYoussefiMusic: UNITE

 

Publicado em 1 de jan de 2015

Music composed and produced by Ali Youssefi
Text from the Bahá’í Sacred writings

“Unite and bind together the hearts, join in accord all the souls.
Oh Lord! Make these faces radiant through the light of Thy oneness”

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Special thanks to Mike Gannon, Ivan Mihoci for their tireless support, and to all the wonderful singers, without whose support this song would not be what it is.

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Katie Eckert
Melani Fedri
Michael Gannon
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Glenn Loe
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Elika Mahony
Tina Majongwe
Sanam Milani
Sheyda Peyman
Ella Piknjac
Katy Porray
Bayan Rasooly
Sohayla Reimer
Hannah Reimer
Alia Reimer
Katharina Reyhani
Charles Sawka
Linda Sawka
Asal Sinanović
Dania Tanović
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Via JMG: Obamacare Ad Stars Married Gay Couple / Jake and Allen's Story

Dilma quer lei para criminalizar a homofobia

Uma das prioridades da presidente Dilma neste segundo mandato será aprovar uma lei que torne crime a homofobia; religiosos são contra a proposta; pesquisa feita pelo Grupo Gay da Bahia apontou que pelo menos 312 gays, lésbicas e travestis brasileiros foram assassinados em 2013, uma média de um homicídio a cada 28 horas; a entidade estima que 99% dessas mortes foram motivadas por homofobia; a investigação obrigatória para mortes consequentes de ações com policiais também deverá ser outra prioridade do atual governo.

247 - Uma das prioridades da presidente Dilma Rousseff (PT) neste segundo mandato será aprovar uma lei que torne crime a homofobia. Líderes religiosos são contra a proposta. A investigação obrigatória para mortes consequentes de ações com policiais também deverá ser outra prioridade do atual governo.

Assim como existe a Maria da Penha para a violência contra a mulher, a presidente Dilma quer implantar uma lei específica para homofobia, segundo ministros entrevistados pela Folha.

Um projeto de criminalização da homofobia está em debate há oito anos no Senado, porém será arquivado por tramitar há mais de duas legislaturas, como prevê o regimento.

Entidades que lutam pelos direitos dos homossexuais como a ABGLT e o Grupo Gay da Bahia consideraram o arquivamento "um desastre". Esses movimentos querem que a homofobia seja equiparada ao crime de racismo. Segundo pesquisa feita pelo Grupo Gay da Bahia, pelo menos 312 gays, lésbicas e travestis brasileiros foram assassinados em 2013, o que representa uma média de um homicídio a cada 28 horas e, ao mesmo tempo, uma queda de 7,7% em relação ao ano anterior. No entanto, a entidade estima que 99% dessas mortes foram motivadas por homofobia. 

A outra proposta do governo federal diz respeito a um projeto que prevê investigação pela de todas as mortes por policiais. Um relatório do Fórum Brasileiro de Segurança Pública apontou, em novembro do ano passado, que os policiais brasileiros mataram uma média de seis pessoas por dia entre 2009 e 2013. Foram pelo menos menos 11.197 mortes provocados por policiais nesses cinco anos.

O número de mortes nesse período supera o da polícia dos Estados Unidos, que, ao ongo de 30 anos, matou 11.090 pessoas. "Elas (as mortes) não são investigadas, o que incentiva a ilegalidade policial", afirma o deputado Paulo Teixeira (PT-SP), um dos autores do projeto.

http://www.brasil247.com/pt/247/brasil/166169/Dilma-quer-lei-para-criminalizar-a-homofobia.htm

Flor do Dia - Flor del Día - Flower of the Day - 10/01/2015

“Ao tomar consciência de que há uma parte em você escolhendo sofrer, você está próximo do ponto de virada. Durante uma fase do processo de cura, é importante identificar os seus sentimentos negativos e reconhecer que existe prazer no sofrimento. Na medida em que vai ampliando a consciência, você percebe que isso é apenas um sistema de defesa criado para te proteger das dores geradas pelos choques de exclusão e abandono que viveu. Alguns se defendem através da arrogância, outros através da vaidade, da luxúria, da avareza, da gula... Tudo isso faz parte do processo de evolução da consciência humana, mas em algum momento você precisa compreender porque você precisou desenvolver determinada camada de proteção, pois também faz parte da cura entrar em contato com a dor primordial que está escondida por trás dela.”

Acesse o satsang completo: bit.ly/1xKRYP6

“Al tomar conciencia de que hay una parte en ti eligiendo sufrir, estás cerca del punto de giro. Durante una fase del proceso de cura, es importante identificar tus sentimientos negativos y reconocer que existe placer en el sufrimiento. En la medida en que vas ampliando la conciencia, percibes que eso es solo un sistema de defensa creado para protegerte de los dolores generados por los shocks de exclusión y abandono que viviste. Algunos se defienden a través de la arrogancia, otros a través de la vanidad, de la lujuria, de la avaricia, de la gula…Todo esto es parte del proceso de evolución de la conciencia humana, pero en algún momento necesitas comprender por qué necesitaste desarrollar determinada capa de protección, pues también es parte de la cura entrar en contacto con el dolor primordial que está escondido por detrás de ella.”

“When we become aware that there is a part of us that chooses to suffer, we are close to a turning point. During one phase of the healing process, it is important for us to identify our negative feelings and to recognize the pleasure we feel in suffering. As our consciousness expands, we come to realize that this is merely a defense mechanism created to protect us from the pain generated by the shocks of exclusion and abandonment we experienced. Some people use arrogance to defend themselves, others use vanity, lust, greed, gluttony, and so forth. This is all part of the evolutionary process of human consciousness. At some point, we must understand why we needed to develop a certain layer of protection, because getting in touch with the primordial pain hidden behind it is also part of the healing work.”

- Sri Prem Baba

Via Daily Dharma

Compassion Demands Engagement | January 10, 2015 When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into its dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment, or awakening to our true nature, to our fundamental goodness. - Pema Chödrön, "The Fundamental Ambiguity of Being Human"

Via ॐ Thich Nhat Hanh Quote Collective ॐ / FB:

I have arrived
I am home
In the Here
In the now
I am Solid
I am free
In the ultimate I dwell..

--Thich Nhat Hanh--